InJest Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Smoking weed increases blood flow and always makes harder than normal. It also makes it a lot easier to stay hard even after you cum. My old landlord who is in his 40s would come smoke a little with me right before he was going to have sex with someone a lot because of this too. This was the only time he would smoke weed.
mesmerized Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 I tried 'going slow' and holding off from sex, and the girl lost interest. Girls expect something sexual after the third date. But maybe I SHOULD keep tryin to take things slow in a new relationship. If the girl doesn't like it, she will leave, and I will be spared the sexual performance insult. To make matters more confusing between me and girls I meet, I am a good kisser. Lol. I have been told that many times. I am sensual and a good kisser. So they expect porno type sex, and they get disappointed. Maybe. I'll be honest, most men suck in bed. So I wouldn't feel too bad. Chances are you are no worse than most of the other guys they've had. Like others said, don't think too much, just do it.
crazylove Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Seems you're the one obsessed with 'porno' type sex! lol
Author eurastrav Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 I don't think that's fair or constructive. I am not "obsessed with porno type sex." I think BAC described it well. Some women do expect and WANT a certain sexual know-how and level of erection at the start. Guys who don't always need help guiding it in. Guys who can just 'do' doggie style without fumbling. Guys who can spoon without accidentally elbowing their partner. I do agree that Cialis or Viagra might help a little. I don't smoke weed, but the hard-on effect will be similar obviously. Anal sex is perfectly normal. A light blindfold for fun sometime. Different positions. There is nothing wrong with being curious or interested in these things.
insertnamehere Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 (edited) As a guy in his 30s who attracts a fair amount of attention from women in their 30s to early 40s, I'll tell ya that as a group the wannabe cougars are almost to a woman damaged goods. Lots of married women playing outside rocky marriages. Lots of divorced women with bad anti-man issues. Lots of "my kids are raised" types. Lots of used up bar-hoppers who never had stable lives. Lots of former 9s who didn't settle when they were younger because they didn't have to and are suddenly in full freak-out mode trying to hold onto their youth. As a group, they're not what the media makes them out to be. Worse, they often come off like child molesters when they hit on you. Some of the creepiest **** I've ever been told by women has come from this demographic. Also, a lot of them are very immature. Like I said, a lot of former 9s who are very pissed at the sudden drop-off in easy validation now that they're older. A lot of bar hoppers who never pulled their **** together in the first place. Not that there aren't decent women in the early 40s looking for sex. But, as a group they're some pretty messed up human beings. I would not overtly seek one out for the sake of trying it. Edited April 22, 2012 by insertnamehere
Author eurastrav Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 Nice cool guys in their 30s need ways to meet nice cool women in their 30s. Lol Single guys I see my age are either 'getting laid' sex machines or they have social problems or they don't want to date and have fun. Single girls in their 30s who enjoy dating for fun want experienced men. My dream sexual encounter is a girl my age, who is nice and cool and fun and hot.... We try different positions. We get it wrong and laugh. We try another. We experiment with what we each like, and what we both like. If I am a little nervous it is ok. She will not pressure me to be "THE MAN" in some sexual gender-skewed way that is soooo not 21st century. I know this will probably never happen. I am serious about finding a mature escort who will help me.
crazylove Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 I don't think that's fair or constructive. I am not "obsessed with porno type sex." You seem to mention it an awful lot...just saying. You should just chill and go with the flow, sex is rarely as it is in porno's, and i'm pretty sure most 30 something women aren't looking for 'porno type sex' as you put it. You're putting a lot of pressure on yourself to perform and maybe making it a bit mechanic. Just do as you feel, and enjoy!
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