truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 No it won't. There's nothing in a letter that's going to change a mind or give him any type of closure. Actions speak louder than words, and sometimes, inaction. You're half right. The action of writing a letter then walking away can leave a lasting expression. Ever hear of a "Dear, John" letter? This isn't one in his case, but can have the same affect. For me, it gave me a peace of mind and allowed me to not think about the girl anymore.
truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I just don't get the 3 great dates and then peace out! Oh well... I tried. She flaked. Girls do that. Why? They're fickle. You won't be the last guy she does it to. Some women get scared and instead of tackling the issue head on then choose to run away. It's easier for them to not confront but rather do nothing hoping you will go away. It's a weak move on their part, but it tells you what kind of character they have. In the long run you are so better off without her. 1
JesseJames Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I just don't get the 3 great dates and then peace out! Oh well... I tried. Well, **** 'em and feed 'em fish. That's what grandpappy always told. And I'm all the way right. There's no evidence she's reading anything in the first place, it's FB.
truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 You're half right. The action of writing a letter then walking away can leave a lasting expression. Ever hear of a "Dear, John" letter? This isn't one in his case, but can have the same affect. For me, it gave me a peace of mind and allowed me to not think about the girl anymore. Sorry, meant IMPRESSION.
truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 There's no evidence she's reading anything in the first place, it's FB. That I agree with. There's no way to tell if people read their Facebook messages.
JesseJames Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Just swing over her a gorillagram with your picture and a WTF? written on it. She gets to learn about reaction to inaction, and you have a better story to tell. 1
jobaba Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 So, I was seeing this chick... she stopped talking to me, no response to texts, does not sign into gmail chat anymore. Nothing.. all out of no where, things were going well and then nothing. For some reason though, she has not deleted me from Facebook. I don't get it and to make matters weirder, I think she is posting music videos on her wall with lyrics that kind of pertain to our situation. One was a Cure song called Push in which Robert Smith talks about a woman pushing him away and later on kind of destroying him. Kind of what happened. I feel we started getting close and she wasn't ready for a more serious relationship and instead of facing it just dropped me. But why am I still on her Facebook list?! Why would she delete you? She dumped you and sounds like she doesn't have any feelings for you, so seeing your pics and facebook page wouldn't be bad for her. You should delete her.
TheFinalWord Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 (edited) So, I was seeing this chick... she stopped talking to me, no response to texts, does not sign into gmail chat anymore. Nothing.. all out of no where, things were going well and then nothing. For some reason though, she has not deleted me from Facebook. I don't get it and to make matters weirder, I think she is posting music videos on her wall with lyrics that kind of pertain to our situation. One was a Cure song called Push in which Robert Smith talks about a woman pushing him away and later on kind of destroying him. Kind of what happened. I feel we started getting close and she wasn't ready for a more serious relationship and instead of facing it just dropped me. But why am I still on her Facebook list?! There seems to be a lot of posts related to attention whore girls these days I don't know a lot about women, but this is one area I have expertise in haha Here is the thing, at the end of the day you will never know. I do think it is really wrong to not give someone closure. Even if she told you some fib, just something to give closure. Unfortunately, many men and women do not offer such common decency. When you like a girl and then get blown off, it can quickly turn into an obsession where you end up liking her more. I believe this is mainly b/c you want what you can't have. What you have to do starting TODAY is treat it just like a break up. Remove any artifacts of her: Start by blocking her on FB, then delete any pics, e-mails, and texts. Completely remove any hint of her from your life. There is nothing else you can do. You have tried reaching out already. Do not under ANY conditions initiate any more contact. Definitely do not send her any sweet letters that show her that she has complete control over your nut$. That will set off this "obsession" cycle. You have to let it go. Man up! Consider that she has already demonstrated poor communication and lack of character. Communication and character are essential to a successful relationship. I know you are left hanging, but if you have to picture her in your mind limit it to imaging being in a relationship with such an immature girl. You would die from stress and anxiety. After a break up you stop putting the girl first, and put your own health first. Up till now she has complete power. You only have one point of power: you can delete her from FBook. Oh, and she knows she hasn't removed you. She wants you to know she doesn't care. Now you have to show her that you don't! Edited April 20, 2012 by TheFinalWord
g450 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 That I agree with. There's no way to tell if people read their Facebook messages. LOL that's true. Thing is, she may not even know he is on there. There are a lot of women out there that have like a gazillion FB friends. The reason for this is because they are attention whores. Sadly, there are people like that. She most likely has low self esteem and she has a perfect fantasy life on FB to couteract the screwed up life she has in the real world.
whichwayisup Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 So, I was seeing this chick... she stopped talking to me, no response to texts, does not sign into gmail chat anymore. Nothing.. all out of no where, things were going well and then nothing. For some reason though, she has not deleted me from Facebook. I don't get it and to make matters weirder, I think she is posting music videos on her wall with lyrics that kind of pertain to our situation. One was a Cure song called Push in which Robert Smith talks about a woman pushing him away and later on kind of destroying him. Kind of what happened. I feel we started getting close and she wasn't ready for a more serious relationship and instead of facing it just dropped me. But why am I still on her Facebook list?! She probably has forgotten she has you on facebook. Question really is, why haven't you deleted her off of your facebook?
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