MarkV Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Hi everybody. Advice needed. After I had bumped into my ex of six years two weeks ago we have been out for food last sunday. Since we seperated in Jan 2012 we have seen each other twice. When we went for food we were both more relaxed and we spoke about the breakup. I suprisingly got an apology about the way she hurt me during the breakup and I also apologised. I told her I was going to Africa in June to teach orphaned children for a week. She knows that I was going to take her in Feb and propose whilst we were there. She said she was jealous etc. I finally got closure on the relationship and her reason has not changed (she thought we werent pushing forward into the next big step). Since the breakup has happened I have really pushed on well with my life and the pain is not as raw now. Iv had a couple of girls ask me out for a drink and i went with one but had no intentions of anything. At the meal with my ex the body language was good and we both seemed to enjoy each others company and we laughed about things we used to say to each other etc. She then told me that she was looking through our old photos the other day and that everytime she listens to a song, see's a film, buys a food, that she thinks of me. I told her that at my bday party and sisters wedding it will be difficult as she was supposed to be at both. At certain times i could see her eyes glassing up. When we left and she dropped me off, we had a hug and it felt good and relaxed around each other. She said that her family send their love and that they were excited about us going out together and that I could go round anytime as they would love to see me (i wont go round though)The meeting was far far better than 4 months ago. I havent since heard off her but im not too bothered as I told her that I respect her decision for leaving and that I never wanted to lose her. Do her actions indicate her coming round? Regret leaving? Thoughts would be interesting..thanks
AlanaIrvine Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 she probably does regret leaving- like the saying you don't know what you've got until its gone, and she obviously loved you (and probably still does) and now shes experiencing life without you which is going to be weird after all those years together and all the memories you two have will keep coming back and every film, song she hears will remind her of them and she will miss you a lot; an apology is a good sign of rebuilding the relationship but only time will tell whether she wants to be just friends or pick back up where she left off just take it slow and see what happens from now, just dont be afraid to say hello to her every now and again she'll probably feel a bit weird cause she broke it off and she may be unsure if you want to be friends with her or not, and if she does regret it she might not want to admit shes wrong (although i dont know her but some people cannot admit that theyve made mistakes but you can better judge that than me )- just show her the person that she fell in love with is still you best wishes to you 1
dsw31 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Wait a minute... You guys were together for 6 years & her reason for the breakup was because things were not "pushing forward"? If that was the only true reason & you guys still love each other, why don't you take it to the next step? Did you live together? Maybe you should, if you didn't If it's marriage that you both want, why not go ahead & do it? I'm sorry if I'm not understanding this but, if that's what she wants (and you guys had no other issues) Why not give it to her?
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