Being with a hot woman

April 21, 2012

I approached this hot girl and got her #.

We had a first date and are going to have second date this weekend.

Although I was nervous about approaching her, I acted like I didn't care about her beauty but her character. I teased her little bit too.

she told me she liked my confidence. (I am pretty sure many guys try to please her by saying nice things, buying her drinks, not being able to tease her like a little girl)

I am not saying I look bad compared to her but she is one of the hottest girl everywhere we go and we get attentions from people. (you usually don't see a minority guy with a hot blonde) that makes me bit nervous.

I don't want to act like one of those guys who are too proud to have her (walking with stiff shoulder, staring at guys looking at his girl, having 'trying hard' body language etc)

I just want to act normal like when I am hanging out with a guy friend or average looking girl.

I keep saying to myself 'she is hot but so what?, I am the prize!'

how did you handle the pressure when you were hanging out with a hot girl in public? (I can totally dominate her in private places though )

For attractive ladies, Does it kill the attraction if you sense that he acts little differently around you?

April 21, 2012

Dude...keep doing what you are doing. You ARE a prize and dont let ANYONE tell you any differently. Thats how you keep things going good.

Youre obviously a nice looking dude yourself if you got this chick to go out with you. So take that for what it is and run with it.

Treat attractive women like youd treat any other girl and youll be fine. The worst thing you can do is put her on a pedestal as some guys do, because doing that only makes you look scared of losing her. And thats not attractive to anyone, male or female.

April 21, 2012

Don't act like you're inferior to her or like you are so lucky to have her. Act like you are on the same level, like you deserve to be with a girl like her. Confidence, but not arrogance, is key.

April 21, 2012

not sure if I am qualified to respond to this or not, but I'll try.

A few of my GFs were working models (not those fake wannabe types) but I was drawn to their personality. Believe or not. We got along as friends first which I think is the most important aspect in any realtionship. Not the stuff like "me attracted to you sexually, but I don't know anything about you" stuff. If you don't know them, you don't know how to deal with them. I never treated them like some freakishly perfect speciman or anything special over being a human being I was interested in entertaining if I could. there were looks and stares and guys would walk right up and try to C***Block right in front of me, but she KNEW I was her man, never gave them a second look, I was always ready to simply pull her along with me if these guys got in the way. She felt safe and connected, I felt confident trusting and never worried if her eye wondered. Because we developed our friendship connection first.

April 21, 2012

I didn't go that far. I won't have problem sexually escalating though.

When I kissed her, I told her 'hey come over here' and kissed right then.

I conveyed I am superior than her as physically and emotionally.

I've been treating her like a little girl who doesn't know much about the world. 'blah blah it's ok you are adorable anyways-pet her head' I kind of talk like old man sometimes and she even mentioned she like my opinions. I am trying to careful about this though.

I don't want to bixch at her like her actual dad.

I was a hypocrite in the beginning. I approached her just because I found her pretty and I acted like I didn't care about her looks.

However, this is how she found me fascinating.

To be honest, I'd rather see her giggling and acting goofy in tshirts than her dressed perfect and walking like a model on a runway without any personality.

Guys, I am not trying to brag or preach. But, I realized it all depends on how

you carry yourself. When the dating thing wasn't going well, I was suspicious about mysel and acted desperate. I was even turned down by the woman my friend will find funny. It took me sometime to accept myself as who i am and I started not to give a damn. I changed my attitude from 'please like me' to 'this is me, you don't like it? well then '

Edited April 22, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
REMOVED OT POST

April 21, 2012

For attractive ladies, Does it kill the attraction if you sense that he acts little differently around you?

Do you accept responses from unattractive ladies, or are we banned from posting on your thread?

"Acts a little differently," requires a benchmark. Do you mean differently compared to others guys or in comparison to how he'd 'normally' act?

I would say that every woman is different. But a very self-conscious and awkward guy who puts on an act that he feels uncomfortable with throughout our entire relationship, particularly in public, is probably not doing him or his ladyfriend any favours. But then I value sincerity and authenticity. While I accept that appearance matters to a certain extent, it's not the be all and end all.

Edited April 21, 2012 by january2011

April 21, 2012

I didn't go that far. I won't have problem sexually escalating though.
When I kissed her, I told her 'hey come over here' and kissed right then.

I conveyed I am superior than her as physically and emotionally.
I've been treating her like a little girl who doesn't know much about the world. 'blah blah it's ok you are adorable anyways-pet her head' I kind of talk like old man sometimes and she even mentioned she like my opinions. I am trying to careful about this though.
I don't want to bixch at her like her actual dad.

I was a hypocrite in the beginning. I approached her just because I found her pretty and I acted like I didn't care about her looks.
However, this is how she found me fascinating.
To be honest, I'd rather see her giggling and acting goofy in tshirts than her dressed perfect and walking like a model on a runway without any personality.

Guys, I am not trying to brag or preach. But, I realized it all depends on how
you carry yourself. When the dating thing wasn't going well, I was suspicious about mysel and acted desperate. I was even turned down by the woman my friend will find funny. It took me sometime to accept myself as who i am and I started not to give a damn. I changed my attitude from 'please like me' to 'this is me, you don't like it? well then '

Oh boy. I'm surprised she's falling for this nonsense.

Edited April 22, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Removed inflammatory remark

April 21, 2012

I approached this hot girl and got her #.

We had a first date and are going to have second date this weekend.

Although I was nervous about approaching her, I acted like I didn't care about her beauty but her character. I teased her little bit too.

she told me she liked my confidence. (I am pretty sure many guys try to please her by saying nice things, buying her drinks, not being able to tease her like a little girl)

I am not saying I look bad compared to her but she is one of the hottest girl everywhere we go and we get attentions from people. (you usually don't see a minority guy with a hot blonde) that makes me bit nervous.

I don't want to act like one of those guys who are too proud to have her (walking with stiff shoulder, staring at guys looking at his girl, having 'trying hard' body language etc)

I just want to act normal like when I am hanging out with a guy friend or average looking girl.

I keep saying to myself 'she is hot but so what?, I am the prize!'

how did you handle the pressure when you were hanging out with a hot girl in public? (I can totally dominate her in private places though )

For attractive ladies, Does it kill the attraction if you sense that he acts little differently around you?

I'm just surprised this so-called "hot" girl was available. They usually aren't these days. Or maybe they lie and say they aren't, who knows?

I'm curious to where and how you approached her. I want to know what you said to her in opening because most women are not open to the cold approach, regardless of confidence. Often the best response you'll get is a short, friendly chitchat, followed by an expected exit.

April 21, 2012

I conveyed I am superior than her as physically and emotionally.
I've been treating her like a little girl who doesn't know much about the world. 'blah blah it's ok you are adorable anyways-pet her head' .

Heavens! I don't think that a girl being hot or ugly would contribute to her tolerating such condescending and disrespectful behavior. It probably signifies that she has very low self esteem, or maybe that she's stupid. Or both.

April 21, 2012

For attractive ladies, Does it kill the attraction if you sense that he acts little differently around you?

For attractive ladies???? What does that even mean? That ladies you don't consider attractive don't get to have an opinion?

The older I get, the more I appreicate kindness in a man. Not condesention. Not games. Not looks. Not money. Kindness, true-real kindness, is a very hard thing to come by. You appear to be very young, as she does, and you may both be playing games. It's nice when men treat women like people. Not trophies, not little girls, not sex objects.....P.E.O.P.L.E.

April 21, 2012

Seriously, you've been on one date. If you want to have more dates, I think you should rethink your approach. Nobody likes to be treated like a stupid child. I'm sure that a chronic hottie would appreciate being treated like she had a brain.

April 21, 2012

Although I was nervous about approaching her

she told me she liked my confidence.

I am not saying I look bad compared to her but she is one of the hottest girl everywhere we go and we get attentions from people. (you usually don't see a minority guy with a hot blonde) that makes me bit nervous.

I just want to act normal like when I am hanging out with a guy friend or average looking girl.

she liked your confidence? what confidence? you asking all this stuff just shows that you're not truly confident.

I didn't go that far. I won't have problem sexually escalating though.
When I kissed her, I told her 'hey come over here' and kissed right then.

I conveyed I am superior than her as physically and emotionally.
I've been treating her like a little girl who doesn't know much about the world. 'blah blah it's ok you are adorable anyways-pet her head'

let me guess, you're part of the PUA community....the bolded stuff above just sounds too strangely familiar to their lingo and their "tricks"

either be really confident or own your nervousness, but don't follow any formula that you read from "PUAs". if she's not completely stupid, she's gonna notice your nervousness anyway, and then you putting on an act of the tough guy just makes you come across as incongruent (= weird).

as usual, i agree with DY.

Edited April 21, 2012 by Negative Nancy

April 21, 2012

[quote=Negative Nancy;3954768

as usual, i agree with DY.

Thanks Nancy!

April 21, 2012

She's not a trophy or medal to wear on an inflated chest. Get over it. Relax. You're with another "person".

April 21, 2012

(you usually don't see a minority guy with a hot blonde) that makes me bit nervous.

why on earth do you feel inferior because of your background?

April 21, 2012

For my type of question, YES, I don't need someone's opinion if they are not attractive enough to get pursued by guys all the time.

Let's say this job draws a lot of applicants. you want to know how you can stand out from the average crowd. Would you ask a friend who has gotten a easy job? 'Hey how did you get the manager's attention to work at 7 11?'

So when you were a lot younger, you cared about games, money and looks then? I am not chasing after an old lady who's in mid 30's.

I will listen to your advice as I get old and have no option but to go after old ladies.

For attractive ladies???? What does that even mean? That ladies you don't consider attractive don't get to have an opinion?

The older I get, the more I appreicate kindness in a man. Not condesention. Not games. Not looks. Not money. Kindness, true-real kindness, is a very hard thing to come by. You appear to be very young, as she does, and you may both be playing games. It's nice when men treat women like people. Not trophies, not little girls, not sex objects.....P.E.O.P.L.E.

April 22, 2012

OP, nevermind the post that I wrote earlier and lost, I'll try to answer it again anyway. When I've had men in the past who thought I was attractive act differently around me or attempt to put me on a 'pedestal', it honestly made me a little uncomfortable. It's kind of like a girl treating you differently because you're a guy of a different ethnic background than her. It's just strange, and unnecessary. Really, the best you can do is treat her like any other girl and focus more on who she is as a person. Keep being confident and like you deserve to have her, because you do. More importantly... treat her like you care about her, of course, but also don't treat her too differently because of her good looks -- if she sees that you basically give her special treatment just because you think she's so attractive, she might try to take advantage of that in certain ways if things get rocky. Not saying she will, but I've seen it happen before.

I conveyed I am superior than her as physically and emotionally.
I've been treating her like a little girl who doesn't know much about the world. 'blah blah it's ok you are adorable anyways-pet her head' I kind of talk like old man sometimes and she even mentioned she like my opinions. I am trying to careful about this though.
I don't want to bixch at her like her actual dad.

Another thing: try not to treat her like a little girl. I know for me, that I like when a man is confident in his behavior around me and when he is able to 'teach' me things I don't know about, yet not to the point where I feel like he's being somewhat condescending. One of the fastest ways to turn a woman off is to act like you always know more than her, or like she's a young naive child. It can be charming at first, but can also get annoying very quickly. She probably does like your opinions, but the way you say them is important too. Like you said, continue to be careful about this and remember that in the end, you two should see each other as on the same level...

Edited April 22, 2012 by Thieves

April 22, 2012

For my type of question, YES, I don't need someone's opinion if they are not attractive enough to get pursued by guys all the time.

Let's say this job draws a lot of applicants. you want to know how you can stand out from the average crowd. Would you ask a friend who has gotten a easy job? 'Hey how did you get the manager's attention to work at 7 11?'

So when you were a lot younger, you cared about games, money and looks then? I am not chasing after an old lady who's in mid 30's.
I will listen to your advice as I get old and have no option but to go after old ladies.

When I was a lot younger, I was 10 years old. Yes, there were lots of games played, monoply money well spent, and I sure did like to play dress up in my mom's old dresses and heels. I loved playing with lots of different looks! Those where the days.....

I think you will loose this girl very quickly if she is an intelligent person.

April 22, 2012

This thread is temporary closed for moderator review.

Welcome to your new and improved on topic thread. It's now an inflammatory, insulting, rude remark free zone. Let's keep it that way.

Edited April 22, 2012 by Stephanie

April 22, 2012

More posts have been edited or deleted than even begin to address the OP's question. This thread hasn't been productive so we're moving on.

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