Sugarkane Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Since as doing the right thing and doing full NC has never even made remotly any difference at all. Maybe I should do what George Katzanza did in Seinfeild episode and do the opposite of what I usually do. 1
LasVegasGuy Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 It does nothing, I have done the beg and cry, "true" that it if does work, it's mostly out of guilt in that case the ex will still leave again or be seeing someone else behind your back. Save your self some dignity. 1
Mr Scorpio Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I fail to see how begging and pleading to a person will make them desire you. If a person doesn't want to be with you, absence might make the heart grow fonder. Begging and groveling, however, won't serve to raise your stock in anyone's eyes. Maybe in their ego, but not their eyes. 2
WordvAction Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Would you want to date someone that you dumped and kept crying and pleading to you to take you back or would you rather date someone that you dumped and is back on their feet doing well. The purpose of No Contact is to get over an ex, not to make them want you mate. Work on yourself
KathyM Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 If your goal is to get the guy back, then don't refuse his calls or his contact. But also don't beg and plead. Limited contact is the way to go for rekindling feelings for a person. No contact is for people who are trying to get over the person and move on with their life.
Sophie99 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 All I used to think about was how I could get my ex back, and I would try all sorts of rubbish you hear on the internet. After a while I realised, if I ever did my some miracle get him back, it would never be the same as it was before. And who wants damaged goods? I just realised it wasn't meant to be 2
LasVegasGuy Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 All I used to think about was how I could get my ex back, and I would try all sorts of rubbish you hear on the internet. After a while I realised, if I ever did my some miracle get him back, it would never be the same as it was before. And who wants damaged goods? I just realised it wasn't meant to be Awesome pov. Its true that you will always have in the back of your mind, that this person hurt me, left me, cheated on me. I remember admitting to my ex that if we ever did get back together that I wouldn't be that loving, caring, faithful guy. That she has taught me nothing is promised.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Since as doing the right thing and doing full NC has never even made remotly any difference at all. Maybe I should do what George Katzanza did in Seinfeild episode and do the opposite of what I usually do. Crying and pleading does nothing but make you look like an ass and the other person feel extra awkward...Or...Inflate their already inflated ego:) If a person doesn't want to stay, crying and pleading won't do a darned thing. It's wasted energy that could be better used for yourself to heal and move on. If you have to cry/beg over someone, they are hardly worth your time. I wouldn't waste my farts around them. 1
Eddie Edirol Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Crying, begging, and pleading, or constantly telling them how they hurt you might give them extreme guilt, but it wont get them back. Begging isnt the way to make a person attracted to you. 1
shayla Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Am I the only one that saw the sarcasm in your original post? Ha! Seriously, I don't think it makes a bit if difference what you do at the end of a relationship, my motto is, save myself pain and suffering, all else....not my concern!
Randybrandt Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Did your ex make you happy? Probably not... Would you even want them back probably not. So you probably answered your own question. Sometimes our minds get in a haze and we get mixed up in our own emotions and we get confused and we remember the grand times but we do not remember the sickening ones. My ex was crazy and self-centered so personally I would never want her back sure she was grand when we first started dating but that was the so called honeymoon period and it went spiraling down soon after that. Think about it OP I am not sure if you are being sarcastic or not but think about it do you really want to be ex and would you really beg for them back and cry if they treated you like rubbish? 1
Comfortably Numb Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Since we are going down this road, might as well show some character and do it with class Here
xxSRMxx Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Ive cried and pleaded...its not cool and i was called weak when i did it, since then ive made it my mission to prove him wrong (and myself) ive gone NC ive got mysterious missed calls and my ex has reactivated his fb to be nosey....but who gives a dam. Im getting to the point where the hurt ive gone through the past couple of weeks, I personally dont think i can forgive my ex for.... When u get to that point, its a bit of a turning corner... Dont beg, dont beat yourself up, not worth it. 1
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