Shamrock13 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Hi All I apologize but Im not to computer savvy so dont know how to attach links for my previous threads. But for those that have read my threads and given me their advice and opinions......Thank you all. So heres the latest tonight I decided no more. No more being in the dark wondering is it over, why, what happened, why couldnt she talk to me, why throwing it all away. I broke NC and emailed her and I said, and I quote Ive tried to contact you so we could talk like 2, 40 year old adults who love each other. For whatever reason youve chose to avoid and evade. So I have no choice to believe what your showing me and whats in my heart. That being said we have only 2 more things that need to be dealt with. 1 All my belongins still at the house. I would appreciate if you can let me know when next week the girls (as I want them affected by this as little as possible) will not be at the house so I can arrange with (mutual friend) to pick up all my belongings. 2 We need to discuss the money you owe me and I wanna make a fair arrangement so you will be able to pay it back. Please respond before the end of Sunday 04, 22, 2012 by email and only about the 2 issues I have brought up. If I dont hear from you I will assume you have done something with my belongings and have disagreement about the money you owe me. And in this instance I will file with small claims court first thing Monday morning and let the courts decide how much you owe and how it will be paid back Chris For the first time in a few weeks now I actually feel good and I mean up, happy. As soon as I hit send it felt like 100 pounds was lifted off my shoulders and my mind started going over all the comments said here and by my friends about her and what she did. I ate a full meal and know I am going to sleep well........ WOW I just hope this isnt some temporary high or adrenaline rush lol
HollyBolly Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Hi All I apologize but Im not to computer savvy so dont know how to attach links for my previous threads. But for those that have read my threads and given me their advice and opinions......Thank you all. So heres the latest tonight I decided no more. No more being in the dark wondering is it over, why, what happened, why couldnt she talk to me, why throwing it all away. I broke NC and emailed her and I said, and I quote Ive tried to contact you so we could talk like 2, 40 year old adults who love each other. For whatever reason youve chose to avoid and evade. So I have no choice to believe what your showing me and whats in my heart. That being said we have only 2 more things that need to be dealt with. 1 All my belongins still at the house. I would appreciate if you can let me know when next week the girls (as I want them affected by this as little as possible) will not be at the house so I can arrange with (mutual friend) to pick up all my belongings. 2 We need to discuss the money you owe me and I wanna make a fair arrangement so you will be able to pay it back. Please respond before the end of Sunday 04, 22, 2012 by email and only about the 2 issues I have brought up. If I dont hear from you I will assume you have done something with my belongings and have disagreement about the money you owe me. And in this instance I will file with small claims court first thing Monday morning and let the courts decide how much you owe and how it will be paid back Chris For the first time in a few weeks now I actually feel good and I mean up, happy. As soon as I hit send it felt like 100 pounds was lifted off my shoulders and my mind started going over all the comments said here and by my friends about her and what she did. I ate a full meal and know I am going to sleep well........ WOW I just hope this isnt some temporary high or adrenaline rush lol Glad you feel better. Not looking forward to how you will feel when you hear back from her. Still, I hope it's positive.
sweetheart5381 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Hi All I apologize but Im not to computer savvy so dont know how to attach links for my previous threads. But for those that have read my threads and given me their advice and opinions......Thank you all. So heres the latest tonight I decided no more. No more being in the dark wondering is it over, why, what happened, why couldnt she talk to me, why throwing it all away. I broke NC and emailed her and I said, and I quote Ive tried to contact you so we could talk like 2, 40 year old adults who love each other. For whatever reason youve chose to avoid and evade. So I have no choice to believe what your showing me and whats in my heart. That being said we have only 2 more things that need to be dealt with. 1 All my belongins still at the house. I would appreciate if you can let me know when next week the girls (as I want them affected by this as little as possible) will not be at the house so I can arrange with (mutual friend) to pick up all my belongings. 2 We need to discuss the money you owe me and I wanna make a fair arrangement so you will be able to pay it back. Please respond before the end of Sunday 04, 22, 2012 by email and only about the 2 issues I have brought up. If I dont hear from you I will assume you have done something with my belongings and have disagreement about the money you owe me. And in this instance I will file with small claims court first thing Monday morning and let the courts decide how much you owe and how it will be paid back Chris For the first time in a few weeks now I actually feel good and I mean up, happy. As soon as I hit send it felt like 100 pounds was lifted off my shoulders and my mind started going over all the comments said here and by my friends about her and what she did. I ate a full meal and know I am going to sleep well........ WOW I just hope this isnt some temporary high or adrenaline rush lol Hey Shamrock. Am in Ontario too In London. Glad you are feeling good, hang onto to that! Sounds like you are asserting yourself and taking back your personal control. That's a big part of getting over a b/u imo. Some folks may see the threat of taking someone to "small claims court" as being abusive, but the fact is, you want your stuff back and you respect yourself enough to get it back, by whatever legal and ethical means necessary. Nice post. You rock
Author Shamrock13 Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 Hey Holly and sweetheart thanks for your replies. You know Holly Im really not worried about how she replies. If she rants, or argues it doesnt matter anymore to me. She decided to take 6 years of something wonderful and throw it away for the second time and she was the one who came back to me beggiang for a second chance and promising to work and communicate and develop this time. And I dont know if its because of writing that email to her but I now realize and accept it was either outright bull@&** or she isnt capable of that kind of relationship right now in her life. And I am and its what ill have and without her. I will miss the kids and there will be sadness always about that spot in my heart for them. But I refuse to let this destroy or eat away at me anymore. Nobody knows why except for her and Im done wondering. And I cant get back my love for her but Im going to make sure she knows Im know chump.LOL Im in Whitby sweetheart
sweetheart5381 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Hey Holly and sweetheart thanks for your replies. You know Holly Im really not worried about how she replies. If she rants, or argues it doesnt matter anymore to me. She decided to take 6 years of something wonderful and throw it away for the second time and she was the one who came back to me beggiang for a second chance and promising to work and communicate and develop this time. And I dont know if its because of writing that email to her but I now realize and accept it was either outright bull@&** or she isnt capable of that kind of relationship right now in her life. And I am and its what ill have and without her. I will miss the kids and there will be sadness always about that spot in my heart for them. But I refuse to let this destroy or eat away at me anymore. Nobody knows why except for her and Im done wondering. And I cant get back my love for her but Im going to make sure she knows Im know chump.LOL Im in Whitby sweetheart Ya, don't lose your grounding. We all have a choice, either lie down and take being dumped on by ****ty factors of life or move away from that and feel good. Takes a long time to get thru it, but you will. Take care of you and don't feel bad for doing it. You can be your own best friend or your own worst enemy - it really is a choice.
HollyBolly Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Hey Shamrock. Am in Ontario too In London. Hey, 3 Ontarians here!
sweetheart5381 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Hey, 3 Ontarians here! Yep, nice to meet you
HollyBolly Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Yep, nice to meet you Ditto! Listening to Keane. We should all have tea. LOL
sweetheart5381 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Ditto! Listening to Keane. We should all have tea. LOL Ya, it's Friday night - I'm thinking beers, lol
HollyBolly Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Ya, it's Friday night - I'm thinking beers, lol LOL What about Sat night? Vodka?
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