luna45 Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 years. For the first few years, his ex-girlfriend tried to "steal" him away but failed (miserably). She is very good friends with my boyfriend's sister, and resorted to taking swipes at me through her (nasty public messages on F/B, etc). I have no idea why. My boyfriend and her had been broken up for 4 years before we started going out. Anyway a few years ago, his ex started a relationship some other poor soul and she is pregnant by him. She is giving birth to her spawn in a month or so. She is planning to come round to my boyfriend's parents' house (where they live with his sister) to show everyone the baby. She has asked his parents to be godparents. We will be there when she drops by. What on earth can I do? She knows that her staying in contact with his family irritates the heck out of me, and she takes any opportunity to come round and show how much of a link she has with them (organises holidays with them, asks for help with DIY stuff, asking his mum for recipes etc). I know my boyfriend is happy with me and I am not worried about them having an affair or anything. I just can't stand this woman coming round, acting all cosy with everyone. It sounds childish but I wish she would bugger off. The question: how can I get this woman to get lost? Or at least, how can I humiliate her at the next family gathering with her baby? All suggestions are welcome. I am fed up of being the patient doormat!!
MoneyWorld Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I guess I'm just old fashioned, but my suggestion would be do nothing. If you are secure in your current relationship, then their previous status shouldn't matter. Nor should it matter what the person has to say about you on social media or to his family. I'm sure they are halfway intelligent people that will quickly realize it's just one person bad mouthing the other, not a tit for tat, she said she said. If however you are not secure in your current relationship, then I would suggest working on that rather than trying to undermine one of his ex's.
Ellamay Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 LOL. This is kind of funny. Whats DIY stuff anyways? Well, if you ask me, shes living her own revenge kind of. Shes pregnant for a man who obviously doesnt care that much for her, and she has no choice but to go mooch attention from her ex whos clearly moved on and also doesnt care about her's family. Like seriously, she could not ask anyone else to be the Godparents? And she cant find any other man whos family will accept her? It sounds like shes living a sad life. Shes about to be a single mother who has to watch the man shes obsessed with love another woman everyday. Thats revenge enough.
Author luna45 Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 She doesn't seem to see that her life is pathetic, it seems like she has it all: a long-term boyfriend+baby, plus a little game showing she still has a place in her ex's family. Now she has asked his parents to be godparents, it means she really will be "part of the family". Makes me sick. DIY stuff is Do It Yourself. Like if there is a problem in her house, she will contact one of them to help. She comes round for coffee, she calls them her "virtual in-laws". She goes on holiday with them, she does them favours, she invites them round to her birthday party. She is such a boot-licking little turd. What is the best way to truly get one up on this cow?
Lil1 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Get pregnant and have spawn of your own? LOL! It isn't your place to do anything. If your BF knows she bothers you this much then he should avoid her.
CC12 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 You said it was only in the first few years of your six-year relationship that she was bothering him, so that's been done with for years now, correct? Sounds like she's moved on and has a nice life with her long-term boyfriend and new baby. Maybe you should learn to move on as well and stop taking her involvement with her very good friend (meaning your boyfriend's sister) so personally. You come across as really petty by calling her names, and particularly nasty for asking the internet how to humiliate her when she comes over to show the baby to its new godparents. Be better than that. Like if there is a problem in her house, she will contact one of them to help. She comes round for coffee, she calls them her "virtual in-laws". She goes on holiday with them, she does them favours, she invites them round to her birthday party. So they like her pretty well, then, huh? That's nice that they have a good relationship. How's their relationship with you?
Author luna45 Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 I know I seem petty and nasty but I just feel lost. Ever since the very beginning she has been a problem. She keeps a picture of my boyfriend and her in her purse (which she accidentally on purpose showed to me when she came round). She calls his family "her family". In my company she makes private jokes with them that I can't understand ("do you remember the time...."). When I am out of state she visits my boyfriend with his sister. For years I have been patient, thinking that this girl would eventually move on, but she won't. I am so tired of being super-nice and understanding that I lost it, hence these messages. Name-calling is the least she deserves, she is truly a devious piece of work. I don't have the least idea what to do, which is why I came on this forum to ask.
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