xOxAshleyAnnxOx Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 [font=arial][/font][color=violet][/color] Well Me n Muh Boyfriend have been going out for almost 3 months he has put me through ALOT...See 1st of all i met him on here and i knew that him n my friend kinda had sumthin goin for a day or so n they got in a fight and stopped talking and we talked online alot for a while and stuff and he eventually told me he liked me but i wouldnt go out w/ him or anything b/c i thought that he still liked my friend.. well he finally convinced me that he didnt have any feelings for her and we started talking.. well i was stupid b/c he did still like her and they talked on the phone the whole time n i actually really liked him and i hadnt felt that way for a while but he broke up with me and went out w/ her..we still talked a little.. i cried after that than i ever cried before..everytime i seen them together i felt lik someone ripped my heart out.. well he wrote me a letter and said all these compliments and said i could do so much better and he really wanted us to stay friends..well they thursday after he broke up with me he asked me if i would take him bk..he said he made the biggest mistake of his life n he really liked me n shouldnt have treated me lik that.. well after so long of his sweet talking i took him bk..it went good for about a week then we started fighting alot.. and i told him we had to talk about it and he thought i was going to break up with him and he broke up w/ me...Well we got bk together n we stopped fighting then he went to the girls house that he broke up with me 4 (the 1st time) and one of his friends was trying to get them hooked up n he didnt stop it and she asked him if he liked her and he said ''I dunno mayb i do'' n i can honestly i would say no i dont lik you without even thinkin.. if he cares about me lik he says he does he would have.. but he app. for everything and i think he feels bad but idunno b/c he has lied to me so much about so many things but it has been good for about a month til we started "Doing things" n i am a virgin n i plan to stay that way til im married.. we got in a argument..we was plannin on him coming over while my parents were at work and i told him i wanted to keep it at a level were i wouldnt do sumthin i would regret and he started bein a D**k about it n i said well if its gonna piss u off ill do stuff with you and his exact words were no i dont wanna do it anymore we can just see each other with ur mommy n daddy around.. it really made me mad b4 he always has respected that i wanted to keep my virginity n hes been acting really weird and i dont have a clue what to do..he app. for being a dick n he said he doesnt care its just not the same anymore.. and he gets where he will start being a major dick lik everyother time we talk... Someone please help me.. i dont kno what to do AshleyAnn
Baby Beaver Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 f*ck him off! he sounds like a complete loser who isn't worth your time. Any guy who is willing to play two friends off against each other is not good boyfriend material. He obviously has a total disregard for your feelings if he is prepared to mess you around like this. kick him to the kerb girl!
halebw Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 That is good advice. You should take the inicitive and break up with him before he talks you into sleeping with him and then leaves you for some other girl. He is acting like a dick because he is a dick. He will never be the person you thought he was or want him to be. He is the person he is, a dick. You can't change that. DON'T LET HIM TALK YOU INTO DOING SOMETHING YOU DON'T WANT TO DO BECAUSE IT WILL HURT EVEN MORE THAN IT DOES NOW. Sorry for yelling, but you need to be strong. Break up with him and never talk to him again. YOU are the most important person in your life!
Author xOxAshleyAnnxOx Posted June 20, 2004 Author Posted June 20, 2004 Thanks both of you...I really want to do that but i love him n he says he respects that i dont want to have sex but somehow i think i will end up doing it but i think i might break it off with him b/c i dont want to ruin things in my life..
Author xOxAshleyAnnxOx Posted June 21, 2004 Author Posted June 21, 2004 Well.. i thought about it and me and him talked about it but i cant do that.. i love him 2 much n i kno it would b a mistake.. we talked about it and he was bein nosey and he read this and he appolgized and he said it doesnt matter at all to him anymore if we have sex or not... I hope it stays this way for a little while.. We have a wonderful relationship without sex and i kno that will ruin it and i really really want it to stay lik this and i think he actually gets it now and knows how i feel but i do love him n he is the only person iv ever felt lik this before he is wonderful and practilly perfect for me n if he happens to read this again im sry for what u read im just really really confused n i dont kno what is wrong with me :-/..i hope i didnt ruin this ..But thanks so much u guyz for givin me advice.. If you think i am doin the wrong thing plz tell me i would love to kno...thanks
halebw Posted June 21, 2004 Posted June 21, 2004 " i do love him n he is the only person iv ever felt lik this before he is wonderful and practilly perfect" What do you mean by practically perfect? "i dont kno what is wrong with me" Nothing is wrong with you! You are in a situation that is difficult, something would be wrong with you if you were not confused. And don't feel sorry for what you have put on here. As long as it is what you truly belive, you should never be sorry for how you feel. One more question? Does he love you?
snickerdoodles86 Posted June 21, 2004 Posted June 21, 2004 [font=arial][/font] I have to agree with the last post. Does he truely love you. Do you think he would put you through all of that terrible heartache and give off the impression that he is using you. I don't want to sound mean, but do you think he might of possibly gone out with you in the first place just to get back at your friend? Another thing is I don't really see this other girl as helping the situation any. She seems not to care too much about you. I would seriously reconsider and think about ditching this dynamic duo..seriously. It hurts to find out that your intuition is right and that the guy you have been dating for the past six mos. was cheating and never really had any meaning to the relationship. I know... it happened to me. The right guy is out there... you just gotta look real hard this one doesn't sound like he's it though.
ocbabygal89 Posted June 21, 2004 Posted June 21, 2004 Ashley hunnie.. I'm so sorry.. I love you.. and I should've never went back with him.. and I should've never talked to him on the phone with him when you 2 were together.. I'm really sorry hunnie you know I love you and I swear on my ****in life nuttin like that will EVER happen again because we can never end member we are connected at the heart I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MUH HEART AND I ALWAYS WILL AND I HOPE THE SAME IS FOR YOU TO ME!!
Ashleysman Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 hey...this is ashleys boyfriend n i really really wish that er'one of yall knu how sorry i really am about everything n i kno ive hurt her a LOT n made a LOT of mistakes n i regret it soooooo much cus i love her with all my heart n ive never ever EVER been happier in a relationship.. n bout tha sex thing me n ashley talked about that n i thought about it n i dont care any more at all cus if it happend n we did it n she ended up hurting about it then i would feel AWEFUL about it n the last thing i wanna do is hurt her more so it doesnt matter to me any more..its jus sex...who cares..i think ill live without it but i dont wanna live without my ashley whom i love very very VERY much n care for jus the same....not a soul on here thats replied 2 wut shes said really knows how i regret hurting her n er'thing..but i do..n thats all i can say.... ASHLEY I LOVE YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH SWEETIE...U KNO THIS...I LOVE YOU WITH ALL OF MY HEART N ER'THING IN THE WORLD HUNNIE..I REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO IF I DIDNT HAVE U N I DONT WANNA FIND OUT NO TIME SOON....
Author xOxAshleyAnnxOx Posted June 22, 2004 Author Posted June 22, 2004 To Answer u ?'s when i said practically perfect.. he is perfect except for the things he has did to hurt me which i cant seem to forget.... n the does he love me ? i think u got the answer to that in what he wrote..This is all really weird and confusing...lol after what he wrote n said how he REALLY felt would u still tell me to break up w/him?? i hope everything he said is tru. n the ocbabygal89 is the girl that he broke up w/ me for the first time they both say they really regret it n stuff...... so tell me what yall think now.
halebw Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 All I will say is follow you gut feeling. If you truly believe what he is telling you, then be with him. If you truly believe that he is telling you lines, then break it off. I don't know him or you, but I know that you need to listen to the reservations in you heart, if they are there. I wish you well in this relationship. Be strong, and don't let anyone convince you to do what you don't want to do.
undecided Posted June 23, 2004 Posted June 23, 2004 i honestly dont think he is worth your time, he appears to be just chasing the girls. i wouldnt trust him. you havent known him very long. sounds like a player. dont make a mistake you will regret forever. ive had this happen to me many times and it will hurt me for the rest of my life. love is supposed to be serious, if he couldnt respect you enough to not tell that other girl that he liked her.... relationships to me are based on trust, communication, and respect. lose one and it screws up the whoel thing. i think he already doesnt respect you as a person or your feelings. and by that you cant trust him. as chris rock says about love taking a long time to develop "you gotta love the crust of a person, you gotta love the little crumbs at the bottom of the toaster of a person" and to do that it takes years. love is a word abused too often.
WarningSign Posted June 23, 2004 Posted June 23, 2004 You are probably young, and this stress just adds more hurt and confusion to an already crazy life. I think many kids choose to start dating long before they are ready to be in a mature, stable relationship. There is no need to rush things. You have your whole life ahead of you. It is a mistake that many kids make, and you should try to prevent it. Your boyfriend sounds like he isn't too ready, either. He seems like he is still just figuring himself out and trying to figure out what he wants. But for you...get yourself on track and feel good about yourself before you get involved in a serious relationship. Good luck, babe. P.S. About the sex thing. Don't lose your innocence yet to a guy you've only known for a short time and are having a lot of problems with. Wait until you're older and more mature...and most importantly...wait until you've found someone who truly cares about you.
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