loveydove Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I feel like I miss him alot, even though I don't necessarily like him right now...sometimes I have to keep myself extremely busy to keep from picking up the phone. And it makes me even more upset to feel like it is easy for him! UGH!!!!! It's so infuriating. I don't know what to do. Anyone else feel like this?
january2011 Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 It's usual to feel this way during the early stages of the grieving process after a break-up. Just keep truckin' and focusing on self-care. You'll be just fine.
Author loveydove Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 For the first month or so, it wasn't that hard not to talk to him, I was too upset. Now I don't know, I feel like we grow apart more and more by the day, he hasn't been contacting me, I know he loves me and I don't want that to go away too, I feel so helpless. He's in Hollywood meeting all kinds of beautiful actresses, and enjoying a budding career and I honestly can't take it it is like the worst break up scenario ever. I don't know how to accept that he isn't the same And how to not let the fact that he's meeting all of these famous people not impact my own self esteem. I feel cast aside, and like he doesn't even think of me. I feel like for years I was his number one girl, kind of like his dream girl, and now I don't matter at all...
jennisfora Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 what i try to remind myself of, and what i am saying to you is this, we have no way of knowing what they are thinking. and we will never know. so, hard as it might be, try not to worry about his thoughts. i know, easier said than done. also, how do you know it is easy? it may not be. i know it is hard for my ex, because i told him i needed to go nc, because he made it clear he didnt want to reconcile, and he has tried to contact me, but feels guilty when he does, because he feels he is setting back my healing, or giving me false hope, but he doesnt want to be rude at the same time. i think it is hard for the dumper in some cases, maybe not as hard as it is for us, but, with time, i think some of them do miss us. oh, and those actresses, they may be famous and pretty, but they aren't quite as pretty in real life as they are on screen. lighting and make up are used in such a way to make them look perfect, but in real life they are women just like the rest of us. some of them may feel entitled and snobbish, but i doubt that makes them superior. try to redirect your thoughts back to you, because you can't know what he is thinking, okay? *hugs* 2
HollyBolly Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Everyone of us feels or has once felt like that. I ran into my ex the day before, felt fine afterwards and then it hit me yesterday and I was a wreck! Did I wonder if she felt worse? Yup! Will I ever know? Nope! It is normal to feel the way you do, but the fact is you will probably never know how he feels. Just acknowledge your own feelings and move on. I am trying my best. It is hard but necessary. Hope you feel better soon.
tears_in_rain Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Everyone posting here is correct. There is no way of knowing what the other person is thinking. Second guessing their thoughts will make you go crazy. You may go along one tangent about what they are thinking only to find yourself with a whole new branch of questions. Again crazy making. The grieving period is damn hard, believe me I'm there with you right now. Keep yourself busy, active and positive about yourself. You are the only thing you can control. Do the best things for you. If you falter in your path and feel the pain, feel it. Then release it and move on. We'll see the light ahead one day. We may still think about the other person along the line but that doesn't matter. What matters is you. How you feel about yourself. Keep on keepin' on. 2
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