Hope4anangel Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 So my ex text this morning (meant to be day 3 NC) saying could I cancel the dog insurance for his dog. I text back and said I've cancelled it and hope he has a nice time at the wedding he is going to tomorrow. He text back saying thanks and hope you are well. Give my son a cuddle for him. Now do I reply saying "I'm really good thanks, have a good weekend" (so he thinks I am doing well) or do I just leave it? Would love to reconcile but I don't think he is in a place now to (or may never be). I just want him to know that I ain't crying over him anymore... Thoughts?
Jadempk Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I would just leave it at that. I am trying NC but if you are going LC then only txt him back if he has a direct question. I know it is hard, believe me I am back to NC day 1
Author Hope4anangel Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 Hard ain't it? It's his birthday on Monday and I really want to send him a card but don't know if that would be a good idea :\
callmegee Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 That might give him the wrong idea - that u still care. Keep up the NC and don't feel guilty about missing this b'day. If at some point in the future u patch up, then at that future time u can make it up to him. Imagine if some months from now he has someone new and he doesn't care about your b'days anymore, it's gonna hurt worse then. Just pretend your life is going so great without him that you forgot his b'day. NO CONTACT! :D:D
Author Hope4anangel Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 I have decided not to reply back to his text and his text did not ask for an answer and therefore there is no need to. But may I live to regret not sending him a card and always think 'what if'?
callmegee Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 You have to decide for yourself what's right or wrong for you.... Thought you were in NC with him.
Author Hope4anangel Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 He doesn't know I'm NC (obviously) but I had to answer his text about the dog insurance so he could set up new insurance. I thought it was best that I didn't reply again, I answered about the dog insurance and now he doesn't need to contact me again about anything. 1
gotye Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I have decided not to reply back to his text and his text did not ask for an answer and therefore there is no need to. But may I live to regret not sending him a card and always think 'what if'? if you said you are doing fine or not, it is obvious by your response that you are cordial and mature about it and he can get from your response that you aren't crying or begging him back I don't think it needs a response, you sounded good
Pens55 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I have decided not to reply back to his text and his text did not ask for an answer and therefore there is no need to. But may I live to regret not sending him a card and always think 'what if'? What if not sending him a card moves you forward - proving to yourself that your life will go on. He hurt your feelings, what if you decided not to make his your priority anymore?
Jadempk Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Would send a big message. A message that says you are not my priority and I can do fine without you. My ex and I (never thought I would have to use that word for him:() have an anniversary in a few months. I will not text him because I know he wont text me. It would just be making things harder on myself. You are doing great with what your doing so far
Welcome2MyLife Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 I think just dropping it is best. I'm 3.5 months into N/C at all. I drive by him on the street and ignore completely. 1
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