fluffy Posted June 18, 2004 Posted June 18, 2004 [font=courier new][/font]I was just wondering...How many of you still think about your first love? How long has it been since you were together? Do you miss him/her no matter what was the reason for the break up? Thanks for your replies
cuteamidy Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 i am married with kids and i can truely say my first love is still my one and only love wish i could say he was my husband but he isnt
misty123 Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 I still think about my first love. I think about all of my exs from time to time. Life would be so differant. But heres another question. What would life be like if you were still with that person. Personally I am much happier wiht my life.
average guy Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 I just saw you post after I had made a similar one about myself saying that what happens to me is that I’ll be feeling happy in a certain situation (lying on the grass with the sun in my face) and then suddenly remember a similar experience with my first true love (who truly destroyed my ability to trust and love which I don’t think I have ever really recovered from) and then I get angry at myself for ever being such a gullible idiot to have trusted her with all of my heart. Unfortunately, and very sadly, this happens to me still 25 years after the fact! And yes, I often think she ws the only person I ever loved, but she broke my heart so thoroughly that I've never really loved anyone else with all my heart since, and it's funny that I often wondered what would happen if we ever magically got back together again (she lives on the other side of the world) and evrything would be fine but then I remember that she so cruelly broke my heart. It's sort of an eternal cycle of love and hate, and self-hatred for eveing being so stupid to have fallen in love with her in the first place. I often wish I had either fallen in love with someone else the first time, or that she hadn't been so heartlessly cruel and that we had been able to part on good terms with good memories. But, hey, that's life
shamen Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 I too still think about my first love from time to time. Specific moments and things that we did together. A trip to another city. Visiting his parents in the winter with snow everywhere for Christmas. The Berlin Wall coming down as we were watching the news together when it happened and I cried. I was 19 when I met him and two years later he wanted to get married. Needless to say, I was not ready at that age to marry, nor have I been ready since. However, he was probably one of the only men that I have dated in my life who was actually a normal guy with whom I could have had a real relationship... Ah well. He's married now, with children. I haven't heard from him or heard about him in years as I moved away from the city where I met him. It's been 14 years since we've been together. Now when I do think of him, I just hope that he is happy and fulfilled. I hope that I can find that kind of love again sometime in my lifetime...
XNemesisX Posted June 20, 2004 Posted June 20, 2004 I never think of my first love. I am over it completely. There was one guy that I met my freshman year of college that I really fell hard for and made me wonder if the guy I had previously thought was my first love really wasn't and this guy really was. It took me a long time to get over this particular guy until he did something truly despicable and I found my lingering feelings to completely go away because of it. Now I have no feelings at all for ANY exes. I wish it was the same for my current boyfriend though. I think he may still like one of his exes. Seems like I am an oddball for not having any lingering feelings at all for any of my exes and that the majority of people do seem to have at least one person from their past they think about from time to time. But not me.
ladyangel Posted June 20, 2004 Posted June 20, 2004 I think everyone thinks about their first love to some degree, even if it's only rarely. I mean, it's an important part of a person's life. I don't think of my first love longingly or wishing we were still together -- far from it -- but I think about it in terms of it was another of life's "firsts."
avsguy01 Posted June 21, 2004 Posted June 21, 2004 Im 22 years old, and i have never been in love. So i have yet to share that moment and know or remember that person. Of course im currently in a situation where im definately starting to feel love towards someone im dating. Its a new thing for me, so even if anything happens i will definately remember this one.
edweirdo Posted June 21, 2004 Posted June 21, 2004 I'm going through a divorce, so I think of my first love more often then I should. It was 23 years ago and she is married and has kids half way across the country, so I shouldn't even call her to see how she is since she married an ***hole.
meanon Posted June 21, 2004 Posted June 21, 2004 I still think about my first love. We were together 20 years ago. I still miss him but I have no regrets, I've changed so much since then. We broke up because I left the country to study abroad. Average guy - I missed your thread. It's sad to see that the loss of your first love still has a destructive effect on you, 25 years later. I think this is because of the fact that you are giving yourself such a hard time, rather than simply because you miss her. So often it is the things we do to ourselves that do the damage in the long term. It is you that have destroyed your ability to fully trust and love because you believe you were foolish to have done so in the first place, so you are intent on avoiding a repeat scenario. It's effective but, as you say, it means you won't ever feel the same about someone else. If you were foolish, so what? We've all been there . It's time to forgive yourself. If you do, this old love affair will lose it's power to continue to hurt you.
Karlise13 Posted June 21, 2004 Posted June 21, 2004 My first love was in high school and it was a sweet, puppy love. He was my first real boyfriend, my first everything. I still hear old songs on the radio that remind me of him. I don't miss him, but when he pops into my head it's so sweet and nostalgic. I'm lucky to have such good memories of a first love. My first TRUE ADULT love is the man I am with now. That's a completely different feeling from innocent, teenage love. If I lost my BF, I don't think I'd ever get over it.
msrealdoll Posted June 21, 2004 Posted June 21, 2004 It was over 20 years ago, but I think about my first love pretty often. I wonder sometimes what my life would have been like had we stayed together. I think about him more often when I'm not in a relationship, or having problems with one I'm in. I wish we hadn't lost touch. I'd like to know how his life turned out. I hope he's happy and fulfilled.
Leikela Posted June 21, 2004 Posted June 21, 2004 I rarely think about my first love. I was with him from the age of 16-24. It took a few years to get over him but once I did, I was never looking back. I have found someone a lot more compatible with me and I've never been happier! I think certain things may remind you of that past, but I don't look upon it longingly. That was a time of my life that is now over and I've moved on.
morrigan Posted June 21, 2004 Posted June 21, 2004 I don't think about my first love (when I was 20)--our feelings towards eachother ended. I don't hate him, but I would never date him again. I occasionally think naughty thoughts about a great guy I see a couple of times a year at concerts "what if I had dated him?. . . " but it would never have worked out, so I save it for the realm of daydreams.
Author fluffy Posted June 21, 2004 Author Posted June 21, 2004 Thanks for all your replies...so, i guess that the memories of my first love will be with me all my life...i just hope i could erase all the bad moments...but on the other hand, those are the ones that taugth me the most Anyway...i have another question: Do you think that they, your first loves, still think of you sometimes, even if they are with someone else? AVSGUY01: please enjoy every moment of this new experience...to be honest, the first true love is great...despite everything.
corythosaurus Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 It's been twenty plus years since my first love. And, at times, I still think of her; what she's doing, what she looks like, and whether she thinks of me in the same way. I hope she does, otherwise, how sad would that be?
msrealdoll Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 Fluffy, I do think our past loves think of us. I'm sure we were as important to them as they were to us. They're no different than we are-they have memories, too. It's fun to replay them in your mind and wonder.
tiki Posted June 22, 2004 Posted June 22, 2004 Originally posted by fluffy [font=courier new][/font]I was just wondering...How many of you still think about your first love? How long has it been since you were together? Do you miss him/her no matter what was the reason for the break up? Thanks for your replies Never!
average guy Posted June 24, 2004 Posted June 24, 2004 My first true love and I were seperated for a year when I was 15 (I had to leave home or I would have killed my abusive alcholic father) and we were both virgins and she made me promise to wait for her. Well, I did save myself for her (despite many opportunites) and when I saw her a year later I found out she had slept with about half the high school (she actually left me in her bed the one night we were going to because one of her boyfriends knoecked on her house door and she rann off with him before I even got out of the bedrrom to see who it was! Needless to say, we never did have sex.) so I am sure even thought we had a true sex-less first love, I am probably forgotten in a long string of nameless boys she did have sex with. I would like to think that true love would prevail over sex, but the way she broke my heart and betrayed me, I can only think that sex is more important than love for some people. I would have loved to have memories of her the first time before I left home but I was a gentleman and respected her wishes and in the end lost everything - no love or sex Cheers, A.G.
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