Does it show a lack of confidence if I ask my g/f if she is ok when picking a place

[garycoleman]

to eat?

 

I know to show confidence a guy has to take charge. But usually when I pick a place to eat, I ask her if she is ok with it and if not she can pick another place because I try to be respectful. Or should I just make her go to a place I pick to show confidence?

[FitChick]

Not everyone likes the same type of food. Find out which type of cuisine(s) she prefers and then suggest a restaurant.

[Flummox]

No, it shows you actually care about her.

[yongyong]

Don't worry too much about it. you can ask 'do you have a favorite place? or what kind of food do you like?' if she says, she is open for anything then you can say 'how about this place?' and you guys can agree on it.

After a girl says 'I don't care' couple times. you can decide whatever you want by common sense (not going to dennys on first date etc)

[Els]

Taking charge and being considerate are not being mutually exclusive.

 

I think it's nice when a guy asks me first if there is anywhere in particular I'd like to go or preferences that I have. I'd think it rather bullish if he just straight-up decided without even asking beforehand.

 

Bear in mind that if you decide the place, it's good courtesy for you to pay. If you're not okay with that, make sure it's a unilateral decision as to where to go.

[Woggle]

Think of a place and ask if she likes the kind of food they serve.

[garycoleman]

The thing is I know what foods she likes. But sometimes on certain days she will want something different. Some days she likes Japanese and hates Chinese and another day it would the other day around.

[Woggle]

The thing is I know what foods she likes. But sometimes on certain days she will want something different. Some days she likes Japanese and hates Chinese and another day it would the other day around.

 

Ask her if she is in the mood for chinese and of not suggest the other.

[Els]

The thing is I know what foods she likes. But sometimes on certain days she will want something different. Some days she likes Japanese and hates Chinese and another day it would the other day around.

 

Hah, she sounds like me.

 

Honestly, in my relationship I'm the one picking the places to go to. The bf hates deciding and hates making reservations and such, and I love it! Also, like your gf, my cravings change from one day to the next. So, to save us both grief, I decide. It doesn't make him any less manly to let me decide, IMO.

[threebyfate]

I'm a bit confused about this thread. If she's already your g/f, don't the two of you know each other well enough to drop the formalities?