threebyfate Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 How would you know she doesn't leave her place unless you don't leave yours, even to go to work, staring 24/7 at her place? Are you sure she's home when her car's home? It's also possible that she leaves her lights on when she's not home. Too many assumptions here.
NateC Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Yea, but I don't get along with guys either... It's only a huge red flag if it's from the view point of someone to date. However, I am not interested in dating anyone so it's not a red flag in terms of "dating" cause no one will be dating me Most women don't seem to like me because I am not good at relating to other people; I am just not interested in hearing about their lives, jobs, kids etc. I just have no interest in relating to them or making small chit chat... I'm also not politically correct and very "off-beat" and non-traditional which most can't understand. Sound a lot like me...I don't tend to talk about things unless it matters. You won't catch me talking about the weather randomly...if I have something to say, I say it, but otherwise I don't.
jennisfora Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 i am an introverted woman, who i think would be considered attractive by most standards, although i am not a super model, or anything. i am not obese, and my face has features some would consider classical. i just am not that social, i just dont have a strong drive to be around people. i like alot of alone time, and i do have some social anxiety, although i can be pretty talkative in a small group. i kinda becoma a wall flower in a crowd, or a group over 5 people. i didn't consider it a problem really, but now im thinking of getting counselling because since my boyfriend left, not having a large social network has made it harder. plus, the fact that he may have got the notion that he was my world, despite me not calling him overly much, or being needy, but the fact that i wasn't socially active outside of him, might have contributed to him leaving. he might have assumed i needed him more than i actually did. either way, thats alot of assuming, but, figure i can try to fix it even though i didnt see it as a problem before. 3
M2155 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I know that girl very well. She is at home posting on Loveshack. 1
wwwjd Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I just have no interest in hearing about other people's lives or families; I really don't care at all. And now YOU know how people see YOU even if you are not trying to be that way: a rude human, or possibly man-hating b!tchy. What is so wrong with you extending the MINIMAL amount of common courtesy to other human beings on the planet?
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Please don't lie to yourself 'I just want to help her!' If she was a fat & nasty looking girl, you wouldn't give a damn. Obviously, I will do the same exactly. you guys are pathetic, it's so easy to see through your bs justifications... Can you explain to me where the OP said, "I just wanna help her!"? The OP clearly expressed he's attracted to her sexually but confused by her personality. What's wrong with this?
jennisfora Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 i guess that is why they call it getting out of your comfort zone, because it is uncomfortable. i have been shy most of my life, i was bullied as a kid, but, i dont really know how else to be? but i know it hinders my efforts to meet people, because often i am deep in thought, or reading, and people may be reluctant to approach me. my ex's family didn't like me because they saw me as passive, and quiet, and not his "type." they started to come around, though, but, i take a while to get to know. it is just how i am. *shrugs* 1
wwwjd Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Can you explain to me where the OP said, "I just wanna help her!"? The OP clearly expressed he's attracted to her sexually but confused by her personality. What's wrong with this? I think *I* was the one pegged as "helping" her. BUT, the difference is mine is NOT HOT. Not in anyway. I'm not even attracted to her, but that doesn't mean I can't be friendly and SMILE like a typical respectful person. I do think it is great these shy women are posting in the thread because it is really good to know you really are "ok" and not on the verge of empty depressed suicide like it seems to LOOK like to some of us. Maybe more than you think. In any case, I'll leave you alone with your deep thoughts and whatever. Just too bad you don't SEEM happier.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I just have no interest in hearing about other people's lives or families; I really don't care at all. Wow. You must be a really fun date! Just kidding.
Feelsgoodman Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 i didn't consider it a problem really, but now im thinking of getting counselling because since my boyfriend left, not having a large social network has made it harder. There's plenty of women on this board who need counseling but it doesn't sound like you are one of them. There is nothing wrong with a girl being a little shy and introverted. In fact, I see that as a positive quality in a potential girlfriend. 2
FitChick Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Attractive women and women in general don't really have to approach guys, they just need to be receptive to approaches. So as reclusive as she seems to be, there has got to have been many guys trying to get with her. And that is probably the reason she isn't dating now. She got sick of all the men, most annoying/unsuitable/unattractive bugging her and decided to take a break. For all the OP knows, she is newly divorced. I agree that if she were ugly, he wouldn't have even noticed. 1
JesseJames Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 This shy uman needs to be filibustered. FFFFilibustered soundly.
Author Imported Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 I know how to make guys not approach me because I do not want to be approached. Relationships are not important to me. I actually WANT to be alone forever. You keep posting like this, but you're posting on "Loveshack", in the "Romantic" catagory of the "Dating" section. A forum devoted to talking about relationships.
NYC-BigKat Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 A lot of females are also judgmental if you are anti social and don't like to go out and be by yourself. They can't understand it if I tell them I don't want kids (the truth is that I dislike them strongly and don't even find them cute). I hate having to fake it. I just never felt the need to "share" my experiences or "vent" things with other females. This is what most female friendships are based on; sharing experiences and a lot of it is listening about their life. Why do I need this? How is it a red flag? I am just not the type of person who needs "emotional comfort".... I'd rather analyze my own thoughts; I have no need to "talk things out" with someone. For some reason u dont sound very human .
2sunny Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I had a neighbor like this many years ago - she was a professional stripper. No wonder she could afford an expensive rent payment in a pricey neighborhood. When he landlord found out (she was actually dating the landlords son) she was quickly booted out of the house! And the BF broke it off...
2sunny Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 If she had a bf then she's not a hermit.... A true hermit, like me, doesn't have a bf nor do I want one. This girl has a bf visiting her. A TRUE hermit has no one visiting her But I only saw him come over the night he was screaming at her "how could you?" he stood there screaming about her job. I don't know how he didn't know... She got all made up and left the house late at night... Other than that she didn't see or speak to anyone that I could see.
oaks Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I'm going to be friendly when I see her, but not really push for anything. So why are we talking about this in the Dating forum?
irc333 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 (edited) Exactly. I never chit chat with random people about weather or their kids or how the line is long... I just be rather involved in my own thoughts. This is why most women don't like me; because I am not interested in hearing about them or their lives or chatting about mundane things. Of course if there is something important to say then I say it. I'm not afraid to speak up. I just have no interest in hearing about other people's lives or families; I really don't care at all. I take it you don't even have friends at all? I get perks all the time cause I'm cute. I doubt this. Edited April 20, 2012 by irc333
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I am pretty much a hermit now. Nobody visits except my parents every fortnight. I choose to live this way. I have been hurt by a bad break-up and have withdrawn from the world to heal. I enjoy being by myself and with my own thoughts. Why is that abnormal? She is probably a hermit by choice.
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 It's Friday night now and I have just turned down an invitation for a night out with the girls and this guy who wanted to come over for casual sex. I did it in favor of reading LS and watching a movie by myself.
irc333 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Yeah, from your post history, and more you post, you sound more like a troll than anything. Esp, when you said My Mercedes mechanic" as if you were even an owner of one. I had one friend but we had a falling out. At this moment, no friend, unless I make up with her. Why do you doubt me? I am a size 00, Asian, petite and many guys find me hot. If you don't believe me I can send you photos to prove it as well. My Mercedes mechanic constantly fixed things in my car for me for free and more major things below cost. Always complimenting and telling me how young I look. I was approached to do print/lifestyle modeling in L.A through a profile I have set up on an acting site with my resume and head shots. Even my boss gives me a lot of leeway because I think he has a crush on me. Don't believe me? I can PROVE that I am good looking. I got a 9.9 on HotorNot; that's not saying much but I am exotic looking and petite and I dress sexy. Why do you doubt that I get perks all the time because I am cute?
irc333 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 It's Friday night now and I have just turned down an invitation for a night out with the girls and this guy who wanted to come over for casual sex. I did it in favor of reading LS and watching a movie by myself. I did it in favor of reading LS Wow....don't tell your friends this.
sid3 Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 I am a hermit too, nothing wrong with that life style. I want to be an old sage one day living in the woods, helping knights fine wisdom on path to glory. With trolls?
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Just because someone is not very social does not mean that he or she is "socially awkward". You are being judgmental without even knowing the woman in question. Some people are very private and like to keep to themselves. There is also the possibility that she is involved in some sort of an illegal activity and wants to keep a low profile. I wasn't trying to be judgemental. I never strictly thought that if you weren't very social that you were automatically "socially ackward". And I really don't even know why you are picking on me because I said the same thng YOU did in resposne to the thread. That we could speculate all day about her but we really don't know. Geez. 1
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