Patrice Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Does anybody have any knowledge of Attachment Disorders in adult males and their inability to keep connected in a relationship?
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Does anybody have any knowledge of Attachment Disorders in adult males and their inability to keep connected in a relationship? I am not sure what you mean by attachment disorder, is that like being emotionally unavailable?
Author Patrice Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 No, it's an actual diagnosis .. stems from lack of parental attachment in the early years, and can travel into adult relationships .. Generally, characteristics include, lack of committment, trust and weird ways to avoid getting committed.
darkmoon Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 derived from poor development of the brain's synapses in childhood; the only things that i can usefully say are to: A/ look out for stable ppl cuz you're likely to take longer to settle due to that poor development and: B/anger issues and poor bonding in general can get better in time with practise and: C/ confidence can be a problem the cure is to get a track record of being ok at something or even good at it to see what you can really be John Bowlby, psycholgist, wrote much on it in the 1930's in a 3 piece paperback bookset still on sale only OP and i might really know the inner demon that is attachment disorder
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 No, it's an actual diagnosis .. stems from lack of parental attachment in the early years, and can travel into adult relationships .. Generally, characteristics include, lack of committment, trust and weird ways to avoid getting committed. Ah ok I am not familiar with that. To be honest it sounds like something that is best avoided rather than spend time trying to fix. Life is too short to wait around for somebody to get better, it's not your job or mine or anyone elses to repair somebody who is broken while getting mistreated along the way. 1
Author Patrice Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 Great read, I agree ... I know there are therapies out there to correct it .. but the person needs to admit they have a problem.
darkmoon Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 ok, but get a therapist that can take you to where you want or get your money back i have seen that a client needs to look at which therapist they are hiring, and cuz of the problems i had i was already as a perpetual child, which made me easy to push around so therapy can be ok but please do not hand over your reality to just any therapist some even upset the clients further much noted by several on this forum before now
Author Patrice Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 Well, I"m not the one with the disorder ... and I have training in counseling. Have been on and off involved with a man for two years .. I think this is the issue. He has told me his mother suffered from clinical depression and did not want to elaborate on the extent of the neglect. I'm just putting the puzzle pieces in place.
darkmoon Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 (edited) look i wrote a few pointers in a (hopefully) supportive and intimate way thinking you are the un-attached as it were, i trained in advertising so i'm straight to the point, but those three pointers are also an insider's must-see view of attachment disorder if the victim is your boyf, then you must be very very ploddy, cuz it just takes us a while longer than you to settle down > you must wait for him to bond with you it's not his fault but his parents' show him all this that i've been writing Edited April 21, 2012 by darkmoon
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