lettersnumbers Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Back for a little more advice.. Things havent really moved anywhere since my last post. I eventually answered her calls, she begged me to talk to her, I said okay I want to talk, it's been a week and we still haven't had the talk she's just treating us like were back together. I feel this woman is impossible to talk to, it goes in one ear and right out the other, what more can I say? I'm exhausted by it all, there is nothing more I can say, I break up with her and she keeps on going like were together. Told her I was unhappy tonight, no reply.. Guessing she's out somewhere getting high with her friends and I'll get a message tomorrow with some story. Haven't seen her in three weeks now and I'm tired of asking to make plans. She blows me off, won't tell her parents about me, basically treats me like I don't exist until she has nothing else to do then it's me she's calling up. You know the only time she made any effort was when I left her and ignored her last week? That was only because she thought she lost me. I don't know what to do, I leave and she continues on like we are together, I tell her I'm unhappy she nods along but nothing changes.. Would ignoring her be a bad idea? We arnt together, but says we can't see other people, told me she's not ready for a relationship.. I'm just the idiot who turns down other women while I wait around for a woman who's only interested in me 25% of the time. I don't understand why I'm so scared to walk away when I doubt she would even care if I did. Walking away feels almost impossible, how do I do it?
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Back for a little more advice.. Things havent really moved anywhere since my last post. I eventually answered her calls, she begged me to talk to her, I said okay I want to talk, it's been a week and we still haven't had the talk she's just treating us like were back together. I feel this woman is impossible to talk to, it goes in one ear and right out the other, what more can I say? I'm exhausted by it all, there is nothing more I can say, I break up with her and she keeps on going like were together. Told her I was unhappy tonight, no reply.. Guessing she's out somewhere getting high with her friends and I'll get a message tomorrow with some story. Haven't seen her in three weeks now and I'm tired of asking to make plans. She blows me off, won't tell her parents about me, basically treats me like I don't exist until she has nothing else to do then it's me she's calling up. You know the only time she made any effort was when I left her and ignored her last week? That was only because she thought she lost me. I don't know what to do, I leave and she continues on like we are together, I tell her I'm unhappy she nods along but nothing changes.. Would ignoring her be a bad idea? We arnt together, but says we can't see other people, told me she's not ready for a relationship.. I'm just the idiot who turns down other women while I wait around for a woman who's only interested in me 25% of the time. I don't understand why I'm so scared to walk away when I doubt she would even care if I did. Walking away feels almost impossible, how do I do it? ...ewwwww. Sorry, but...ewwww. You know you don't need this. She is immature and is calling the shots. Deep down you know you want to move on---you turned down other ladies while being in limbo for this person who is flighty at best. Change your number; it's over. Delete/block from FB. It's time for you to stop waiting around like her chump and move in a positive direction. Other ladies are interested in you!!! Possibilties, my friend:) The good heart in you doesn't want to have to hurt her feelings, but she doesn't sound like someone who could make you happy. And I am sooooo not a fan of 'getting high'. If a person can't manage to be in control of their own faculties, screw that noise. 2
macardent Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Back for a little more advice.. Things havent really moved anywhere since my last post. I eventually answered her calls, she begged me to talk to her, I said okay I want to talk, it's been a week and we still haven't had the talk she's just treating us like were back together. I feel this woman is impossible to talk to, it goes in one ear and right out the other, what more can I say? I'm exhausted by it all, there is nothing more I can say, I break up with her and she keeps on going like were together. Told her I was unhappy tonight, no reply.. Guessing she's out somewhere getting high with her friends and I'll get a message tomorrow with some story. Haven't seen her in three weeks now and I'm tired of asking to make plans. She blows me off, won't tell her parents about me, basically treats me like I don't exist until she has nothing else to do then it's me she's calling up. You know the only time she made any effort was when I left her and ignored her last week? That was only because she thought she lost me. I don't know what to do, I leave and she continues on like we are together, I tell her I'm unhappy she nods along but nothing changes.. Would ignoring her be a bad idea? We arnt together, but says we can't see other people, told me she's not ready for a relationship.. I'm just the idiot who turns down other women while I wait around for a woman who's only interested in me 25% of the time. I don't understand why I'm so scared to walk away when I doubt she would even care if I did. Walking away feels almost impossible, how do I do it? Bro just walkaway because one day she would. Been in a same situation it was ugly breakup!. trust just walkaway.. 2
Frank13 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Lettersnumbers, I could have written your story almost word for word about an ex. When I finally had enough and left for good, she made a couple half-assed attempts at contact which I ignored and I haven't heard from her since. Realize that you don't me that much to her. Ignore her and get on with your life. When it seems like they don't care, they don't. If nothing else, give NC a good try and see if she comes after you. Other than a couple attempts, I think she will eventually stop which will tell you everything you need to know.
callmegee Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Lettersnumbers, I could have written your story almost word for word about an ex. When I finally had enough and left for good, she made a couple half-assed attempts at contact which I ignored and I haven't heard from her since. Realize that you don't me that much to her. Ignore her and get on with your life. When it seems like they don't care, they don't. If nothing else, give NC a good try and see if she comes after you. Other than a couple attempts, I think she will eventually stop which will tell you everything you need to know. I can ditto what you (LettersNumbers) & Frank said about an ex too. I agree with the rest in here that you should just shut this gal out of your life for good and take some time for yourself and make way for some one new. You deserve better than to be trampled on like this. Life's too short for crappy people like her, man.
Author lettersnumbers Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 (edited) Tried to talk to her about it today, we started arguing again and she told me to beep off.. the usual routine is that she says that, we go silent for a few hours then i tell her im sorry and i shut up.. broke the routine, told her if shes not happy, if she can do better then go and do it because im not going to settle for anything less than what i want. Lets wellcome me to the breakup club.. if you can call it that since we werent in a relationship and it was only 7 months together Edited April 20, 2012 by lettersnumbers
callmegee Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 You sound like you haven't quite decided to let her go or not. Thus this limbo continues with no real progress and friend, limbos like this can go on for a long time if u let it. Make up your mind! With all the great women you are ignoring, when this crazy gal is the one you should be ignoring. Now it's not about her doing better, it's really about you doing better and taking care of yourself for a change. Cut the contact with her and just move on. It's good for you.
stillafool Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I don't understand why I'm so scared to walk away when I doubt she would even care if I did. Walking away feels almost impossible, how do I do it? What do you find so irresistable about her that you feel you can't get elsewhere? 1
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