AlanaIrvine Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Hey I need some help on how to sort out a situation ive gotten myself into. It all started in december when i had a little too much to drink at a friends party and people called for an ambulance and I got took to hospital (even though they didnt do anything and it was a waste of time). This was when my mom started hating my boyfriend, she says its because he didnt call soon enough to let her know even though he spent the whole night with me making sure i was fine and no one would bring him a phone to ring and he didnt have any credit as his 1 month contract was ended but he did phone her later on when the medics arrived and where looking after me. From then on my mom kept making nasty comments about him to me and saying i deserved better and complaining because i walked to his on my own, that she didnt like me going round his all the time but whenever he came round mine she would make us sit in the front room (as im not allowed any boys in my bedroom) and stare at him and make him feel uncomfortable so obviously he didnt feel welcome coming round but he got along with my dad fine, as well as the rest of my family. After a few months of my mom saying all this it was getting to me and i needed someone to talk to but i dont have any close friends who i can trust so (stupidly) i told my boyfriend about all the stuff and he flipped and sent her a text message saying that he didnt like all the things that she was saying about him behind his back and that he treated me with nothing but love and respect ect to which she didnt reply but sent the message to all of my family so that they all now hate him. Now shes complaining to me yet again cause i go to all his family gatherings and always go round his and he doesn't come to ours- which is quite difficult now as none of them want anything to do with each other and wont see each other and everyone hates him. Its really getting to me, and i just want all this to stop but i don't know what to do. How can i help repair the relationship between my boyfriend and my family? I dont want to lose him either cause despite what my mom thinks he makes me happy and I love him 1
darkmoon Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 (edited) your mother sounds like another couple of mothers i've known who were control-freaks happy to turn ppl against others and spoil love, she might never change, sorry for this wake-up call xx Edited April 20, 2012 by darkmoon
InJest Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Just keep the two separate like you have been. When your mom starts complaining, just tell her that he's your boyfriend and you're not going to change your relationship to accommodate her. You should also tell her that you'll stop speaking to her entirely if she continues to interfere. How old are you? Can you move out? 1
Author AlanaIrvine Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 (edited) Thank you's, and Im 21, but theres no housing that i can afford or flats to rent nearby :/ She does annoy my how controlling she is , but shes never liked my boyfriend from the start because he comes from the 'rough' end of town and so shes never really given him a chance either and she says its because he never came to the family do's like the panto for christmas and birthday dinners at the pub. It is just all getting to me because i feel like i have to choose between them, my mom told me that because i never punished him for sending that message she feels stabbed in the back by me and that when she looks at me she wants to be nasty to me because of it, she told me all my nice treats i used to get i wont anymore and that if i wasnt with him i would of had a car by now and its all just really getting to me i sit and cry most of the time because i have no-one who i can talk to about it, cause if i told my boyfriend hed just send another nasty text to her and i dont know what to do i dont want to keep pissing my mam off but i dont want to ruin my relationship with my boyfriend either Edited April 21, 2012 by AlanaIrvine
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