kyle77 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 My ex is starting to show some interest in me...we are no longer in contact anymore but I would really like to pursue her! Now she is still a little reserved....not like she is jumping into my arms or anything....How do I get her to open up and talk to me? I feel like if I push too much she will back off but not enough and she will feel like I don't have any feelings for her.... Any advice on how to be subtle yet still take action to getting rid of some of her reservations and make her open up to being with me again?
january2011 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 I would say, don't go there, but if you must, my advice is to treat it exactly as though you're back on the market and looking to date a girl you're interested in. Ask her out. Woo her again. Get to know her again.
Author kyle77 Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 why do you think I shouldn't go there?
january2011 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 It really depends on the circumstances surrounding the break-up. If we're talking about external forces, such as distance, then I think the chances of a successful second time are increased. If the factors were internal, that is, someone had doubts, you were arguing a lot and had communications issues, for example, then I think the chances of success are reduced. If nothing has changed since the break-up and all you want to do is get her back, I wonder if you will be successful and if the same problems will crop up again.
Author kyle77 Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 we broke up because she gradually felt less and less appreciated by me in the relationship...I have taken steps to ensure this wont happen again....but I guess I am human.... I dont know if I should pursue this girl to be honest, all I know is that the happiest moments of my life have been with her... Now I could maybe find happiness with someone else one day I dont know I just feel like this girl has something special about her
january2011 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Kyle, it's really your decision. If your intuition is telling you that you must pursue this and you really have a clear perspective - that is, unclouded by the emotional rollercoaster that usually comes with a recent break up - then go for it. Don't let an internet stranger persuade you otherwise. It's your life. And you had some great times with her but your life isn't over yet. It's right before you. If you're not able to let go of the past and have some belief for your future, you're going to be stuck and not able to move on. Hope you're able to make the right decision for you. Good luck!
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