confoozed5 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 So me & this girl have been "talking" for about 4 months now. We met through friends around March 2011 and never really talked again at all or exchanged number until we exchanged numbers over Facebook and decided to go out to eat one day in July. Around October - November 2011 pretty much out of nowhere we started hanging out a lot. We started texting all day & I live about 35 minutes away from her... eventually I started coming over her apartment (shared with her grandma) and watching movies with her just about every weekend until like 5 in the morning & we'd talk about everything. I was pretty sure she started to like me & sure enough we kissed at about the 3rd time I stayed at her house...After the night we kissed I stopped leaving at 4-5AM & started spending the night at her house and winter break had come in December so I was over there every night. In December she asked me if she could see me & her together and I told her I thought about it a lot and we agreed that we need to learn about each other more. Since then we've been completely comfortable around each other. Going out on dinner dates, spending all day together alone just hanging out, messing around sexually but no ACTUAL sex (She's a virgin), even went out on New Years & Valentine's Day and it's been great... We always text each other about how we miss each other, you know, mushy texts, and have a mutual understanding that we weren't talking to anyone else. We haven't argued or anything so no warning signs to ME that I shouldn't keep forward with talking to her. No rushing. Now for the past maybe 3 weeks it feels like I'm getting less & less of her. Idk it's A weird gut feeling and I don't know what it is. We still hang out every week, not every day and that's understandable. She works just about everyday like me and we're both in school so it's not like winter break when we first started hanging out a lot... every time I come over we still cuddle up and watch movies, kissing and what not.. but nothing sexual has happened in a little over a month. I still take her to work and everything. but it feels like some things are missing. The texting has definitely lagged some... She'll take forever to text back now and the nicknames like "babe" "baby" etc have stopped..they're very sporatic. I'm not too picky on that so it doesn't bother me but I definitely notice the lack of it. I haven't really got an "I miss you" message unless I send it to her first. I know she still likes me but I don't know what to do. I asked her if she still thinks about us together last week and she said "you shouldn't have anything to worry about" & basically said we should let it ride out. Definitely didn't seem like the usual answer. I know she hangs out with other guy friends & i hang out with girl friends but i doubt anything is going on but then again idk. We both have people that like us The fact that she still asks me over and kisses me and we still hang out lets me know she likes me, but lately I've been paranoid. I kinda feel like I've been "sweating" (bothering) her about it. We talked about it and I knew it was annoying her and she confirmed. I'm still hanging out with her but I don't wanna tell her how I feel she's acting because it might push her away on account of her thinking needy or something, lol. I dont wanna NOT say anything, but I wanna get down to the bottom of it without saying the wrong things What should I do? Back off & make her come to me? Ignore her for a bit? HELP!
january2011 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 My initial thoughts are that there's someone else in the picture or she's had some kind of revelatory talk with someone and she's decided to pull back. Until you talk to her though, it's going to be difficult to move forward. I suggest talking to her about whether you both consider that this is a relationship now and/or if she is seeing/interested in anyone else.
amantis Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Sometimes is so dificult to know whats happening with them You ask them if they still like you and they say yes , but you know that something is wrong What i think you should do , is change your routine with her . Go out more ( together ) and have fun with her . watching movies every time with her and doing the same stuff is boring , thats why they start giving atention to other guys . Women love atention surprise her , do something crazy with her , but if you see that she doesnt give you the atention you want , just move on , dont waste your time ...
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