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I've kinda set the age range for my man to be between [same age as me] to about [12 years my senior].

 

You think I should widen or narrow the age gap range?

 

What age gap range would you accept for your mate?

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Actually most women tend to have exactly your type of range. That is to say it skews towards the older rather than the younger. I'm 25 (and a male), and if I were single my range would be 19-35. But most women just aren't interested in dating younger men, so you're not alone there.

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Actually most women tend to have exactly your type of range. That is to say it skews towards the older rather than the younger. .

 

No they don't.

 

My observation is that most women's age ranges are balanced, while men's skew younger... often much younger. Other women (and men here) have backed that up.

 

To the OP, post whatever age range you are interested in. It doesn't really matter. If men find you attractive in OLD, they won't care what you have down for your age range and will email you anyway. Which is the source of alot of frustration for women doing OLD, to be honest.

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No they don't.

 

My observation is that most women's age ranges are balanced, while men's skew younger... often much younger. Other women (and men here) have backed that up.

 

Well, here in wonk/world salvation headquarters (aka D.C.) the women in their 20s and early 30s are all preferring men their age plus 8-10. Every woman I know is that way. I've yet to come across a 25 year old woman who said she'd date a 21 year old man, I have come across women 25 years old who wanted to date a 35 year old man. YMMV

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im 20, 18-28, as get older it probably be wider.

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When you are younger, you want someone older. When you are older, you want someone younger. Male or female.

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Well, here in wonk/world salvation headquarters (aka D.C.) the women in their 20s and early 30s are all preferring men their age plus 8-10. Every woman I know is that way. I've yet to come across a 25 year old woman who said she'd date a 21 year old man, I have come across women 25 years old who wanted to date a 35 year old man. YMMV

 

Keep dreaming. +10 is a stretch. Gets worse as you get older.

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Keep dreaming. +10 is a stretch. Gets worse as you get older.

 

Well I'm married to a fantastic woman (how many cute Pakistani anarchists am I really going to meet in my life?), it's no skin off my nose what anyone prefers or doesn't prefer. I'm just reporting what I see ma'am. :)

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No they don't.

 

My observation is that most women's age ranges are balanced, while men's skew younger... often much younger. Other women (and men here) have backed that up.

 

Sorry, but this just doesn't square up with the age range requirements I see on match, POF, and other dating sites every day. I'm looking at profiles 20-35 and they will go at most 5 years younger, but typically at 10+ older. A typical 28 year old sets her range at ~26-40. Maybe this balance doesn't kick in until 40+

 

For myself, at 28 I will ideally aim for girls from 22-26, but will go as low as 19 and as high as 33 or so for those that stand out enough above the pack.

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Within 5 years is plenty for me these days. I tried dating the 23 year old a few years back. What a train wreck.

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You think I should widen or narrow the age gap range?

 

What age gap range would you accept for your mate?

 

I think that's entirely up to you. As long as you are at a similar stage in life, age can be quite an arbitrary criterion when it comes to dating and relationships.

 

Having said that though, we must put something into the dating search engine and when I was OLD, I had a very narrow age range for my searches: two years below me and four years above me. I knew that I'd narrowed my dating pool considerably and accepted that. I think it was my challenge to the universe to come up with someone who would fall within that range, since part of me believed that it would be impossible to find someone. However, the universe answered.

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When you are younger, you want someone older. When you are older, you want someone younger. Male or female.

 

Sure who wouldn't want to date someone much younger, it makes you feel energized and youthful...Men and Women.

 

I'm in my 30s and I prefer someone that is +/- 5 years. I'm a guy and although I would be stocked in dating a 25 year or less female, I think that the maturity level will not be there in dating someone really young. So most guys won't mind or brag that they date someone much younger. But in reality, I think the age range is pretty balance for men.

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I was a late bloomer so tend to relate to younger men. The oldest I've dated has been 9 years and two looked and acted "too old" to me. I dated one in each decade - 20s, 30s, 40s - met two of them IRL (worked at same company), one OLD. So no particular pattern.

 

Even now dating someone ten years younger, they are more mature than I am since most are divorced with kids and I'm not.

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Sorry, but this just doesn't square up with the age range requirements I see on match, POF, and other dating sites every day. I'm looking at profiles 20-35 and they will go at most 5 years younger, but typically at 10+ older. A typical 28 year old sets her range at ~26-40. Maybe this balance doesn't kick in until 40+

 

For myself, at 28 I will ideally aim for girls from 22-26, but will go as low as 19 and as high as 33 or so for those that stand out enough above the pack.

 

I think this is location dependent. If there are more women than men where you are, then it is possible they will go up. The DC area (where another poster lives) is known for having lots more women than men.

 

Same works in reverse for men. In areas where there are fewer women than men, the men will go older as well.

 

In my search for places to live, this is a trend I specifically noticed. I'm not interested in men more than 5 years older.

 

This is why I"m moving out west. On average, there are many more men than women. Which means, my competition (younger women) will not be tempted or forced to indulge older men just to avoid being alone. Which is how I like it...

 

http://www.boreme.com/posting.php?id=11791&page=1

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