Tasion Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 We've all heard it a million times, but it finally happened to me. My ex and I had been together literally on/off for around 5 years. We have a gorgeous daughter together that we planned. But here's the mess: we never really "fit" together. I'm a flirt; he knew that when he got with me, it's what made him chase me. But he's very possesive. As in going through my phone everytime I was in the shower, my computer, facebook. And though nothing was ever found he would go off about a male I talked to or not picking up the first time he rang. Anyway I eventually moved 2 hours away thinking the dsitance might make things better, he might stop seeing shadows where there weren't any, and it seemed to be getting better. He stopped calling a dozen times, wanting a minute by minute account of where I have been etc. He stopped groping me little a sex toy. He was becoming the person I had meet. NOPE: it's all because he has a new gf. I was shocked and upset. Though I had an idea I asked dozens of times with the NO always being the response. When I confronted him about it, his response was "ypu cheated on me heaps" WTF????? I know better off without him but right now I want to slash tyres, gouge eyes, and throw lots of sharp objects! He's telling everyone he had a right to move on as I was a cheat. Shock horror he said the same thing about each ex before. GRRRRRR, I have lost faith in men!
Author Tasion Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 excuse the mistakes, angry rushed typing
Dark Phoenix Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Did you ever cheat... off/on for 5 years seems pretty open for speculation to me?
Author Tasion Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 no never cheated and it was on/off due to him moving back with his Dad after his heart attach etc but being away just made it worse. I have three children all under 10, I don't have the time
leoc1973 Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Lost faith in men?!? Wtf were you doing with a psycho for 5 years? Goes through your phone computer facebook? I have read somewhere that when someone has trust issues they themselves are up to no good. They can't understand how someone can be faithful when they themselves can't be. How did you meet this guy? did he already have a girlfriend at the time? If I caught a girlfriend going through my phone I would dump her ass immediately. Especially if it started before I had any real feelings for her. Without trust there really isn't any relationship. Thats kind of the point of being in a relationship because you want love and security from one other person in the world. Not have to worry about who his penis falls into every time he leaves the house. You don't have to lose faith in men. Actually statistics show that women cheat more than men. There are so many guys out there that if they love you they couldn't imagine cheating on you! Go find one and forget this completely broken damaged guy. There is nothing you can do to fix him he will always be like this. I don't know how old you are or if this is a first serious relationship but trust me.. This is not how its supposed to be or how it usually is.
Mcnulty Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 He's insecure and possibly a cheat himself. I think that if a person, with no proof is doing what he did going through your phone, it's because he may have been unfaithful. He's still pointing the finger at you now that he has a new GF, WTF, he's an idiot and paranoid at that. You have dodged a major bullet here. You have done nothing wrong. Try to be strong and move forward from him, sounds like a toxic relationship from the start. I wish you luck.
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