ridinbikes247 Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I left my wife first week in Feb, We were together 7 years. We are turing 27 and have a 4 year old boy. She turned into the most dis respectful, rude, selfish bitch the last 2 years of our marriage, so i finally left After i left she played the "aww i love you, we may work things out" well, its going on 11 - 12 weeks and its hitting harder everyday. We do not not talk at all. We have signed papers and everything is final. She has really moved on and I can not believe it.. To be honest the past 3 weeks i cant stay out of the bottle... I drive by her house at 11 and 12 at night and she is home alone. I know for a fact she does not have another guy. I cant believe i'm stalking her. I'm sure she is looking for a new boy toy and she goes out alot, but she comes home by her self. She blocked me on facebook and ignores my phone calls.... I was doing very good the first 8 weeks..i joined the gym, bought a new vehicle, and found some apartments... but now i think reality is setting in.. after 7 years she hangs up the phone and want talk to me no loner than 15 seconds....I just drove by the house and she was home alone...i figured if i call she would talk.. Well, i called and she said. i am in bed and basically hung up the phone... i understand i left, but dang it !!!! she is such a heartless woman im going insane right now and i cant stand it
Author ridinbikes247 Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 Anytime she does answer and i tell her i still love her she will just say ok thanks and then hang up on me... i miss my old wife so bad i have turned to alcohol for the answer and i shouldnt be !!!
marqueemoon4 Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I can totally relate.. but you know you have to STOP contacting her immediately. Aaaaand stop driving by her place. **** her. **** HER!! Tell yourself this over and over until it sinks in. And the alcohol is definitely not helping it’ll just get you deeper in the hole. Stay strong for your son! 1
Author ridinbikes247 Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 I'm trying so hard !!! I cant believe it has ended like this. I thought when I left she would call and apologize for being so dis repectful and rude, but instead she would call and tell me "she is who she is" and if I cant accept that then we shoudl be single.... It tears me up. We spent 7 years !!!!!! and she can sit here and seriously just hang up on me !!! she dont even want to see me !!!! we pick up our son through day care. and we only talk through text !!! how did it get so bad !!!
Author ridinbikes247 Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 I have been so depressed the past few weeks i got a friends face book so i could keep up with her... Her last few post talk about "being single and how she forgot what its like to be single" she commented on a guys status talking about " I've been out of the game so long sorry i didnt talk alot" I left her because she is a bitc* !!!!!!! why do i miss her now...why im i drunk right now stalking her face book ?!!!
D-Lish Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Just remember, you made the decision to leave for a reason. In situations like this, you have to keep a firm grip on why you left, and not allow yourself to focus on the fond memories. Drinking is only going to make things worse for you. You're missing the person you wish she could be, not the person she really is- please keep focused on why you left, it will help a little.
Author ridinbikes247 Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 It hurts when i see her on facebook being so happy and funny...She use to be happy and funny with me !!! it hurts when she is treating total stranger guys better than she treated me..and we have a son involved. a broken family. i hate drinking so bad
D-Lish Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 It hurts when i see her on facebook being so happy and funny...She use to be happy and funny with me !!! it hurts when she is treating total stranger guys better than she treated me..and we have a son involved. a broken family. i hate drinking so bad A simple solution is to stop looking at her facebook- that's the worst thing you could be doing to yourself right now. When my ex left me the first thing I did was delete and block him from my facebook, I didn't want to know anything he was doing, because I knew it would hurt too much. Cut off all contact unless it is child related. Put your efforts into something more productive than driving by her house, calling her, or checking her facebook. You have to keep your mind and body busy doing other things. You won't be able to find any peace until you cut yourself off from contact.
maybealone Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 There is a reason drinking is called self-medicating, believe me I know. Have you tried IC? It could really help.
tojaz Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I left my wife first week in Feb, We were together 7 years. We are turing 27 and have a 4 year old boy. She turned into the most dis respectful, rude, selfish bitch the last 2 years of our marriage, so i finally left After i left she played the "aww i love you, we may work things out" well, its going on 11 - 12 weeks and its hitting harder everyday. We do not not talk at all. We have signed papers and everything is final. She has really moved on and I can not believe it.. To be honest the past 3 weeks i cant stay out of the bottle... I drive by her house at 11 and 12 at night and she is home alone. I know for a fact she does not have another guy. I cant believe i'm stalking her. I'm sure she is looking for a new boy toy and she goes out alot, but she comes home by her self. She blocked me on facebook and ignores my phone calls.... I was doing very good the first 8 weeks..i joined the gym, bought a new vehicle, and found some apartments... but now i think reality is setting in.. after 7 years she hangs up the phone and want talk to me no loner than 15 seconds....I just drove by the house and she was home alone...i figured if i call she would talk.. Well, i called and she said. i am in bed and basically hung up the phone... i understand i left, but dang it !!!! she is such a heartless woman im going insane right now and i cant stand it I would suggest you reread this when you are sober. It doesn't sound like you hold her in very high regard or with much respect.
Author ridinbikes247 Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 Well. After Wenesday night april 18th I had decided to not contact her. Today, the 22nd she has not called or texted me to at least say hey or ask what I'm doing. The longest we had gone before was 2 days and I had contacted her after 2 days to just say hey.....This time I am standing my ground and will not contact her anymore to be nice. I cant believe 7 years together and she could really careless about me or fixing our marriage. Either she is playing hard to get, and deep inside her heart she is wandering what I'm doing or she really does not care
Author ridinbikes247 Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 I'm Doing very well. Once I got this off my chest and told you guys my story, I decided to stop it all. I did drink for a few more days, but I did not drink any Saturday, sunday, and I dont intend on drinking tonight. I havent looked at her Facebook at all, nor have I driven by her house... Even though we have a 4 year old boy I have stoped calling/texting her as well. Tomorrow will be almost 7 days with NO CONTACT Today i was thinking, we have not seen each other in person since april 1st. Almost a month without seeing each others face is a super long time. I understand I left her because she was disrepectful but I still wish she would call, or hope she regrets her desicions before there to late. How many people have had there wife regret not coming back or leaving ?
Author ridinbikes247 Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 haha, so that means she may regret it ? or alot of people dont regret leaving ?
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