Chrisal23 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Hi, I would like some advice on what to do. My ex-gf broke up with me claiming im not the same and that she's had enough. We haven't spoke since 2 weeks. I texted her this morning and she responded vaigue. Since my last reply she hasn't texted back. I don't feel like texting her since I obviously was important enough for her to text me back. What should I do, is NC the best option?
olivec Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Hi, I would like some advice on what to do. My ex-gf broke up with me claiming im not the same and that she's had enough. We haven't spoke since 2 weeks. I texted her this morning and she responded vaigue. Since my last reply she hasn't texted back. I don't feel like texting her since I obviously was important enough for her to text me back. What should I do, is NC the best option? how long were you guys together? if theres any chance of getting back together i would go NC and give her alot of space. in the mean time focus on yourself.
Author Chrisal23 Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 Hi Olivec, thanks for responding Well we've been together for 2 years. It's been and on and off relationship. The first time we ever broke up was because I talked to another girl for advice. She claimed that it was wrong that she wouldn't do that yet she was asking for space to go out with another man. She also went alone to eat with that man claiming she felt bad and all they did was talk about me . which i still think is bs and even so still makes me mad she did that. The only thing i felt like i did wrong was talk with my ex after breaking up with this girl, but I only did since I had noone else to go to or at least I felt isolated that way. Yea of course I also made other mistake big ones and small ones but it makes me mad since it feels like im the only one who had to face their mistakes, when she never said her mistakes. But yea I think your right I'll go NC and focus on my life. It's just hard and it makes me mad I texted her and she texted me only to leaving me hanging in the end. 1
olivec Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Hi Olivec, thanks for responding Well we've been together for 2 years. It's been and on and off relationship. The first time we ever broke up was because I talked to another girl for advice. She claimed that it was wrong that she wouldn't do that yet she was asking for space to go out with another man. She also went alone to eat with that man claiming she felt bad and all they did was talk about me . which i still think is bs and even so still makes me mad she did that. The only thing i felt like i did wrong was talk with my ex after breaking up with this girl, but I only did since I had noone else to go to or at least I felt isolated that way. Yea of course I also made other mistake big ones and small ones but it makes me mad since it feels like im the only one who had to face their mistakes, when she never said her mistakes. But yea I think your right I'll go NC and focus on my life. It's just hard and it makes me mad I texted her and she texted me only to leaving me hanging in the end. Your doing the right thing trust me man. i've been where your at right now and I know how ****ty it can be. Don't let yourself get caught up into her games because you'll only get used at this point and make you even more frustrated. If she wants space thats exactly what yu give her even if shes comes with sappy responses later on which will probably happen at some point. Also you might have to face the fact that you guys may never get back together.
callmegee Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 When there's no progress, just stop. To keep going in the same direction expecting different results would be really silly. Keep up the NO CONTACT.
budley12 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I agree with the NC. However I would give one last brief statement saying your feelings and what you would like to come of the relationship. After that, I would leave it. But you have to be strong and LEAVE IT. I made the mistake by giving 3 "last resort efforts", which only shows being desperate and mind games. I hate this line, and hated it when people used it on me but: "If its meant to be it will be". Depending on how/if she responds to your one last heartfilled attempt you will then have to make a decision. Do you try and work on your relationship, where it could fail yet again (my ex took me back 3weeks after BU, but he said "it wasn't what I was expecting" and it hurt even worse than the first BU). Or do you move on and find someone else with no baggage -a true clean slate.
Author Chrisal23 Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 I already picture my ex (this one) going out with another boy and a specific person! She once claimed that she wanted a break and a year later confessed that it was because she was curious on dating someone else! This really makes me mad and feel stupid. A lot of things make me feel bad. She also said that she wouldn't delete him from Facebook. But the thing is she said because she didn't want him to question why she deleted him. Whether or not deleting him from Facebook was right the fact that she cared about his feelings as opposed to mine or the same makes me wonder. Lately I've been wanting to talk to my other ex who I dated about 3 years ago. Idk if this is the right thing to do at the moment . Would it be wrong? or too soon? I feel that my current ex will replace me easily and I don't plan to wait for her anymore especially since all the things i went through. But either ways I'm still not certain, maybe I haven't contacted her because I have false hopes in returning with my current ex. This makes my head spin.
HollyBolly Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Chrisal, your avatar says Sing Gung, which means 'succeed' or 'success'. You will not Sign Gung unless you stay NC. Keep at it and good luck! You will be fine.
olivec Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I already picture my ex (this one) going out with another boy and a specific person! She once claimed that she wanted a break and a year later confessed that it was because she was curious on dating someone else! This really makes me mad and feel stupid. A lot of things make me feel bad. She also said that she wouldn't delete him from Facebook. But the thing is she said because she didn't want him to question why she deleted him. Whether or not deleting him from Facebook was right the fact that she cared about his feelings as opposed to mine or the same makes me wonder. Lately I've been wanting to talk to my other ex who I dated about 3 years ago. Idk if this is the right thing to do at the moment . Would it be wrong? or too soon? I feel that my current ex will replace me easily and I don't plan to wait for her anymore especially since all the things i went through. But either ways I'm still not certain, maybe I haven't contacted her because I have false hopes in returning with my current ex. This makes my head spin. I would suggest not talking to any of your other ex's as your only gunna compare them to your current ex. Unless your completely free of your feelings towards your current ex which takes a lot of time I would focus on yourself and not trying to get back with someone else in your past. I did that and thankfully nothing happend which was a good thing. But everybody is different and since your feelings are all over the place your gunna want that instant feelings of closeness from somone which could lead to rebound sex and then things would get even more messy and effect someone else. You don't want that extra drama man trust me. Just hang with your friends keep NC going with your ex and slowly move on from this. You gotta stay strong and do this for yourself.
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