gabbyfe Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 BACKGROUND INFO: My ex-boy friend and I went out for a little over three years. The last year we were together, I was "sexting" with a guy that I knew for a long time. I did it only a few times and I felt really guilty. My ex eventually found out by going through my phone when I was sleeping. We both agreed to work on things and that we would still be together. A couple month after, I read messages on his facebook where he was not talking appropriately to multiple girls. I also got over this because I did something behind his back. (Yes, we have trust issues). WHAT MY PROBLEM IS: I recently left the country for vacation and when I came back, he told me he cheated on me with his boss. I gave him some credit because he didn't keep it from me. He told me he felt horrible, worthless, etc...He said he needed some time to think about things and we broke up. (This was about 3 days ago) We both have been talking a little to eachother and we agreed on telling eachother if we do anything with anyone else, even though we are no longer together. I recently met a friend and I am going to visit him this weekend. He lives about 3 hours away, so I am going to sleep over. I feel SO GUILTY I am doing this. Of course if I do something, I will tell my ex, but should I feel guilty? I plan to be with my ex in the future because I am still in love with him and he loves me, but this new guy is, I hate to say it, but an emotional rebound. He reminds me so much of my ex it scares me and I'm also afraid of liking this new guy. I AM SO CONFUSED.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 BACKGROUND INFO: My ex-boy friend and I went out for a little over three years. The last year we were together, I was "sexting" with a guy that I knew for a long time. I did it only a few times and I felt really guilty. My ex eventually found out by going through my phone when I was sleeping. We both agreed to work on things and that we would still be together. A couple month after, I read messages on his facebook where he was not talking appropriately to multiple girls. I also got over this because I did something behind his back. (Yes, we have trust issues). WHAT MY PROBLEM IS: I recently left the country for vacation and when I came back, he told me he cheated on me with his boss. I gave him some credit because he didn't keep it from me. He told me he felt horrible, worthless, etc...He said he needed some time to think about things and we broke up. (This was about 3 days ago) We both have been talking a little to eachother and we agreed on telling eachother if we do anything with anyone else, even though we are no longer together. I recently met a friend and I am going to visit him this weekend. He lives about 3 hours away, so I am going to sleep over. I feel SO GUILTY I am doing this. Of course if I do something, I will tell my ex, but should I feel guilty? I plan to be with my ex in the future because I am still in love with him and he loves me, but this new guy is, I hate to say it, but an emotional rebound. He reminds me so much of my ex it scares me and I'm also afraid of liking this new guy. I AM SO CONFUSED. Why do you need to tell your ex anything? What you do now is none of his business. Now go sew your wild oats and make sure you get tested for STDs. There's too much casual rendezvous going on. 1
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