LasVegasGuy Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 (edited) My first ex that brought me to loveshack 7 years ago, had me stumped, on loveshack begging for advice on how to get her back, making mutiple threads per day, plotting and scheming, and it wasn't keeping NC that made me get over her, it was breaking NC!! We all have preferences for love, person must be sexy, a certain height, certain age group, smart, or just a person that cares for you. Well my mother and sisters have always raised me date someone who has no kids, so I can start my own family fresh, and guess what, the EX HAD A KID. I find this unattractive, and isn't that the whole part of the GIGS syndrome? A ex no longer in love with you, no longer attractive to them rather it be personality or appearance. So lets just call this girl (A) I am completely over her, no longer want her, no feelings, just gone. So girl (B) same issue, GIGS, and she now has a kid also in which I found out 2 weeks ago for breaking NC. Over girl (B) no longer thinking about her and thinking about reconciling. So when I think about it, imagine if I never broke NC. I would still be thinking about my exs day in and out. Breaking NC however did the opposite, it caused me to give up hope, and also no longer want my ex gf as a romantic interest. Edited April 20, 2012 by LasVegasGuy 1
Author LasVegasGuy Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 Now true both of them are single parents, but hey, it's just the thought that I would have been sitting there pondering about a person that does not meet my romantic interest requirements.
WordvAction Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 That's awesome that you are over your exes, but that does not mean NC doesn't work. I highly doubt if you had maintained NC, that you would have spent the rest of your life pondering on these exes anyway. You happened to find something in your exes that you find unattractive enough for you to lose feelings/desire to date them, but I don't think everyone is as lucky as you in that regards. Congratulations on getting over both girl A and B and good luck on finding the right person for you!
CopingGal Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Without NC, I would be a mess. The more I stay away from that worthless bastard, the better.
xxSRMxx Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Different strokes for different folks!! NC works for some, some it doesn't...It's helped me for now...
Author LasVegasGuy Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 Yea, NC wants wonders in some cases, but when they don't you might need to force yourself to get closure and move on.
Jadempk Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I am not sure if NC will work for me...i's just been 24hrs:eek: My ex has been pretty supportive considering he dosen't want me. He's helping me move and get on my feet and I have (admittedly) smothered him a little with texts trying to get an explanation. I have tried helping him too because he said he is no happy with who/what he is and no aspect in life is making him happy. I wanted to help because I thought he might have depression but e really dosen't wanna talk about it. ANYWAY texting him and getting responses that aren't always favourable and looking back through our relationship I can identify times where I think he may be stressed/dealing with anxiety and has crumbled and felt anger,ect. The things he would get up me about and the little things he sometimes did that hurt me so much have become a little clearer and it's helping me think maybe everything will be ok.
Author LasVegasGuy Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 I am not sure if NC will work for me...i's just been 24hrs:eek: My ex has been pretty supportive considering he dosen't want me. He's helping me move and get on my feet and I have (admittedly) smothered him a little with texts trying to get an explanation. I have tried helping him too because he said he is no happy with who/what he is and no aspect in life is making him happy. I wanted to help because I thought he might have depression but e really dosen't wanna talk about it. ANYWAY texting him and getting responses that aren't always favourable and looking back through our relationship I can identify times where I think he may be stressed/dealing with anxiety and has crumbled and felt anger,ect. The things he would get up me about and the little things he sometimes did that hurt me so much have become a little clearer and it's helping me think maybe everything will be ok. Might be possible, I don't know see why NC would work for everyone, afterall we all are wrong. True in the begining NC was a blessing, but without I would still be all over the ex, ignorance is not bliss.
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