wwwjd Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 It's a way to keep my reckless dating ambitions in check. Plus, it lets me vent my frustration and desperation towards dating, something I cannot do in real life (see point #1.) Man, you need to let those reckless ambitions FLY!!! THAT is how to live. You can't do it because you seem to tell yourself that every day. Stop it. Time to change that. Unplug and go do some reckless ambition stuff.
verhrzn Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Man, you need to let those reckless ambitions FLY!!! THAT is how to live. You can't do it because you seem to tell yourself that every day. Stop it. Time to change that. Unplug and go do some reckless ambition stuff. I really don't feel like getting mooed at again. Or rejected again, and again, and again, and again... It's like D-Lish said, it just isn't worth it.
RedRobin Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I think more single people have this attitude deep down than will admit, and just cover it with a "everything is happy and I choose this!" to protect themselves from tumbling completely into disappointment and misery. ...or, some of us have been in relationships we were unhappy in and would rather be single than in a bad relationship. Being in a relationship does not guarantee happiness. You will have to find a way to manage your emotions and moods constructively if you want any relationship you do find to last. You don't need another person to start that work. It starts with you.
Feelsgoodman Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I think I've gotten to that point where I just can't be bothered to make an effort to be with anyone. It probably has a lot to do with being burned repeatedly and just not being willing to take any more chances when it comes to loving someone again. I couldn't even fathom meeting someone and going through the motions of getting to know them at this point. I've been there, done that enough times to be conditioned that relationships fail (for me). Having said the aforementioned, I'm also okay with the idea of being alone, I don't mind my own company. I feel the same way, except I can't say that I've been burned repeatedly. I guess my "problem" is that I'm simply not motivated to put in the effort necessary for building and maintaining a long-term relationship. Going through the motions, as you put it. The fact that most women nowadays are shallow, unintelligent and flaky isn't exactly helping things.
RedRobin Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I'm fine putting in the effort for a relationship. I invest in many things that I find are worthy... not just individuals.... but in the concept of investment itself. It would be nice if more people felt this way. One thing that keeps me out of most relationships is because people don't want to invest. Alot of the men I"ve met seem to be more about having a roommate with benefits. A fun-time girlfriend and playmate. Sure, who doesn't want to have fun?? We all do. As for me... I don't NEED to be married. I don't NEED a relationship at all. But I don't do anythng half-assed... at least not intentionally. I'm not going to attempt to pour my heart and soul into a person if they don't even believe in the concept of commitment... much less are not looking for one. I'm a buyer, not a renter. We can be great friends though. That, I can do. I can invest in lots of people at that level.
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