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Hey everyone,

I read quite often that you only need to have sex a couple of times with an experienced person to be on an acceptable "skill level". Some even claim that you'll be as "good" as it gets after a couple of times.

 

first I thought this would be online-forum/dating hearsay. But a woman I've been dating lately also told me that sex would be no "tripple somersault" (after I told her that I have no experience and that I'm not sure if I can satisfy her needs).

 

so what do you think?

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It's like getting to the center of a Tootsie Pop.

 

Thrrrrree.

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I rather expected 42 as first reply. surprise :)

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No matter how many times you have sex, you'll find that different people will have different preferences and no amount of experience can replace being observant and having empathy.

 

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Many girls like to have their hair pulled during sex. Myself, if anyone dares to pull my hair, I will pretend to do some light bondage and using a silk scarf, tie up this man's hands and feet. Then I will pluck out groin hairs one by one, until he's crying and begging me to stop, promising never to pull my hair again. Understand?

 

*cracks whip*

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Understand?

*cracks whip*

 

I guess so. I interpret it as a "yes and no"^^

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no amount of experience can replace being observant and having empathy.
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USMCHokie Established Member

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No matter how many times you have sex, you'll find that different people will have different preferences and no amount of experience can replace being observant and having empathy.

 

I 100% agree with this. The best lovers are those who care enough to explore and figure out a partner's specific preferences and desires...experience might certainly make that process a little quicker, but it's the desire to find out what makes the other person tick and make him/her tick...

 

Simply, it's putting the other person first...

 

But what do I know, I'm just the pool boy...and I've only had sex twice...looking for that magic #3...

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thanks for your replies

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No matter how many times you have sex, you'll find that different people will have different preferences and no amount of experience can replace being observant and having empathy.

 

Example:

 

Many girls like to have their hair pulled during sex. Myself, if anyone dares to pull my hair, I will pretend to do some light bondage and using a silk scarf, tie up this man's hands and feet. Then I will pluck out groin hairs one by one, until he's crying and begging me to stop, promising never to pull my hair again. Understand?

 

*cracks whip*

 

:lmao::lmao::lmao::lmao:

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Related thread:

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/mind-body-soul/sexual-reproductive-health-practices/322958-does-being-good-bed-exist

 

in the Sexual & Reproductive Health and Practices forum.

 

My answer:

 

In my opinion, 'good in bed' is defined as:

 

skill + knowledge + experience + attentiveness + willingness + chemistry + communication + connection = 'good in bed'

 

Or perhaps that's the definition for 'great in bed'...

 

Considering the amount of variation in all these factors, you're never going to get an actual number that is universal. How the authors of whatever publication you read arrived at the number "two" is beyond me. Perhaps what they meant was that after two sexual partners, you realise that "everyone's different" and it's that realisation that propels you to seek greatness.

 

That's not to say that two people who are each other's 'firsts' can't be great in bed for each other (that is, at an acceptable skill level for each other) but I'd definitely draw the line at saying that they were each, "as good as gets."

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You can progress very fast by watching porns :)

 

While watching, imagine 'when I have a partner, I will try this and this'.

 

Once you actually try it on her and if she likes it, you just learned another move!

 

I wonder how they learned in old days without any video and internet....

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Hey everyone,

I read quite often that you only need to have sex a couple of times with an experienced person to be on an acceptable "skill level". Some even claim that you'll be as "good" as it gets after a couple of times.

 

first I thought this would be online-forum/dating hearsay. But a woman I've been dating lately also told me that sex would be no "tripple somersault" (after I told her that I have no experience and that I'm not sure if I can satisfy her needs).

 

so what do you think?

 

Sex is not a set of skills for a woman.

It is mostly about emotions for young women. All sexual skills, which are important for women, come naturally. The skills are having erection, being affectionate/enthusiastic about a girl and sex and ability to last for some time. All other skills are details which are simple and can be very different.

 

There is no acceptable skill level on mechanical level.

There is an acceptable skill level only on emotional level.

 

After you told your girl that you have no experience and you are not sure if you can satisfy her needs, your girl rejected you because you were not ready on an emotional level to satisfy emotional needs a girl. The emotional needs are to feel special, loved, desirable and stuff like that. In other words, she felt that you do not care for her personally but you want to use her as an object for training.

Also, she felt that you have no ability for emotional attachment and you see sex with her as mechanical physical activity.

Also, she felt that you have no idea that sex for females means satisfaction mostly emotional needs and there are often no real physical needs because most young women do not have orgasm and cannot ejucalate during sex no matter how hard a man tries to make them to orgasm.

All that girls can do about the men's problems is to let their men know that they(girls) had amazing orgasms, enjoyed sex and that the men were the best at sex that they ever had in their life. Things like that is said to a man after sex because men have emotional needs too. Their major emotional need is to believe that they are capable to make a woman to orgasm. And, if a woman does not meet the man's emotional needs, he will drop the girl and find a smarter one.

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You can progress very fast by watching porns :)

 

While watching, imagine 'when I have a partner, I will try this and this'.

 

Once you actually try it on her and if she likes it, you just learned another move!

 

I wonder how they learned in old days without any video and internet....

 

Oh dear! This is just sad :( it's like saying if you eat an apple you will know what an orange tastes like !

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It's like anything else, depends on the individual. There's no number. Some people can't ever learn to dance no matter how much they try, some get it right the first time. As far as advice goes, if you really pay attention to your partner's state of arousal and what their body is telling you, and ask at the proper time the right way what exactly they want, and how exactly they want it, then do that, it's pretty easy to get it right. (if they won't tell you they aren't worth your time) It's not tough, the touch, exploring and friction of a naked or mostly naked body one finds attractive is enough to keep lots of people happy in and of itself whether they have a mind blowing psychic experience or not. It's why they call it "pleasures of the flesh" :laugh:

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I rather expected 42 as first reply. surprise :)

 

Or someone could have answered over 9000.

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Or someone could have answered over 9000.

 

True, some people can have sex over 9000 times and still be awful at it.

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I found, personally, that being with one person for a long time and making love consistently imbued a greater sense of confidence and comfort and level of 'skill' with that one partner than shorter term relationships. IMO, 'acceptable skill' has more to do with desire, both to learn more about making love as well as how one's partner most enjoys it, rather than rote repetition. One can ostensibly fµck like a rabbit and learn nothing from it, or learn greatly, dependent on desire. Each person is different.

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Sexual experience is probably one of the most overrated concepts on earth. Whether you or your partner are number one or number one hundred, is totally irrelevant. Unless of course you make it relevant.

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