Where are all the virgin women?

[LeoXC]

I'll be turning 20 within 5 months and still no luck in finding a virgin girl. Where are them?

Last month I was dating a girl my age who seemed perfect in every other way (a 8/10 in looks, nice personality, is smart) but once again it's not a virgin. She's been with 7 guys already.

 

I'm only asking for what I am too. Or should I just go for a nonvirgin, nice girl? While they don't mind my lack of past, I can't get over their numbers.

[LeoXC]

The only time I've ever come across a virgin girl was one of those extremely devoted ''waiting till marriage'' ones. I don't want that either.

[somedude81]

I'll be turning 20 within 5 months and still no luck in finding a virgin girl. Where are them?

Middle school.

[dasein]

Fundamentalist churches... maybe. Women with an immigrant background from traditional families. Otherwise you are SOL my man.

[LeoXC]

Middle school.

Sucks. While still here waiting and waiting, they already have their fun.

 

I could have gone to bars and hook-up if wanted but I'm a gentleman. I want my first time to be with a special girl but would be better if she's a virgin too.

[LeoXC]

Fundamentalist churches... maybe. Women with an immigrant background from traditional families. Otherwise you are SOL my man.

I met one at a church once and she drove me crazy with her extremely religious concepts and constantly talking about the bible, how pre-marital sex was a sin as well as oral sex, etc.

 

So it's like I can't find a normal, healthy virgin girl. It's either the wild ones or the super religous ones.

[Cypress25]

There are plenty of college-age women who are still virgins. They're not religious nuts either, they're perfectly normal. Although they might be a bit turned off by your intrusive questions about their sexual history. If a guy I just started dating was asking me about my virginity and my "numbers," I'd be creeped out. Is a girl's virginity really the most important thing to you?

[Ninjainpajamas]

You'll be put in jail If you try to date most of them.

 

It's not something very common but there are women out there that still are at that age, but you should probably not try so hard to find one, I'm not really sure what you think you're going to get out of it.

 

If you've put that much weight/value on sex...we'll you're going to be pretty disappointed because the majority of people do not.

[LeoXC]

Is a girl's virginity really the most important thing to you?

Maybe I'm asking too much but it's hard to get over a girl's number when I'm a virgin myself. Therefore, I'm asking for the same thing in return.

 

It's not fair that I've been waiting for her and she didn't.

[Cypress25]

It's not fair that I've been waiting for her and she didn't.

 

Why is it unfair? You didn't have to wait, you made a choice. And who have you been waiting for, exactly? Some unknown woman that you've never met? And you expect women to wait for some unknown man that they've never met? Women don't owe you their virginity. Everyone has a past.

[wwwjd]

[announcer]...and what does she get with that past, Bob??

 

Bob: I'll tell ya, Wayne.. a BRAND NEW CLOSET FULL OF BAGGAGE!! Yes, this walk in closet is big enough to hold all the memories, details, troubles and comparisons that multipartnered sex can embed. You can store it INDEFINITELY! Then it can be brought out on purpose or subliminally during that one special night with someone new. Suddenly, the man you like doesn't measure up in some way. Nothing like keeping it all locked away for future reference. I tell ya, Wayne, ya gotta fell sorry for those lonely librarians that held out for some one, and only have that tiny top drawer to store a couple of naughty thoughts instead of all that wonderful history. Think of how disappointing it will be for that poor guy that finally gets to do her and she knows nothing about sex. Now, I suppose if HE knew nothing about sex, there would be nothing to worry about between them and they could learn and grow together in it, in a slow, loving, natural way where no one is compared or offended or doesn't measure up to an invisible past. If HE knew nothing about sex.... like THAT is gonna happen {Big wink at the audience}

 

oh wait...

[maysj18]

I was agreeing with you until you started talking about it being unfair. I'm a virgin because I've never been that close with anyone, but as long as the guy doesnt have a questionable past with tons of ONS, Im fine with not being their first. You will miss out on a a lot of good girls with that mentality. There's nothing wrong with having standards, but yours are a bit much.

[Feelin Frisky]

They are all busy getting their cherries popped in radical Islam heaven.

[ScreamingTrees]

I was agreeing with you until you started talking about it being unfair. I'm a virgin because I've never been that close with anyone, but as long as the guy doesnt have a questionable past with tons of ONS, Im fine with not being their first. You will miss out on a a lot of good girls with that mentality. There's nothing wrong with having standards, but yours are a bit much.

 

Yeah, I don't believe anyone is owed anything, no one is required to wait for a total stranger, but I DO believe that his standards aren't totally crazy.

 

Think about it. Did you read the previous post? As a virgin myself, why would I choose to be with a girl who might appear nice in every way but has had wayyy more partners than me? Why would I want to POSSIBLY compete with her past partners who likely had more experience than me? Even if I told her my situation and why I'd chosen my path, it wouldn't change her likely not being compatible if she's the type to think like that.

 

To be honest, I wouldn't care if she had several long term partners, but if she had like 6 or 7 or more, it'd be a sign that we might be incompatible. Not because I give a crap, but more so because she'd probably find me lacking in some way.

 

I don't know what sort of person she is, how do I know how she's going to process intimacy? I don't want to be judged or compared, because I wouldn't do it to them. If they're ultimately going to say it isn't going to work out, why even give them a shot?

 

If I was with a girl who was also a virgin (I know, I know, that's being very idealistic) we'd be on even grounds. Nobody else to compare me to, we can learn and grow together. You have to learn someone's body regardless of your experience, but it'd probably be better for both of us if we're on the same page.

 

I know this is impossible to tell, so whatever.

Edited April 19, 2012 by ScreamingTrees

[maysj18]

But what if the girl fell in love before you? That doesn't make her a bad person. If someone is in it for love, you don't have to worry about comparison.

[wwwjd]

I'd like to market a line of stylish shirts with a mock turtle neck collar that has a very large printed word on it:

 

VIRGIN

or SINGLE

or CHRISTIAN

or ATHEIST

or EASY

or DIVORCED

or APPROACHABLE

or LOVES DOGS

 

Kind of "intention on a sleeve" deal...

WHO'S BUYING???

[wwwjd]

But what if the girl fell in love before you? That doesn't make her a bad person. If someone is in it for love, you don't have to worry about comparison.

 

If you truly are a virgin, you might not know this: That stuff comes up in your mind whether you like it or not. You CAN supress it, and override it but it takes TONS of practice and time and patience. I call that regaining your virginity - when you can get past all that and be totally new with someone. But that is EXTREMELY DIFFICULT.

 

They can mismatch like this: Say he is a long distance marathon runner having built up his skill over DECADES of practice and work and he usually never runs less than 40 miles in a day run, MINIMUM. He meets girl X who just bought her first pair of tennis shoes and started jogging. Yes, he can slow down and just jog around the block with her when she wants to run, but it kills him slowly inside because he is already a level 100 and she is a level 1. And there is no way in heck she would instantly be ready to run 40 miles with him. Not saying any right or wrong here, but sex can be an experience level game too. Hard to go back after getting so far up on that ladder.

 

I TRULY WISH I was still a virgin. but i can't go back and be that special (or naive) for someone now. I can try the regain virginity thing, and luckily my numbers are very low and I still hold sex in high reguards, so that helps. But it is still hard to accomplish.

[ScreamingTrees]

But what if the girl fell in love before you? That doesn't make her a bad person. If someone is in it for love, you don't have to worry about comparison.

 

It doesn't, but I'm not going to be naive and assume that the seventh time's the charm.. I can't read minds, I don't know how they'll truly feel about me at the end of the day. I'd respect it, but I'd much rather them tell me and end it than cheat on me, because that's what I'd do if I was in their position.

 

I'd give anyone I'm interested in a chance regardless.. And I won't ask for details, I WILL ask her that we both get tested - I respect myself and my body and life before anything and if they have nothing to hide, they won't mind and would feel the same about me. If she's clean, she's a virgin as far as I'm concerned.

[SoleMate]

Let's see.....you want "a virgin", but you DON'T want "one of those extremely devoted ''waiting till marriage'' ones". Well sheesh. Who is going to fall into your extremely narrow definition? Very few.

 

Do you also want her to be 6 feet tall and speak 5 languages fluently?

[ScreamingTrees]

Let's see.....you want "a virgin", but you DON'T want "one of those extremely devoted ''waiting till marriage'' ones". Well sheesh. Who is going to fall into your extremely narrow definition? Very few.

 

Do you also want her to be 6 feet tall and speak 5 languages fluently?

 

I guess he's the one rare virgin, huh. Tough luck for him, then, he probably won't find a good match that won't cast judgement.

[aj22one]

The guy is 19 almost 20. There's got to be a college freshman or an 18 year old high school senior somewhere he can date who's still a virgin. Maybe not a plethora but at least a few he could date.

 

Jeez louise, he's not 45.

[D-Lish]

I'll be turning 20 within 5 months and still no luck in finding a virgin girl. Where are them?

 

I think them be livin' in Walnut Grove circa early 1900's?

[maysj18]

It doesn't, but I'm not going to be naive and assume that the seventh time's the charm.. I can't read minds, I don't know how they'll truly feel about me at the end of the day. I'd respect it, but I'd much rather them tell me and end it than cheat on me, because that's what I'd do if I was in their position.

 

I'd give anyone I'm interested in a chance regardless.. And I won't ask for details, I WILL ask her that we both get tested - I respect myself and my body and life before anything and if they have nothing to hide, they won't mind and would feel the same about me. If she's clean, she's a virgin as far as I'm concerned.

 

Oh, okay. I thought you meant that even if she had slept with only 1 guy she would be off limits. I can see how 7 would feel high to you. I consider it high, honestly.

[Titania22]

They exist I promise. My lab partner at university is one.

[irin]

im 20, and virgin, but i will be waiting for marriage. if you dont want to wait till marriage why on earth does it matter, weather they are virgins also. you will be like them soon anyways!