Where are all the virgin women?

[FredRutherford]

I'll be turning 20 within 5 months and still no luck in finding a virgin girl. Where are them?

Last month I was dating a girl my age who seemed perfect in every other way (a 8/10 in looks, nice personality, is smart) but once again it's not a virgin. She's been with 7 guys already.

 

I'm only asking for what I am too. Or should I just go for a nonvirgin, nice girl? While they don't mind my lack of past, I can't get over their numbers.

 

OP,

I completely understand where you're coming from.

 

While it's a good thing IMO to be sexually responsible and not have sex with everyone a man or woman dates, I would say you're putting too much emphasis on virginity.

 

When I was in my early 20s in college , I wanted to date and marry a

"...godly, Christian virgin woman...."

Of course, I gave-up that "requirement" (it was more of a preference) as I got older and realized a woman can be the first two without being the third.

 

Would have preferred finding a woman who didn't have A LOT of experience.

Would have been pleasantly surprised had I dated a virgin, but wasn't expecting it. Gotta be realistic.

Wanted someone with minimal sexual experience.

 

No the virgin girl I'm looking for is the one that will wait for the right man and believes in a meaningful relationship (not ''I'll only do it in marriage'' type but more like ''I'm waiting for the right moment'').

 

I'm not asking too much; just that she shares my same point of view regarding sex with someone special.

 

You're not alone. There are women (and men) out there who share your viewpoint.

 

If I find her, it would mean that she's was waiting the whole time just like me and learn it together. That would be the best thing in my life.

 

Back to reality: very few girls like that nowadays. In my high school by the time they (well most) were 15-17, they weren't virgins anymore.

In my late 20s, I dated some virgin women, including a 28 y.o. agnostic.

Yes, I tried to change her stance on virginity.....

 

Dated and ALMOST got engaged to a 30 y.o. virgin when I was 26.... and she wasn't some overly-religious type.

 

Can name a 28 y.o. virgin woman who posts here on LS.

 

They may not be in high volumes, but there are virgin or less-experienced women are out there.

You're still very young and have a lot of time to find them.

 

If there was a way I can get over that, I would. I can try but it will be hard.

Don't feel comfortable being compared to her ex lovers.

You're putting too much pressure on yourself.

Never good to "replay movies" or try to "compare" yourself to others and your GF's EXs.

 

I TRULY WISH I was still a virgin. but i can't go back and be that special (or naive) for someone now. I can try the regain virginity thing, and luckily my numbers are very low and I still hold sex in high reguards, so that helps. But it is still hard to accomplish.

Know precisely what you're sayin'.

Lost mine in HS @17-18 to a girl I dated but likely didn't love. We both felt a lot of guilt and is a big regret of mine, how I wasn't nearly the man I should have been to her.

 

Have had it both ways -- casually (a couple of times 19-30) and in love with my future wife in my 30s.

..... it's sooooooooooo much better to ML --- where you put your heart, soul and passion into the other --- vs. just having sex.

 

What Angel told you is great:

I understand where you are coming from (poster) but I think you're cheating yourself of meeting a lovely, kind girl.

 

I know that purity is important and I am assuming your desire is at least slightly faith based.

If it is faith based I'd keep in mind that the Lord died on the cross to atone for our sins all we have to do is ask for forgiveness and God will forgive- God is this Epic, loving, omnipresent being and his standards seem to be lower than yours.

 

That being said... if I were you I'd focus on finding a girl who cares about you enough to wait until the two of you are married so you can maintain your purity which seems important to you.

 

As for what a woman has done in her past- it's the past. We all make mistakes and we all want to be loved - so it's easy to make those kinds of mistakes. Rather than asking a girl how many men she has been with- I'd ask if she is willing to wait for marriage with *YOU* because it means something to you. That's what really matters.

 

 

OP,

You're not "wrong" wanting a virgin partner.

You may well find one.

Suggest looking in Christian circles.

Even then, many women may not be virgins but they won't be promiscuous either and likely won't have high numbers.

That's what you want, right?

 

Many women, like the one I married and some I dated, though they weren't virgins, had only one partner, like a former fiance she had sex with years before we met in our 30s.... Or, she thought the guy loved her so gave it up to later learn he was a jerk.

So a little understanding and compassion might be good for you.

Edited May 22, 2012 by FredRutherford

[FitChick]

I have also discovered that highly promiscuous women can be very bad at sex, so watch out. Prior performance is not always a good indicator.

 

The same goes for promiscuous men. Perhaps for both sexes, they are only in it for their own pleasure and can't be bothered with anyone elses.

 

My ex married a virgin and had a horrible sex life, the last three years of which were totally sexless.

[Freddys]

..... it's sooooooooooo much better to ML --- where you put your heart, soul and passion into the other --- vs. just having sex.

 

Having just sex apply for weak people.

 

Heart, soul & passion - Only the strong ones can survive this test.

[manup]

If you're not looking to get married and you're not uber religious you shouldn't care.

[sid3]

Having just sex apply for weak people.

 

Heart, soul & passion - Only the strong ones can survive this test.

 

Whatever....