joe1990 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 I'm a long time lurker and finally decided to join today. Thanks for reading my post! I met a girl at a party and miserably failed. I was so shy and she just caught me in a really bad moment. She gave me her MSN nonetheless and surprise, we've been chatting nearly every day for the past couple of weeks! She'd send me well thought out messages, not those one liners. She asked whether I'd go bungee jumping and I said sure! I then mentioned that I'd like to do some charity work and she immediately jumped on board and said she'd love to come along. We agreed to meet up soon and hang out! Unfortunately, I made a big mistake and kind of left it up to her to make the next call. Is it really bad? She said she will call but I read on all of the forums that guys are supposed to keep control of the situation. I'm 21 and only had one girlfriend from age 17 to 20. Thanks for helping me out!
Patrice Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Call her!! If she was receptive, she'll appreciate the gesture!
yongyong Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 yeah just call after few days. I would just go for coffee for first hangout. bungee jumping is too much. I am sure she wasn't serious about it for first date.
carhill Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 OP, you never have to 'leave it up to her'. You always have a choice. Call her now and set something up, a casual meeting, for this weekend. I've often done 'first dates' as lunch on Saturday. Simple and low-cost and get to know. Activities are nice once you find you hit it off romantically but it's entirely possible to get caught up in the activity and end up as 'activity friends' without sexual tension or romantic potential. Presuming you want to date and mate, focus on that. Share the charity work after she's your girlfriend, unless of course you don't mind her becoming a charity work-mate and not a girlfriend. If either potential is fine, proceed.
Author joe1990 Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 Yeah I really can't call her right now because of the way we parted ways. As for bungee jumping, yes she was serious. I guess she thought I'd be excited about it. Seems to me like she's trying to find common activities, which is a good sign, no?
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