mano1 Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 (edited) I've been with my girlfriend for 7 months now. Things have been going very good. And i love her very much. I always wanted to be with a respected girl good clean girl that would do stuff with boyfriends only but... she told me 3 months ago about that she had some one-night stand before we met like 3 years ago with this nasty dude and that made me angry. I 'm struggling with the notion that she had sex with this dude . And i'm the kind of guy that if she tells you she had 3 guys in her past she probably had 6, not that i don't trust, but i kind of believe her because she told me about it and she did not have too, i lost respect for her, but I still love her. I would like to know, how would you deal with it, I really don't like the fact that she had sex like that and i don't want to have problems in the future, nor i want to waste her or my time and i am not sure if i want to marry her anymore because of the way i perceive her sometimes... please help me with this??? Edited April 19, 2012 by mano1
january2011 Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 My take is that if you don't respect her then you don't really love her. And if you don't think you want to marry her, that suggests that you doubt you have a long-term future together. You have a certain image of the girl that you'd like as your girlfriend and this girl is incompatible with that image. It seems that you can't reconcile this at your end. So, I'd advise letting her go so that she can be with someone who will not judge her for her past.
Author mano1 Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 Don't get me wrong i am respectful guy and i don't like to judge anybody, but sometimes i do get that way and i pretty sure i am not the only one lol... Thats the truth! and its not easy to decide to let her go, this are not french fries because i do care for her allot i really love her it's just that the fact of that bothers me. i want to make a decision of staying or leaving and not complicate this anymore and i really appreciate the advices.
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