Surfer203 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 So, I was seeing this chick... she stopped talking to me, no response to texts, does not sign into gmail chat anymore. Nothing.. all out of no where, things were going well and then nothing. For some reason though, she has not deleted me from Facebook. I don't get it and to make matters weirder, I think she is posting music videos on her wall with lyrics that kind of pertain to our situation. One was a Cure song called Push in which Robert Smith talks about a woman pushing him away and later on kind of destroying him. Kind of what happened. I feel we started getting close and she wasn't ready for a more serious relationship and instead of facing it just dropped me. But why am I still on her Facebook list?!
truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 So, I was seeing this chick... she stopped talking to me, no response to texts, does not sign into gmail chat anymore. Nothing.. all out of no where, things were going well and then nothing. For some reason though, she has not deleted me from Facebook. I don't get it and to make matters weirder, I think she is posting music videos on her wall with lyrics that kind of pertain to our situation. One was a Cure song called Push in which Robert Smith talks about a woman pushing him away and later on kind of destroying him. Kind of what happened. I feel we started getting close and she wasn't ready for a more serious relationship and instead of facing it just dropped me. But why am I still on her Facebook list?! I've had Facebook issues with girls and I wouldn't put too much thought into it as it can drive you crazy, which is what she might want! Lets speculate: She's lazy to delete you.She forgot getting around to it.She doesn't care.She wants you on her page to keep you guessing, as she knows you will check it.She is playing games.She wants some space and still likes you. She wants you to chase her and give her attention.
Emilia Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Who knows? One of my exes has kept me on his msn. I deleted him ages ago when he posted a photo of himself with a girl (as it turned out it was an old photo of his with an ex, he just wanted to make me jealous) but last time I checked a few months ago, he still had my details saved on his side. Once I asked him to delete me because it felt weird that he kept me on but instead I stopped using that account. Some people are weird. He is also the type that will get close and then will distance himself. I have given up trying to work it out.
Author Surfer203 Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 Thanks and I don't think Philos was trolling... it's reasonable. Why can't I just man up and delete this b****? I think I am hoping it may work out in the future or something, haha. Chicks are weird.
Emilia Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Philosoraptor - if you have nothing better to do than troll with non helpful posts to members, please go back under your bridge. Ignore the troll Philosoraptor
Emilia Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Thanks and I don't think Philos was trolling... it's reasonable. Why can't I just man up and delete this b****? I think I am hoping it may work out in the future or something, haha. Chicks are weird. Guys can be just as weird. You want to forget about the bolded part. This is how drawn out agony starts. Seriously
truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Who knows? One of my exes has kept me on his msn. I deleted him ages ago when he posted a photo of himself with a girl (as it turned out it was an old photo of his with an ex, he just wanted to make me jealous) but last time I checked a few months ago, he still had my details saved on his side. Once I asked him to delete me because it felt weird that he kept me on but instead I stopped using that account. Some people are weird. He is also the type that will get close and then will distance himself. I have given up trying to work it out. lol. What a loser to post a pic with his ex only to make you jealous. People who do the disappearing act, need to disappear forever. They're not reliable or stable.
JesseJames Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 She stops everything and then pretends her life is the song. Come to think of it, I'm betting she wants you to do the deleting. hmmmmmmm Creative control. She's a total freak biotch dude. Run!
truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Thanks and I don't think Philos was trolling... it's reasonable. Why can't I just man up and delete this b****? I think I am hoping it may work out in the future or something, haha. Chicks are weird. Here's your solution to this: write her a nice note. Tell her what you're feeling and where you would like things to go. If she's a good person, she will write you back. If she isn't, you will never hear from her. Don't write the note hoping she will get back to you. Do it for yourself as a way of closure so you can move on. If she responds, great. If not, then you don't need her.
Emilia Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 They're not reliable or stable. Yeah, this is the bit I had to realise
JesseJames Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Here's your solution to this: write her a nice note. Tell her what you're feeling and where you would like things to go. If she's a good person, she will write you back. If she isn't, you will never hear from her. Don't write the note hoping she will get back to you. Do it for yourself as a way of closure so you can move on. If she responds, great. If not, then you don't need her. Don't do that, that's what she wants you to do. Do nothing and she'll crack, finally removing herself. I guarantee. Just, do, nothing.
Author Surfer203 Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 Yeah... I already have written her a note and no response. But the last time we hung out she said we were going to hang out again and blah blah blah...
Author Surfer203 Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 Owl, my friend... I get that.. but I don't understand how this woman has no balls.. she can't just tell me she isn't interested. My wife kind of did the same thing, just bailed on me with out a reason or explanation. It seems most people don't have the same morals I do and that's sad.
truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Don't do that, that's what she wants you to do. Do nothing and she'll crack, finally removing herself. I guarantee. Just, do, nothing. I disagree. Writing a note, if done right, works. You get your feelings out there and can walk away. Throw it all on her. Let it make her feel she let a great guy get away. She will either come running to him or will feel like a loser. He wins.
JesseJames Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 And a sucker you are. Women are all the more tricksy in snagging a man these days. They are just as tricksy in unsnagging them.
truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Yeah... I already have written her a note and no response. But the last time we hung out she said we were going to hang out again and blah blah blah... What kind of note? Did you leave it open-ended? Filled with hope she will give you attention? If you did, that was a mistake. Be strong, not bitter. The objective is to clear your mind and make her feel like she's an idiot. If she gets in touch, you win. If she doesn't, you still win because you got it all out of your system and walked away with a clear conscience.
Emilia Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Yeah... I already have written her a note and no response. But the last time we hung out she said we were going to hang out again and blah blah blah... I would delete her after that. This means she is a flake and a time waster. Maybe she is only after attention. I wouldn't have someone like that on my friendlist on facebook.
JesseJames Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I disagree. Writing a note, if done right, works. You get your feelings out there and can walk away. Throw it all on her. Let it make her feel she let a great guy get away. She will either come running to him or will feel like a loser. He wins. You did realize that she wasn't responding to anything at all? It looks like she, again, didn't respond. You fight a child by being a child back at her. Like she'll really change already knowing the dude is pretty interested already.
Author Surfer203 Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 Well, my last message to her was very mature. Just told her I thought things were going well and not sure what happened and would like to know. Also that I enjoyed getting to know her but understand if she is not interested in communicating anymore. That's all... held my head up high, nothing pitiful.
truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 You did realize that she wasn't responding to anything at all? It looks like she, again, didn't respond. You fight a child by being a child back at her. Like she'll really change already knowing the dude is pretty interested already. I'm trying to help the guy out so he won't continually look at her Facebook page wondering if everything she posts is a subliminal message to him. He writes the note so he can move on. It's his way of saying he thought they had something but was wrong. See ya. She reads it and will realize at some point, he went from being really interested to turned off. That will affect her.
truth_seeker Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Well, my last message to her was very mature. Just told her I thought things were going well and not sure what happened and would like to know. Also that I enjoyed getting to know her but understand if she is not interested in communicating anymore. That's all... held my head up high, nothing pitiful. I remember I hit off with this girl off a dating website, emailing, phone calls, and eventually went out on a date. The date was a disaster. She didn't resemble her photo, came off very insecure and defensive. We agreed to end the date early. I made it a point to be a gentleman till the end. I walked her to her car. Gave her a hug. I wished her well. When I got home I wrote her an email and told her that I enjoyed her company and wished the date had turned out better. Not a minute later, I get this email from her begging me to call her. She said she was crying, her life was a mess, she wanted a chance to do this again. I never responded. I didn't have to. My message to her was to get a response and for me to walk way. It worked.
JesseJames Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I'm trying to help the guy out so he won't continually look at her Facebook page wondering if everything she posts is a subliminal message to him. He writes the note so he can move on. It's his way of saying he thought they had something but was wrong. See ya. She reads it and will realize at some point, he went from being really interested to turned off. That will affect her. No it won't. There's nothing in a letter that's going to change a mind or give him any type of closure. Actions speak louder than words, and sometimes, inaction.
Author Surfer203 Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 I just don't get the 3 great dates and then peace out! Oh well... I tried.
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