NY3180 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Went on three dates with the guy of my dreams. We had great chemistry. We met off match, and he said "we should forget about match" during the last date, and "get used" to certain things inffering we were going to be seeing each other a lot. I ignored the "we should forget about match" and didnt get to see him for a week before I went on vacation because he is a corporate lawyer. He was def on match while I was on vacation, and when I got home he was away for two weekends and we stopped texting two weeks ago. I am wondering if it is okay to reach out to him again for another date. I don't know how you go from asking someone to be somewhat exclusive to not wanting to see them again, and I am assuming its because he met someone. But he is still on match. I really like this person, and am thinking of going somewhat over the deep end for a fourth date (flowers, persistance). Thoughts? Thanks.
FitChick Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 I really like this person, and am thinking of going somewhat over the deep end for a fourth date (flowers, persistance). You are going to send him flowers? You must be nuts. At the very most, I'd send him a quick note to say you're back from vacation and just got caught up with the mountain of work you had waiting for you upon your return. "Maybe if you have a free moment, we could catch up." From what you posted, it sounds like you didn't acknowledge his attraction to you, then you took off on vacation, so perhaps he thinks you weren't that interested. This is tricky. I'd ask the men for their suggestions.
yongyong Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 I can guess two things. I never heard of American women sending a flower to a guy. If you were that into him, he sensed that you were all over him and maybe got little bit scared? When you told him about the vacation, did you explain in a nice manner? Eg: So I just met this girl from online dating. I want to see her again soon but she just told me 'sorry~ I am going on a vacation, hit me up when I come back~' Now I am not going to wait for this girl like a dog. If she still wants to hangout after the vacation fine but I will be still hitting on other women to increase the chance of finding a mate. Maybe he found a better girl while you were ignoring him. (This sounds like a bar situation I was in. I was talking to this chick and she seemed she liked me. she pulled this usual 'let me get back to my friend'. so I hit on another chick immediately. when she wanted to come back from her friends, it was too late. Girl's logic = LOL) In the end, I guess it doesn't hurt to say 'what's up?'
SJC2008 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 OP you didn't reciprocate on the let's forget about match so unless you were crystal clear about still wanting to see him when you got back from vacation he took it as a blowoff. Don't feel too bad, dating sucks in this manner because people try to toe the line between overzealous and not int. "Maybe if you have a free moment, we could catch up." If I'm into a woman and all she can muster up is a weak mabye, as they say in Houston: "Deuce out da roof"
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