macardent Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Hi everyone, posted here a few times before. Got very good advice, people said remain NC and try to heal and everything. I get that stuff. I am doing what was told but the problem is the girl told me not to ever call her again. She hates me as a person. I acted very childish after the breakup since she just wanted to be friends. And I called her a slut. Hate my self for it. She dumped me out of the blue though I must admit I wasn't able to see her all the time, like once a week but would talk to her on the phone every other day. I was never childish during the relationship would respect every decision of hers. I even didn't mind her hanging out alone with her guy friends, I didnt mind her going clubbing without me. She hates me. Is there anyway I can get her back? A friend of mine who is married now and had many relationships said she will call me if I don't call her for a month. And even if she does call how do I respond? I begged her to come back but she somehow thought its about my ego and I dont really love her. Is there anyway I can show her that i am a stronger person now since I lost all respect by begging her to come back. It was a 7 months relationship. I am almost 23 and she is 20. if and when she calls, how do i respond? should i pickup? I really want to look like i am in control of my life. Since I kinda am, just became a president of this organization in my college also I just bought a website. So things are looking great. Please Help Me. And ladies please don't get me wrong I really do LOVE HER! She is the only thing in my mind. It is not about my ego.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Hi everyone, posted here a few times before. Got very good advice, people said remain NC and try to heal and everything. I get that stuff. I am doing what was told but the problem is the girl told me not to ever call her again. She hates me as a person. I acted very childish after the breakup since she just wanted to be friends. And I called her a slut. Hate my self for it. She dumped me out of the blue though I must admit I wasn't able to see her all the time, like once a week but would talk to her on the phone every other day. I was never childish during the relationship would respect every decision of hers. I even didn't mind her hanging out alone with her guy friends, I didnt mind her going clubbing without me. She hates me. Is there anyway I can get her back? A friend of mine who is married now and had many relationships said she will call me if I don't call her for a month. And even if she does call how do I respond? I begged her to come back but she somehow thought its about my ego and I dont really love her. Is there anyway I can show her that i am a stronger person now since I lost all respect by begging her to come back. It was a 7 months relationship. I am almost 23 and she is 20. if and when she calls, how do i respond? should i pickup? I really want to look like i am in control of my life. Since I kinda am, just became a president of this organization in my college also I just bought a website. So things are looking great. Please Help Me. And ladies please don't get me wrong I really do LOVE HER! She is the only thing in my mind. It is not about my ego. Sorry, but no self-respecting woman would EVER speak to a fellow who called her a "slut"...Time to move on and chalk it up as a lesson learned. 1
Author macardent Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 Sorry, but no self-respecting woman would EVER speak to a fellow who called her a "slut"...Time to move on and chalk it up as a lesson learned. Ahh men.. There is gotta be a way to fix this? Maybe a year from now or something? I know what u are saying seems right at the moment but I still think she loves me. Her friends and sisters are probably telling her to do this since she mentioned it!
Reddice Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I've never called my ex GF a slut, not even after she left me for another man. I never insulted her or disrespected her in any way. You see, the problem with this kind of behaviour is that you will prove her right. She now has all she needs to convince herself (and friends, family, relatives) that you were not right for her and that you did not treat her well. Sometimes I do wish I had said something like this though... she deserved it. However it may be, I don't think the result would have been any different though. Not in your case, nor in mine. She had decided to leave, so she did. All you can do now is go on NC and perhaps, if you're lucky, she will contact you again. 1
geegirl Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 You can't expect to speak to someone in that manner without suffering repercussions. You've tainted yourself. This is how she views you because this is how you've represented yourself. Let her be. There is nothing you can do. When you wound someone that way, it's not your decision to make peace but it is hers to decide. If she calls, then pick up and speak to her like an adult, if you feel speaking to her will help you alleviate your remorse and help you explain yourself. Only if that is your objective. No need for game playing and trying to get the upper hand. 1
callmegee Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 The ball is in her court now.... and it could be a long wait for her to forgive you and whether she'll want to give u another chance, that's entirely up to her. You've already apologized. That's done. Let this go for a few MONTHS at least.... see if your feelings for her will change.
Author macardent Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 Thanks a lot for your help guys. I am moving on. People here are so helpful. She did say she forgave me but will never forget it. I guess she might be going through GIGS when she broke up with me. That is why she never gave me a valid reason for breaking up with me. She broke up and after she said that she loves her self more. I don't know how by hurting the person you love makes you love your self more. That is way too childish. I'm glad that its over but I will always have a place in my heart for the person she once was. AGAIN THANK YOU SO MUCH GUYS! I LOVE YOU ALL
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