joystickd Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 I noticed everyone has an opinion on it so what is your opinion
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 I don't care. As long as everything is clean and works it's all good right? 2
Woggle Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 It is not about numbers but how she treated men in the past. 3
Author joystickd Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 It is not about numbers but how she treated men in the past. Its true I am more focused on whether she has ever cheated on someone.
HHC Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 It's not so much a number but their attitudes toward sex and the circumstances under which they had it. 1
Woggle Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Its true I am more focused on whether she has ever cheated on someone. Exactly or if she dated bad boys and now hates men because of they treated and makes all men pay for it. If she had her fun honestly and it didn't make her a bitter manhater then fine.
wwwjd Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 My only concern is if she is DTF by date number three. (Shadddup! You know I'm just kidding! )
ThatDudeXO Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 As long as she's not the one night stand type of girl then I'd be fine with her number. I somewhat value sex as a part of 'love' in a relationship so I expect my partner to be similar!
EasyHeart Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 One. I only date virgins. I don't want to date "used" women. . . .
truth_seeker Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 This is a tough one. As you get older it becomes less of an issue, as long as the woman was in relationships (2-3) and wasn't the type to sleep with the whole town, then move to a new town because she had a reputation, then proceeded to sleep with everyone in the new town. The way things are today, it's almost an equal level playing field when it comes to sex. Just about everyone has their hook ups, their go-to's in their black book or iPhone. Expect your future partner to have a long history. It's just the way it is today. 1
oaks Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 I noticed everyone has an opinion on it so what is your opinion Who even asks how many partners someone has? (and for anyone that says they do, how old are you? and how well is the question received?) I stopped being interested in this either when my number got to 2 or my age started beginning with 2. I can't remember which happened first. 2
carhill Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Here's my version from a past thread: My version for a woman my age is age minus fifteen minus number of years married/LTR times two So, if a woman is 52 minus 15 minus 20 years married/LTR times two equals 34. So, for me, if her partner count is over 34, that's promiscuous, essentially two partners per year for every year not married since the age of 15. As an example, my exW was married a total of 16 years when I met her at age 39 and had more partners than the requisite 39-15-16x2, or 16, by a factor of roughly 2.5. Or, to put it another way, her partner count was roughly a magnitude (10x) greater than my own. My numbers currently are 52-15-10x2 =54 to be 'promiscuous'. Subtract 50 from that number to find my actual partner count. That's how I define promiscuous/dealbreaker. YMMV. Most of the women I've dated and had relationships with met or exceeded that definition. I doubt it's uncommon, at least in my generation. Relationship history *and* family history are far more important to me than number of sexual partners. Obviously, STD history/status is relevant as well, from a health standpoint. I added 'LTR' to married to reflect acknowledgement of that relationship form. I never have asked but women have offered such information. 1
daphne Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Here's my version from a past thread: My version for a woman my age is age minus fifteen minus number of years married/LTR times two So, if a woman is 52 minus 15 minus 20 years married/LTR times two equals 34. So, for me, if her partner count is over 34, that's promiscuous, essentially two partners per year for every year not married since the age of 15. As an example, my exW was married a total of 16 years when I met her at age 39 and had more partners than the requisite 39-15-16x2, or 16, by a factor of roughly 2.5. Or, to put it another way, her partner count was roughly a magnitude (10x) greater than my own. My numbers currently are 52-15-10x2 =54 to be 'promiscuous'. Subtract 50 from that number to find my actual partner count. That's how I define promiscuous/dealbreaker. YMMV. Most of the women I've dated and had relationships with met or exceeded that definition. I doubt it's uncommon, at least in my generation. Relationship history *and* family history are far more important to me than number of sexual partners. Obviously, STD history/status is relevant as well, from a health standpoint. I added 'LTR' to married to reflect acknowledgement of that relationship form. I never have asked but women have offered such information. Jesus Christ Car, I know I'm younger than you but I'd have to start sleeping with a man a month for years to catch up. That is crazy. My number is preferably in the 10 range. But I think I'm being wholly unrealistic there.
wwwjd Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 My number is preferably in the 10 range. But I think I'm being wholly unrealistic there. Curious, are you male or female, and why is that number unrealistic? I'm male and plan to stay under 10
firehawk_1 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 It is not about numbers but how she treated men in the past. most likely awful given how it is these days
Blcomeau Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 In my case, I'd only had three before I married my exhusband at age 18. He was 3 years older than me and told me he had at least 40 women... Very disillusioning. So he had ten times the partners I had by the time we separated.. Now that its over and I'm on my own I've more than doubled my number.. This does not bother me at all (my activities). I've done the whole get married, have babies, stay at home mom, cheating and divorce. So anything I do now is because I want to. I could care less 'how many' my next mate has.. I care more about the 'who' since my town is sort of small and there's lots of nasties around here.. If you get hung up on some arbitrary formula for promiscuity then you risk throwing away a decent human being. In which case I wouldn't want him anyway.. Probably has some whacko formula about which restaurant has the highest probability of a table being to far from the restrooms... 1
somedude81 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 I wonder how many partners the average woman has these days. I'm pretty sure it's much higher than it was 10 years ago.
CarrieT Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Who even asks how many partners someone has? (and for anyone that says they do, how old are you? and how well is the question received?) The people that ask tend to be "youngsters" - those around 30 or younger. Once you attain a bit of maturity and know that relationships are part of life, someone's number becomes irrelevant. 3
CarrieT Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 I wonder how many partners the average woman has these days. I'm pretty sure it's much higher than it was 10 years ago. Well, duh... You are obviously thinking of a specific age group of "the average woman" which would remain as a stagnant number for your sampling. But as we women age, we continue to have additional partners so of course our numbers are going to increase as we continue to be sexually active.
veggirl Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 I asked this once. I only got general answers like "it depends!", and I think one actual answer and hers was a guy of 30 can't have more than 5
darkmoon Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 In my case, I'd only had three before I married my exhusband at age 18. He was 3 years older than me and told me he had at least 40 women... Very disillusioning. So he had ten times the partners I had by the time we separated.. Now that its over and I'm on my own I've more than doubled my number.. This does not bother me at all (my activities). I've done the whole get married, have babies, stay at home mom, cheating and divorce. So anything I do now is because I want to. I could care less 'how many' my next mate has.. I care more about the 'who' since my town is sort of small and there's lots of nasties around here.. If you get hung up on some arbitrary formula for promiscuity then you risk throwing away a decent human being. In which case I wouldn't want him anyway.. Probably has some whacko formula about which restaurant has the highest probability of a table being to far from the restrooms... am quoting this cuz it's so opposite to me which shows that we are all different, not one for much action myself, but happy we are all in the land of choice, when younger i could have two men in one day, but the sixties were much more forgiving, with celibacy just fine too unlikely now
EasyHeart Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Jesus Christ Car, I know I'm younger than you but I'd have to start sleeping with a man a month for years to catch up. That is crazy. Reach for the stars, Daphne! You can do it if you set your mind to it!!! WE BELIEVE IN YOU!!!
RedRobin Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 As you get older, alot of people stop asking questions about things that could be lied about and can't be verified. Unless you plan on hooking them up to a polygraph, it is best to just get to know the person and see how they behave. 1
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 let's not kid ourselves. it's rarely a dealbreaker if it's a woman's number. it's a dealbreaker if a man's number is too low contrary to what some women might say about men with high numbers. a man being banged by 40 women is in high demand. a 30 year old or older virgin man is a definity dating dealbreaker and if a man withholds this information a woman won't just be mad but will be furious. I somewhat agree with this. But I will say this, no amount of sexual partners a woman has had would ever be a "deal breaker" for me. However, being a "weird" 24 year old virgin myself, I would be very suspicious of any female virgin over the age of say 19 or 20. Because I'd have to wonder what was wrong.
yongyong Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Hm....we are talking about miles and previous owners... Both are built in 1985, have the same options and Clean titles. Car 1: 120k miles. 1 previous owner. Car 2: 90k miles. 6 previous owners. hard to decide, isn't it? 1
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