MrElusive Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 So I'm here today because I kind of need some advice on what I should do. Here's the low down: She's 16, turning 17 in 2 months and I'm 21(m). Before you start shouting out pedophile, she's not your average teenage girl, she's very mature for her age and I personally don't believe age reflects maturity, hell I was told I acted like a 25 year old when I was 16. Anyway, I met her around 6 months ago and we got off to a pretty good start. Fast forward to now - we still get on great, we're open with each other and we're both pretty laid back. Quite recently we've started to take a liking to each other, and just the other night we got into a little bit of foreplay around my house. Great, you're probably thinking, where's the issue here? Well, this girl is majorly into me(from what I gather, she's very loved up when around me) however, I'm not that into her. She's a great girl, and we get a long so well, we have plenty in common and in an ideal world she'd be the perfect girl for me. But I just can't seem to want to like her as much as she likes me. It's almost like I have an emotional barrier up and get scared at the thought of commitment/being in a relationship. That said, my previous relationship left me pretty badly emotionally bruised, it was hard for me to learn how to love myself but I got there in the end, and now that I'm there I feel as though this is the most comfortable place for me at the moment. But then I get days where I feel lonely and need a female companion in my life, ala, her. So, that begs the question, what do I do? TL;DR: Met a girl, she likes me more than I like her, need to figure out how to get rid of my past insecurities so I can emotionally open up to her a little more.
USMCHokie Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 She's a great girl, and we get a long so well, we have plenty in common and in an ideal world she'd be the perfect girl for me. But I just can't seem to want to like her as much as she likes me. It's almost like I have an emotional barrier up and get scared at the thought of commitment/being in a relationship. This is easy. You're just not that into her. The age has nothing to do with this, so you really didn't need to bring it up. Second, your "past insecurities" () have nothing to do with it. If you like a girl, ain't nothing going to stop you from liking her... Perhaps you are using these as convenient outs so that you don't feel bad about not liking her all that much.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Let her enjoy her last two years of high school and you can chase tail of someone in their early twenties. College girls are more likely to sleep and ditch and they,re less clingy.
Red Arremer Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 She's 16, turning 17 in 2 months and I'm 21(m). Before you start shouting out pedophile, she's not your average teenage girl, she's very mature for her age and I personally don't believe age reflects maturity, hell I was told I acted like a 25 year old when I was 16. You don't think it be like it is, but it do.
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