Any good stories of affairs failing?

[nofool4u]

how long ago was it that she married him?

 

about 5 years ago.

[Black Jack]

Well you're taking the appropriate actions so far. If she wants to live with a loser then so be it, but you don't have to sacrifice your own sanity.

 

Good luck to you.

[2.50 a gallon]

My Ex brother in law, was my child hood friend, we went to school together and graduated together, and later worked together for over 10 years.

 

He married my sister and had two girls. After I married and moved away he had an affair, my sister divorced him and they had joint custody of the youngest girl as the oldest was 18 and told her dad where to stick it.

 

The oldest married about age 21 and had two kids. The youngest waited until she was in her mid 30's before marrying a few years back. It was at her marriage, that I saw and talked to my ex best friend that I hadn't seen in almost two decades.

 

Both of his daughters totally cut him out of their lives. At the wedding he had to be introduced to his grandkids, whom he had only seen on the christening. He had no idea that his grandson, was then about to start his senior year, was a 3 year starter on his high schoold football team and never got to see him play. Later that year I did see him at one of the games, but he did not get to be part of the family

 

He is still together with his second wife and her story is similar. Her kids cut her out of their lives also.

 

The two of them own a small ranchette with horse privilages. They have several horses, including a gentle one for the grandkids to ride on. The horse remains unridden, as none of their grandkids have ever paid them a visit.

[health]

I left my ex when she was talking to this guy too much.

2 days later they get in a relationship.

 

So I'm happy I left her.

 

In the last 3 years - they don't have jobs and are on welfare.

 

He is an alcoholic.

 

She called me like crazy the first year - I never answered.

 

She is now on anti-deppresants and anti Psychotics.

 

So ultimately, the grass not only was greener on the other side, but much worse.

 

I wish her the best though.

[health]

Here is one for you. My x-wife is now married to her OM. And she is now being abused verbally, and she did end up with a black eye from him, as word would have it, because, and get this, he didn't trust her.

 

Bahahahaha nice!

 

The guy my ex decided to get with - when I found out I told him this

 

"Wow, I never knew she can leave me for another guy! But now you know she can leave you for another guy anytime!" ahahahaha

[y2k]

I'm new here. My W is cheating on me and I've thrown her out. She's now living with the OM, who lives with his mother. I would love to hear some stories of affairs ending bad for the cheater and the OM or OW. I don't know if it will with my STBexW. But a few stories of bad affairs may make me feel better.

 

First, you did the right thing in throwing her out.

 

Second, you shouldn't care what happens to her from now on. Only care about your money and yourself. If you guys have children, then expect joint custody, and work on being a good father. Just because parents divorce and move on, doesn't mean that it's the end of the world for the children. Good parenting skills doesn't mean good husband/wife skills.

 

Third, relationships from an affair can succeed or fail. I've seen two marriages that came from affairs where everything turned out great for the cheaters, and I've also seen marriages from affairs where everything went to hell in 5-8 years really quickly. Every situation is different.

 

Start fixing your economic situation up, get a lawyer, and take the time to make yourself happy. Save money, workout, and get out there. Find a new woman, and forget your ex-wife. If she's happy, then forget it. If she ends up hating her new man, then forget it. She should be completely irrelevant to you.

 

And don't worry if you're old. Older men can still attract women, whereas older women have a tough time attracting men once they've aged, so just improve yourself and you'll get a legit woman.

[firemanq]

I am not the bio father of my oldest child. When the breakup was going on, I looked at the lying bith and asked if she was ever going to come clean and tell my the oldest child was not mine. Her response was " I loved you so much I could not tell you" My response was " I could never trust you because our marriage stared with a lie". I still have doubts about the other 3 children. The oldest and I never did get along. I knew the kid was not mine, and the wife always refered to her as "my child" as in "Dont tell me how to raise my child" I did not even get invited to my daughters wedding. My girlfriend took it upon herself to get in the middle and called my daughter. GF told my daughter I never was invited. Then my daughter told how the XW was responsible for sending the invitations. Things got discussed as women do and then I got told to call my daughter, now! I did and now my daughter & I get along very well. Unfortunatly, the relationship between my daughter and her mother is not good at all. My little girl found her husband was cheating. There was not a bit of sympathy from the mother. My litle girl also calls her mother on every lie she tells. And apparntly, mother still tells lots of lies.

 

It is too bad the daughter and her mother do not get along, but I have no sympathy for the xw at all.

 

OK, now for the HiJack.

 

I will call my daughters husband, Jamie. I will call my Daughter, Jayme. Jamie is a big guy, so he his/was Big Jamie. My daughter is small, known as little Jayme. Little Jayme found Big Jamie was cheating when Big Jamies was in gs's his car. Little Jayme was surprised to see Big Jamie in car with an unknow female, and wanted to get closer. Well, she got too close and there was a minor fender bender. Cops got called, and responded. The cop was confuesed as to who was driving with who and who was driving what car. And as Big Jamie was a reserve officer, the cop know him. Things got sorted out and he Big and Little went home. I have no idea what the discussion was like at home, but Little Jayme has a big temper. Next day, my Jayme goes to work and the OW's father showed up at her job. He wanted to talk to the bithh who tried to murder his little girl. He was really loud and obnoxious. So loud and obnoxious that a senior partner came into the waiting room to see what the noise was. The senior partner threatened to call the police to have the father arrested if he did not leave. The father left. Then the senior partner took my daughter into his office. The senior partner represented my daughter at no cost during the divorce procedings. But there is a happy ending, Little Jayme married a great guy.(He is evne bald like me) They bought a house. Big Jamie and his new wife (the OW) bought a new house close by. I will not say the adults all like each other, but my granddaughter spends weekends with her father, the father pays his child support (taken from his check so he has no choice), the adults do not denigrate each other. The father attends my granddaughters school activities, she has a room in his house, and she considers the children across the road as siblings. A lot different than what my children & I got from my xw. Little Jayme told me what she saw between her mother and myself was not what she wanted for her child.

 

So my story does and does not meet the guidelines for this thread.

[Fitz]

LOL...one needs ONLY to read the message boards on any given dating site to see that older men are NOT in demand with younger ladies like you all want so badly to believe. An older gentleman has to bring ALOT more to the table besides his white hair, bald spot, beer belly and years of experience before a 30-something is going to look twice at him.

 

Men are so deluded.

 

Well, speaking from experience...

-my ex-fiance cheated on me for three years with a man almost twice my age.

 

Did he have to spend tons of money to get her attention? Of course, he did.

 

But did he have eventually have sex with her? Of course, he did.

 

But did your ex want to marry this sugar daddy? Of course, she didn't. He's almost twice her age. And yes, she's more attracted to younger guys. But she still had plenty of sex with him behind my back.

 

But isn't the Sugar Daddy sad now that your ex eventually broke things off? Probably not. If you are an old man with money, then there is always an attractive woman half your age who is willing to have sex with you. And like I said, he did spend tons of money on her.

 

But she was your ex-fiance! Surely, she has a deeper connection with you than she did with her Sugar Daddy? I haven't talked to my ex-fiance in months. Meanwhile, she chats with her silver haired Sugar Daddy on a weekly/monthly basis.

 

OK but then she must be trashy and dumb, right? Like someone on the Jerry Springer show, right? Actually, my ex-fiance and I are college graduates with fancy ivy leage degrees.

 

Sure, this is a single story out of many. And I agree that being "old" isn't in demand per se. But I firmly believe that its easier for an older man to date younger than it is for an older woman. Assuming the man has money to throw around.

 

Sorry to get off topic, but I had to vent...

Edited April 23, 2012 by Fitz

[standtall]

LOL...one needs ONLY to read the message boards on any given dating site to see that older men are NOT in demand with younger ladies like you all want so badly to believe. An older gentleman has to bring ALOT more to the table besides his white hair, bald spot, beer belly and years of experience before a 30-something is going to look twice at him.

 

Men are so deluded.

 

In most cases all we have to bring is a paycheck.

[robf1971]

like you all want so badly to believe.

Men are so deluded.

 

Depends what age you call older...

[robf1971]

So ultimately, the grass not only was greener on the other side, but much worse.

 

The grass always grows greenest over the pile of manure.

[SothrhitY]

Hi all! I simply wanted to tell you greetings. This is my first post here. See you in the future!

[2.50 a gallon]

Just a poster

 

I wouldn't know about internet dating sites, I am more into meeting new ladies in person. And yes, once they get to know you, very many of them are very much attracted to an older man, even one who does not have deep pockets.

 

I married my Ex at age 35 and we separated just after my 36th B-day.

 

Being as we had just moved to the area a year before, I was at a loss as to the best places to meet women. I was also at a disadvantage in that I didn't have any friends as all of our friends had been her friends. I had to start from scatch

 

Within a month after our separation my sex life took a turn around and took off.

 

Over the next decade I successfully dated well over 2 dozen women. Including one who was a multimillionaire who was a good 15 years younger than me. Her constant instance over a 5 year period that we marry and start a family, finally forced me to take the drastic action of moving a thousand miles away back to my old home town

 

Shortly after moving home, I met this gal who was totally out of my league. Long legs, taller than me, long blond pony tail, hour glass figure. When I first met her and she mentioned having two kids, I thought she was tallking about pre school toddlers as she didn't look a year over 25.

 

As it turned out she was actually 38, and was so hot that she was living with a semi pro boxer who was a good 7 years younger than her.

 

I am now several years into my retirement, and at this very moment is sleeping on our couch. She is a couple of years away from turning 60 but still turns the younger guys heads, as she still has an eye candy hour glass figure.

 

I maybe retired, and have a total whte beard, but I still have younger women, 30 year olds, hitting on me.

[findingnemo]

You guys are making me laugh about the whole "older men with younger women" stuff. Sometimes women just want a man who is comfortable with himself, who is stable, who won't compete for attention and who won't feel intimidated. So they date older men. And it works many times. Other times the couple has issues just like younger ones. It's really about compatibility.

 

Of course, for some women it can be about the easy life. Cash, jewelry, fine dining, exotic holidays. Most of these women complain about the quality or lack of sex. But still they stay.

 

96, I have a story for you. A distinguished lawyer years ago got in an A with his secretary. His W wasn't having none of that and left. The H shacked up with the secretary, got a D and eventually they got M. 4 kids and 20 years later, the secretary, now a lawyer, and the man, now a judge, are in the midst of the mother of all battles. It turns out that the new W had a bf all along. All these years she was sleeping with him and unfortunately for the judge all 4 kids aren't his. Now you can imagine. The kids in question are between 19 and 14 years old. Their father is now one of the richest men in town but is himself M with a family. He insists he wants his name put on their birth certificates. According to our laws, the judge is the kids father legally but according to culture, the biological father can claim them. Therein lies the battle. The judge is in hell right now. The new W? Well, she left the home with the younger kids. Of course they still see the judge as their father but their anguish must be indescribable. Oh what we do to innocent kids! The kids have all testified that they want to live with the judge and want nothing to do with their biological father or their mother. Wow!!!

 

This couple were an example of an A amounting to a happy M for years. But hidden beneath the surface was betrayal. I don't know how to describe the devastation the judge feels finding out that he threw everything away the day he had an A. I wonder if it isn't worse for him who seems to have seen the light 20 years later. Apparently He spends time every evening at a certain exclusive club lamenting his mistake in leaving his first W. He says that it was she who helped him succeed and that when she discovered the A she begged him to stop but he wouldn't. He regrets making what was seen as the unconventional move of getting a D. He regrets ever believing that a secretary 10 or so years younger than him ever loved him like his first W did. You see, he met his first W in college when he had nothing. But the secretary came along when he was already rich and distinguished. It's so sad... the latest scandal in my city.

[96nole]

OMG!!!! Now that's one hell of a mess. I guess karma was a real bitch to him. But I don't feel bad for him. I don't think I can feel bad for any cheating spouse.

[beenburned]

96,

 

My D just had her d-day over a year ago, when her H's OW called to tell her they had been having an affair for over 4 years!(9 year marriage)

 

Why do you think she was mad enough to call after all these years?

 

The OW had caught him cheating on her with another OW. So she spilled her guts on what all she knew, then informed the OOW about all the details of her LTA with D's H.

 

D immediately kicked him out and filed for divorce. And both OW dropped his a**!

 

Sad to say he now has a young new GF who knows nothing about his past history of being a serial cheater.

[findingnemo]

OMG!!!! Now that's one hell of a mess. I guess karma was a real bitch to him. But I don't feel bad for him. I don't think I can feel bad for any cheating spouse.

 

Well, I feel bad for him. The man is broken and this isn't something he will recover from unless he gets physical custody of the children. Im all for consequences but dang, this is just too much. The one I really dislike is the OW cum W. She played this guy from day one. I sincerely hope she rots in hell.

[96nole]

Yes, I agree. She needs to rot in hell.

 

Perhaps he is getting too much. But he is also the one who is now lamenting a mistake from 20 years ago. And believing or trusting someone more than his ex-wife. Especially if his ex-wife was with him before he became something and even helped him succeed. Lets face it, if he wasn't successful, the secretary probably wouldn't have found him interesting or sexy. The ex-wife did.

 

It took a long time, but karma gave him a big kick in the butt. I wonder what happened to the ex-wife

[findingnemo]

The exW never remarried. She is a prominent doctor and seems to be doing very well. Her children are successful too and I think their father was a good provider in spite of the D. I doubt that she'd be interested in a resumption of the R but stranger things have happened.

 

I agree that the secretary was just a gold digger. But what she did (as in having another man's children) has earned her infamy. That's the good thing about living in a somewhat conservative society. I believe she will never have peace of mind again. She was the headline for a few weeks and will remain so as the custody hearing progresses. The media has dubbed her "the Learned Harlot"... Her being a lawyer cum scumbag and all.

[Furious]

Eight months ago I was clearing out the closet in the basement, a local charity was picking up donations door to door the next day.

As I sorted through what I could give away I checked pockets before setting them aside. This is when I found a receipt inside the breast pocket of my husbands jacket. It was for a name brand ladies handbag, dated 7months past, paid in cash, and from the city my husband frequently travelled to for business. I don't remember how long a sat there on the floor next to a pile of clothes. It was just a piece of paper, just a f***en piece of paper and I knew what it meant.

 

I didn't confront my husband, I had no other proof, his cell phone was a company phone and I had no way of getting it's history. His lab top was also a company computer. Our home computer is shared by the family.

 

For days I stared at that receipt. I wasn't myself, by husband kept asking me what was wrong, at first he was kind, thinking I was coming down with a bug and then a couple of days later he made a sarcastic remark about me being on the rag.

 

That's when I wiped my tears and got mad, so frigging mad, the next day I hired a PI.

 

 

To make a long story short.

 

Got hard proof.

Got a background check on MOW

MOW only recently separated.

 

I then called MOW's Husband at his work. Turns out he had filed for divorce because he had caught his wife cheating, BUT GET THIS, it was not with my husband it was with an old boyfriend of hers.

 

I send MOW's soon to be Ex all the proof I have and then he sends it to her old boyfriend, who she's living with. Then old boyfriend kicks her out.

 

SHE IS NOW LIVING AT HER PARENTS AND HAS LOST A HUSBAND, HER OLD BOYFRIEND, AND MY SMUCK OF A HUSBAND.

 

MY POOR HUSBAND....cheated on by a cheater!

[96nole]

Eight months ago I was clearing out the closet in the basement, a local charity was picking up donations door to door the next day.

As I sorted through what I could give away I checked pockets before setting them aside. This is when I found a receipt inside the breast pocket of my husbands jacket. It was for a name brand ladies handbag, dated 7months past, paid in cash, and from the city my husband frequently travelled to for business. I don't remember how long a sat there on the floor next to a pile of clothes. It was just a piece of paper, just a f***en piece of paper and I knew what it meant.

 

I didn't confront my husband, I had no other proof, his cell phone was a company phone and I had no way of getting it's history. His lab top was also a company computer. Our home computer is shared by the family.

 

For days I stared at that receipt. I wasn't myself, by husband kept asking me what was wrong, at first he was kind, thinking I was coming down with a bug and then a couple of days later he made a sarcastic remark about me being on the rag.

 

That's when I wiped my tears and got mad, so frigging mad, the next day I hired a PI.

 

 

To make a long story short.

 

Got hard proof.

Got a background check on MOW

MOW only recently separated.

 

I then called MOW's Husband at his work. Turns out he had filed for divorce because he had caught his wife cheating, BUT GET THIS, it was not with my husband it was with an old boyfriend of hers.

 

I send MOW's soon to be Ex all the proof I have and then he sends it to her old boyfriend, who she's living with. Then old boyfriend kicks her out.

 

SHE IS NOW LIVING AT HER PARENTS AND HAS LOST A HUSBAND, HER OLD BOYFRIEND, AND MY SMUCK OF A HUSBAND.

 

MY POOR HUSBAND....cheated on by a cheater!

Yea!!!!!!! I love happy endings like this. I can only imagine what her parents must think. And I'm guessing your husband is either hanging by his privates or out in the doghouse.

[Furious]

As far I'm concerned we are separated, he won't move out. He is bending over backwards trying to reconcile.

[Fitz]

Eight months ago I was clearing out the closet in the basement, a local charity was picking up donations door to door the next day.

As I sorted through what I could give away I checked pockets before setting them aside. This is when I found a receipt inside the breast pocket of my husbands jacket. It was for a name brand ladies handbag, dated 7months past, paid in cash, and from the city my husband frequently travelled to for business. I don't remember how long a sat there on the floor next to a pile of clothes. It was just a piece of paper, just a f***en piece of paper and I knew what it meant.

 

I didn't confront my husband, I had no other proof, his cell phone was a company phone and I had no way of getting it's history. His lab top was also a company computer. Our home computer is shared by the family.

 

For days I stared at that receipt. I wasn't myself, by husband kept asking me what was wrong, at first he was kind, thinking I was coming down with a bug and then a couple of days later he made a sarcastic remark about me being on the rag.

 

That's when I wiped my tears and got mad, so frigging mad, the next day I hired a PI.

 

 

To make a long story short.

 

Got hard proof.

Got a background check on MOW

MOW only recently separated.

 

I then called MOW's Husband at his work. Turns out he had filed for divorce because he had caught his wife cheating, BUT GET THIS, it was not with my husband it was with an old boyfriend of hers.

 

I send MOW's soon to be Ex all the proof I have and then he sends it to her old boyfriend, who she's living with. Then old boyfriend kicks her out.

 

SHE IS NOW LIVING AT HER PARENTS AND HAS LOST A HUSBAND, HER OLD BOYFRIEND, AND MY SMUCK OF A HUSBAND.

 

MY POOR HUSBAND....cheated on by a cheater!

 

Wow! The PI was able to find out who the woman was based only on that receipt? How much did that cost?

[Furious]

My fantastic PI sub-contracted another PI in the city that my husband traveled to for business twice a month. I got pictures of them together and her licence number, and from that, her name and from that a background check.

 

It cost about, let's say, a one weeks vacation to Vegas, but worth every penny.