truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Anyone would like to share thoughts on this? How can one find a mate on a dating site when people are lying about who they are, post out-dated pictures of themselves, and are dating 10-15 people at once? Any success stories? My experience has been lackluster. Lots of crazies in person but gems according to their profiles.
JesseJames Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 The truth is I only use it in season. They've hibernated all winter long, they've gotten nice and different from any picture they have, and spring is the time they have to get back out there and recheck how attractive they are after many a beer and time of inactivity. This is when you strikest bestest. This is just for dates 'n stuff though. No man goes online looking for a mate.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 This is just for dates 'n stuff though. No man goes online looking for a mate. What about women? Same goes for them, too?
january2011 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I found my mate on a dating site. Granted, I'm only one data point.
Sugarkane Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Ironically I've met mire weirdos so far in real life than Internet dating. And ironically the worst breakup I've had so far was with someone that's a friend if a friend of mine. After this experience I thought online dating would be a piece of cake.
firehawk_1 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 completely failed for me. tried for 7 years. wasted ALOT of money. got nothing out of it. only a couple of dates (literally) but they just wanted to be spoiled for the evening before they went back to their ways of playing games and seeing other guys. if anyone knows more about internet dating - its me. TRUST ME on that!
yessy21 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I beggg to differ. I looked exactly like my online profile pictures. I never lied. I met my hubby there. One year and going strong. He looked better in person than on his pics. I will never forget the first time i saw him. I saw him walk up to me and smile from ear to ear and thats when i knew....that life would never be the same again. I wont lie though i met a lot of guys that were just trying to get laid...but you had your ocassional "im too busy with work to date" guy and that was pretty much my problem.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 completely failed for me. tried for 7 years. wasted ALOT of money. got nothing out of it. only a couple of dates (literally) but they just wanted to be spoiled for the evening before they went back to their ways of playing games and seeing other guys. if anyone knows more about internet dating - its me. TRUST ME on that! Lots of women, not all of them, are so delusional and really believe they will meet their dream guy online. So many profiles depicting how great a catch they are and want an "equal partner" to share their life with. You meet them in person and they expect Daniel Craig to greet them. It's like the people who go to the convenient store to play the lottery. In their heads they fantasize what they're going to do with all the money if they win, before even purchasing the ticket. Same with these women. They have the bar set to such an astronomical level that the guy doesn't have a remote chance. You have to meet their fantasy expectations on the spot. You don't, it's over.
Sith Apprentice Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 (edited) It's usually more trouble than it's worth and you have to treat it like a job to have any real success if you're a guy. I typically get about a 20% response rate, but 99% of those will go nowhere because the women almost always flake out. Online women are looking for any tiny excuse they can come up with to reject you. You can expect A LOT of attention whoring and game playing by women online. What I hate most about online dating is there's no charm or social value to any of these sites. It's basically the equivalent of trading baseball cards with a total stranger. You see a woman and message her with your card which has your photo and a few stats and hope she responds pfffft. Many women online are "height wh0res" and won't give a guy under 5'10 a chance despite being short themselves. If you're 5'9 or shorter you're gonna have it tough online. If you're 5'6 or under you won't get any responses at all. If you're even slightly overweight you won't get any responses. Women lie about their age like crazy online especially after they hit 30. Don't use POF.com or craigslist unless you want to contract an STD. Edited April 20, 2012 by Sith Apprentice
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Yes, I met a man, fell in love, and got married.
firehawk_1 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Lots of women, not all of them, are so delusional and really believe they will meet their dream guy online. So many profiles depicting how great a catch they are and want an "equal partner" to share their life with. You meet them in person and they expect Daniel Craig to greet them. It's like the people who go to the convenient store to play the lottery. In their heads they fantasize what they're going to do with all the money if they win, before even purchasing the ticket. Same with these women. They have the bar set to such an astronomical level that the guy doesn't have a remote chance. You have to meet their fantasy expectations on the spot. You don't, it's over. couldnt agree more. and this is the problem these days. unrealistic, shallow and just so pathetic. it is sad. no wonder so many single people, so many cheaters and no idea of what a relationship or commitment is anymore. "too many men to pick from." 1
firehawk_1 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 It's usually more trouble than it's worth and you have to treat it like a job to have any real success if you're a guy. I typically get about a 20% response rate, but 99% of those will go nowhere because the women almost always flake out. Online women are looking for any tiny excuse they can come up with to reject you. You can expect A LOT of attention whoring and game playing by women online. What I hate most about online dating is there's no charm or social value to any of these sites. It's basically the equivalent of trading baseball cards with a total stranger. You see a woman and message her with your card which has your photo and a few stats and hope she responds pfffft. Many women online are "height wh0res" and won't give a guy under 5'10 a chance despite being short themselves. If you're 5'9 or shorter you're gonna have it tough online. If you're 5'6 or under you won't get any responses at all. If you're even slightly overweight you won't get any responses. Women lie about their age like crazy online especially after they hit 30. Don't use POF.com or craigslist unless you want to contract an STD. EXACTLY my experience, and sooo much more. one little thing... boom.... no chance.
NateC Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I had a craigslist ad up for less than 24 hours and already had 10+ emails that were obviously spam or otherwise not legitimate. Problem with online dating is that you can SAY whatever you want and act like whoever you want. Granted the tests on POF were interesting because they're actually accurate, but eh, don't see much coming out of it. As for craigslist, nope.
FitChick Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I've met great guys online but it took weeding through lots and lots of weirdos and timewasters to get to those guys. You just have to persevere.
nanbullen Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 You have to weed thru a bunch of weirdos and people who "exaggerate" their height and weight. That goes for both men and women. But i think you CAN meet someone. Two of my best friends met their husbands on dating sites. one has been married happily married 10 years, the other got divorced after 5.
amantis Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 It's usually more trouble than it's worth and you have to treat it like a job to have any real success if you're a guy. I typically get about a 20% response rate, but 99% of those will go nowhere because the women almost always flake out. Online women are looking for any tiny excuse they can come up with to reject you. You can expect A LOT of attention whoring and game playing by women online. What I hate most about online dating is there's no charm or social value to any of these sites. It's basically the equivalent of trading baseball cards with a total stranger. You see a woman and message her with your card which has your photo and a few stats and hope she responds pfffft. Many women online are "height wh0res" and won't give a guy under 5'10 a chance despite being short themselves. If you're 5'9 or shorter you're gonna have it tough online. If you're 5'6 or under you won't get any responses at all. If you're even slightly overweight you won't get any responses. Women lie about their age like crazy online especially after they hit 30. Don't use POF.com or craigslist unless you want to contract an STD. Im 5.6 and i get some atention and some dates . I used to live in Portugal and i met my ex wife on internet , and i came to Australia to be with her . now im divorced after 6 years But it was diferent 6 years ago , now they are all so fking crazy . i cant complain because i do get dates , others stop talking for no reason . Some of them are not what i call beautiful , but still i try and give them some of my time , but they really think that they are perfect . I hate online dating , i get alot of atention when i go to bars , public transports , and its funny because the ones giving me more atention are much better looking then the ones online Dont waste your time with online dating , like i said , they are fking crazy
Author truth_seeker Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 Im 5.6 and i get some atention and some dates . I used to live in Portugal and i met my ex wife on internet , and i came to Australia to be with her . now im divorced after 6 years But it was diferent 6 years ago , now they are all so fking crazy . i cant complain because i do get dates , others stop talking for no reason . Some of them are not what i call beautiful , but still i try and give them some of my time , but they really think that they are perfect . I hate online dating , i get alot of atention when i go to bars , public transports , and its funny because the ones giving me more atention are much better looking then the ones online Dont waste your time with online dating , like i said , they are fking crazy This is true for me, too! At bars, restaurants, stores, wherever out and about, I can get attention from some good looking women, but when I tried online dating, women who weren't that attractive would be so demanding and expect prince charming. One slip up and you're out! This is why lots of these women are online. In the real world men will overlook them for a hotter woman, and only go back to them if they run out of options. These girls get played, become bitter and angry, go online to turn the table on unsuspecting men. Some want to misdirect their anger to make themselves feel better. I say good luck to those women. They'll be single for a long time or will settle on a guy they don't truly love and be miserable on the inside.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 I've met great guys online but it took weeding through lots and lots of weirdos and timewasters to get to those guys. You just have to persevere. You're right but perseverance can be exhausting and when you have too many bad experiences you start to think EVERY woman is the same. I am convinced from my experience with online dating that the majority of women on these sites are single for a reason. It's what one person mentioned in this thread: unrealistic expectations and they're shallow.
amantis Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 True lol 2 days ago i met a girl ( eharmony ) , i was talking with her, she was 29 ( im 28 ) we were having a good conversation , but when i said that i had been married , and now divorced , she fking stop talking with me she didnt give me any reason to stop talking with me , not even a sorry ,im not interested in you . I dont take it serious because its online dating They are looking for something that doesnt exist.
Author truth_seeker Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 They are looking for something that doesnt exist. Ladies and Gentlemen, we have a winner. Bingo!
Joaquin Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 The only people that benefit from those sites are the site owners and advertisers. If you can leave your house, get the **** out there and just be yourself.
oaks Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Any success stories? Yes. I found my last girlfriend online, and the reasons I'm now looking for a new one have nothing to do with how I met the last one.
starla33 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Ladies and Gentlemen, we have a winner. Bingo! I love how you are saying all the women there are crazy. No they are not, but what I have noticed in my area anyway is the guys that are not even very attractive get A LOT of attention online. I don't know what it is, but it is making them think they are hot **** when they are not unfortunately. I have met tons and I mean TONS of guys online. Went on a lot of first dates, usually there was no spark for me. I have a spark with maybe 1 out of 8 online guys....so that is a lot of time wasted I guess. In my area you have to be really pro-active as a female and log in and browse the guys otherwise they will go for the girls that are being aggressive and emailing them first.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 I love how you are saying all the women there are crazy. No they are not, but what I have noticed in my area anyway is the guys that are not even very attractive get A LOT of attention online. I don't know what it is, but it is making them think they are hot **** when they are not unfortunately. I have met tons and I mean TONS of guys online. Went on a lot of first dates, usually there was no spark for me. I have a spark with maybe 1 out of 8 online guys....so that is a lot of time wasted I guess. In my area you have to be really pro-active as a female and log in and browse the guys otherwise they will go for the girls that are being aggressive and emailing them first. At least you get dates. I've done online dating for two years and only had two dates with one person. All the other girls disappear whenever I ask to meet up, or they never respond to my first message.
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