wwwjd Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Let's see.....you want "a virgin", but you DON'T want "one of those extremely devoted ''waiting till marriage'' ones". Well sheesh. Who is going to fall into your extremely narrow definition? Very few. Do you also want her to be 6 feet tall and speak 5 languages fluently? meh... I know exactly what he is meaning. It IS a very narrow segment. I'm religious, but often times (not ALL women) religious women are SOOO religious they kind of ignore reality. "Sex is a sin, if I think ONE impure thought, I'll burn in hell for all eternity..." Can you really see a girl like that learning to eventually ENJOY sex? Does not seem likely. Anything is possible. I'll say it.... TO ME, too much religion makes one seem a little wacked out and unbalanced with reality. Like I say, I am religious and have been most of my life since I have been able to make a conscious choice (raised in, but defied, then later examined, compared and accepted), ignoring a major component of what are bodies have been designed to do AND ENJOY is not very god-like. Then there is the bar flys, ONS etc that, I'm guessing he has no interest in. *I* have no interest in. So it IS a very narrow segment and he was asking where the heck are they? Where are the women that don't just give it up every drunk saturday night, but are not married to religion, but want to save this amazing, connecting physical feeling for someone EXCLUSIVELY And SPECIAL? Rare indeed. VERY slim segment. And a members only exclusive club that this guy is in. 1
Author LeoXC Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 Virgin men aren't desirable and virgin women are.Not really. The girl I was hanging out didn't have a problem with it. She thought it cute but I couldn't get pass it. Feel kinda bad for ditching her. As how I'm able to keep up with it? It's because I don't want my first time to be a meaningless ONS with a girl I'll never see again nor have any like some of my friends do. I can't stand when they brag about it as if it were some sort of eating contest.
xxoo Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 It's because I don't want my first time to be a meaningless ONS with a girl I'll never see again nor have any like some of my friends do. So date some girls. Look for a connection. Look for shared values regarding sex, regardless of whether they've had sex in the past or not. And then develop a relationship with one girl who shares your values (virgin or not), and with whom you feel a connection. Then your first time won't be meaningless. But if you rule out non-virgins, realize that you are excluding women who could be a great match for you.
Author LeoXC Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 But what if the girl fell in love before you? That doesn't make her a bad person. If someone is in it for love, you don't have to worry about comparison.While it's still understandable, I would still have someone to compare and if I would do way better than her past lover.
Pierre Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 The only time I've ever come across a virgin girl was one of those extremely devoted ''waiting till marriage'' ones. I don't want that either. I married a virgin over 20 years ago and she came from an average background. The only reason she was a virgin is because she was young when I met her. However, virginity was not an issue for me, it just hapenned she was a virgin. BTW, she was extremely sexual and kinky in her 20s. There are many girls that are still virgins in HS and college that are not devout or religious. These girls are often carreer oriented women and the only way you can meet them is studying with them in school. SOme of these girls wait till they are in college to date for the first time. I am aware of at least 3-4 of these girls, but they are way too young for me. Otherwise, most average women will not be virgins past the age of 18-20. It is not so much that they want to lose virginity. However, at the onset the men pressure them into having sex and they give in. I have also discovered that highly promiscuous women can be very bad at sex, so watch out. Prior performance is not always a good indicator. 1
irc333 Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 They've been all sacrificed to appease the gods I'll be turning 20 within 5 months and still no luck in finding a virgin girl. Where are them? Last month I was dating a girl my age who seemed perfect in every other way (a 8/10 in looks, nice personality, is smart) but once again it's not a virgin. She's been with 7 guys already. I'm only asking for what I am too. Or should I just go for a nonvirgin, nice girl? While they don't mind my lack of past, I can't get over their numbers.
Emilia Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 While it's still understandable, I would still have someone to compare and if I would do way better than her past lover. So this is more about your insecurities than her character. Correct? 2
xxoo Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 While it's still understandable, I would still have someone to compare and if I would do way better than her past lover. So this is an insecurity? Wanting a woman who has no basis for comparison, so that you don't disappoint? didn't see Emilia's post!
xxoo Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 How can you be bad at sex if promiscuous? I haven't had sex so I'd be the worst at it. When two people are crazy for each other, and wild to devour and explore and please each other, the sex will be good. Experience is not necessary.
RiverRunning Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I lost my virginity going into my last year of college, shortly before I turned 22 (of course, I'd played around starting when I turned 19). From my understanding, I was an 'old' virgin, especially for a woman. I had neither super-religious views about sex nor was I Ms. Easy. I just wanted it to be somewhat special with someone I cared about. If you're a virgin, I think you're well within your rights to keep searching. 1
Author LeoXC Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 Let's see.....you want "a virgin", but you DON'T want "one of those extremely devoted ''waiting till marriage'' ones". Well sheesh. Who is going to fall into your extremely narrow definition? Very few. Do you also want her to be 6 feet tall and speak 5 languages fluently?No the virgin girl I'm looking for is the one that will wait for the right man and believes in a meaningful relationship (not ''I'll only do it in marriage'' type but more like ''I'm waiting for the right moment''). I'm not asking too much; just that she shares my same point of view regarding sex with someone special. 1
wwwjd Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 9 posts.... your opinion is rare on this board. but you are not alone.
Author LeoXC Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 I lost my virginity going into my last year of college, shortly before I turned 22 (of course, I'd played around starting when I turned 19). From my understanding, I was an 'old' virgin, especially for a woman. I had neither super-religious views about sex nor was I Ms. Easy. I just wanted it to be somewhat special with someone I cared about. If you're a virgin, I think you're well within your rights to keep searching.That's the girl I'm looking for. Finally someone gets what I'm saying. 1
Emilia Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I'm not asking too much; just that she shares my same point of view regarding sex with someone special. I thought you were worried that she would compare you to her previous lovers. Do girls with more experience intimidate you? The odds are you will end up being compared from time to time in your life, that's impossible to avoid. Unless you always date virgins of course.
Author LeoXC Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 So this is more about your insecurities than her character. Correct?It would mean we're not compatible.
Ross MwcFan Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I'll be turning 20 within 5 months and still no luck in finding a virgin girl. Where are them? Probably at a church near you.
Author LeoXC Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 I thought you were worried that she would compare you to her previous lovers.Yeah I'm still not comfortable with that. If I find her, it would mean that she's was waiting the whole time just like me and learn it together. That would be the best thing in my life. Back to reality: very few girls like that nowadays. In my high school by the time they (well most) were 15-17, they weren't virgins anymore. Do girls with more experience intimidate you?If there was a way I can get over that, I would. I can try but it will be hard. The odds are you will end up being compared from time to time in your life, that's impossible to avoid.Don't feel comfortable being compared to her ex lovers. Unless you always date virgins of course.I wish
wwwjd Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 If there was a way I can get over that, I would. I can try but it will be hard. in your case there is no reason to even let this play into your program. THIS is exaclty why remaining a virgin is GOOD! You don't have to bother (not read "worry") about any of this. It's nothing to worry about, and a level than can be COMPLETELY ignored. Unfortunely, non-virgins have a hard time with this concept. Just understanding why it is nothing to even think about. 1
xxoo Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 in your case there is no reason to even let this play into your program. THIS is exaclty why remaining a virgin is GOOD! You don't have to bother (not read "worry") about any of this. It's nothing to worry about, and a level than can be COMPLETELY ignored. Unfortunely, non-virgins have a hard time with this concept. Just understanding why it is nothing to even think about. We were all virgins once. Why do you believe that non-virgins would have a hard time with the concept of being a virgin? IME, virginity matters a LOT less once you are no longer a virgin, for most people anyway. There is a good chance that the OP will look back at his current perspective at some point and wonder if making a big deal about virginity, rather than sexual values in general, served him well at this point. 1
maysj18 Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 That's the girl I'm looking for. Finally someone gets what I'm saying. I GET what you're saying, BUT you may not be the first person a wonderful girl has cared deeply for. While love may not have happened for you yet, it very could have for the girl. Like me and some others have said, if you are crazy about each other, experience is NOT necessary. It sounds like an insecurity more than anything. Just because a girl is not a.virgin does not mean she didn't wait for someone special..it just means she found it before you. 2
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I'll be turning 20 within 5 months and still no luck in finding a virgin girl. Where are them? Last month I was dating a girl my age who seemed perfect in every other way (a 8/10 in looks, nice personality, is smart) but once again it's not a virgin. She's been with 7 guys already. I'm only asking for what I am too. Or should I just go for a nonvirgin, nice girl? While they don't mind my lack of past, I can't get over their numbers. Are you an 8/10 in looks too? 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 A virgin unless he likes porn won't know what a woman's body looks like under there. Some at my workplace were making fun of virgins and said they don't last long and it would be over in seconds. I don't undertsnad that either. Actually, a virgin that looks to porn for knowledge on real women still won't know what a real woman's body looks like if he is going by porn .Because in real life, women come in all shapes and sizes, in porn, the majority of women fit a certain stereotype with varying faces and breast size but with the major equation still being there. Plus, if a virgin is looking to porn on how to make love/have sex with a woman, that woman is going to be disappointed. How about looking at real sources of sexuality and women's bodies and what to do instead of porn? 2
veggirl Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 He's 19. I don't think virgin girls around his age (18-20) are SO RARE that he needs to freakin go hang out at his local nunnery. I was a virgin til I was 20, I wasn't waiting for marriage or obese or fugly or anything like that. No one thought it was weird, or at least they didn't say so if they did. I knew other girls who were virgins too. Yes we were in the minority, but I don't think it was THAT big of a difference in #s? Maybe I'm delusional. I don't know. OP my first had been with 6 girls before me. I was kinda meh about that, but you get over it. If you truly want another virgin though, I really don't think you're as SOL as most of these other posters are making it sound!
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I would not have sex until I was over 18 and felt deeply in love. I didn't require my boyfriend to be a virgin, though. (Boy, he sure wasn't!) Anyway, I understand where you are coming from, but in a way you are putting the cart before the horse and also, you might be almost as bad as guys who are JUST trying to get sex. You are so focussed on the sexual angle that you are putting that ahead of getting to know a person. Most virgin girls won't like that. In my opinion, a person's sex life is none of your business until you are pretty close.
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