FitChick Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I too have wrapped up with therapy, did many years and healed enough to recover from extreme depression. I have recently realised that deep down I do not believe I am lovable. So what does it make me that my parents dont love me at all...... if the people that are supposed to be biased about me cannot find enough good in me to love how on earth is a stranger supposed to find it. I know its irrational - intellectually anyway but my emotions dont seem to listen very well. I am again back to trying to find a way out of this relationship, it would be much easier to not have to deal with all this stuff and I was quite content being single. I've got news for you. If you are willing to throw away what promises to be a wonderful relationship, you haven't "wrapped up" your therapy. As I suspected, your beliefs about not being lovable or good enough are controlling you. You know the source of them. Now allow a Lefkoe Method facilitator to help you eliminate them. I think one session could do it, frankly. You wouldn't have to make any sort of effort, as you do with conventional therapy. No trying to act differently. You automatically would be different and a lot happier in my opinion. "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make [her] drink!" Pity. I agree with you that if you aren't willing to be in a happy relationship you shouldn't date and hurt many wonderful, unsuspecting men. There are plenty of women who will snap them up.
Author Gaye Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make [her] drink!" Pity. I agree with you that if you aren't willing to be in a happy relationship you shouldn't date and hurt many wonderful, unsuspecting men. There are plenty of women who will snap them up. True. My first reaction to your truth was that I am not a bad person and don't set out to hurt anyone ever, and seeing as this is the first "wonderful, unsuspecting man" I have dated at least there is not a trail of wounded men in my wake. Contrary to how all this has sounded and the ramblings of a mad woman I am working extremely hard to make this relationship work. My goal in posting this was to gain some perspective. I appreciate being told the truth no matter how it may sting. Thank you
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