baffled1 Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 My ex left me more or less for someone else a few weeks ago. She had been "talking" to this guy behind my back but said it wasn't the primary reason for the breakup. I didn't tell her I was going to go NC but that's what I've been doing. Recently she sent me an short email saying "hi" followed by a series of pictures that we took on a really nice day we had spent together. It killed me to look at these pictures. Not sure if its worth emailing her back. I haven't opened the email again as seeing those pictures will only break my heart more. Ignore her totally? Or send a short email asking her not to contact me so I don't have to go through this again possibly a few weeks down the road?
geegirl Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 My ex left me more or less for someone else a few weeks ago. She had been "talking" to this guy behind my back but said it wasn't the primary reason for the breakup. I didn't tell her I was going to go NC but that's what I've been doing. Recently she sent me an short email saying "hi" followed by a series of pictures that we took on a really nice day we had spent together. It killed me to look at these pictures. Not sure if its worth emailing her back. I haven't opened the email again as seeing those pictures will only break my heart more. Ignore her totally? Or send a short email asking her not to contact me so I don't have to go through this again possibly a few weeks down the road? Tell her to stop and respect your need for NC so she doesn't continue to derail you since you just broke up. She will reach out due to guilt, at some point. If you can stand to ignore, then ignore.
Chi townD Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Uh huh.....I LOVE IT when they say, "He/she isn't the reason we broke up!" Yeah...right. So, why are you with them now? Sometimes people are stupid. She's starting to feel guilty, ignore it. She did this, you didn't. 1
CaliBabe Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 She left you for someone else. She is trying to ease her own guilt as many women can't stand the fact that someone out there actually dislikes them. I'd ignore it, forget the NC explanation as she doesn't deserve it. 2
Author baffled1 Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 She left you for someone else. She is trying to ease her own guilt as many women can't stand the fact that someone out there actually dislikes them. I'd ignore it, forget the NC explanation as she doesn't deserve it. Your probably right, I told her she could contact me the last time I saw her which was probably stupid. I guess I don't have to explain anything to her at this point as she lied to me and I owe her nothing. It would probably be dumb as it will just re-open a line of communication. At the same time I don't want to get another one of these email down the road and have a regression in my healing process.
Chi townD Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Your probably right, I told her she could contact me the last time I saw her which was probably stupid. No worries, dude! Nothing stupid about it. No different when they break up with you and the last thing they say to you is, "I hope we can still be friends?" Like you're gonna take THAT seriously?
Author baffled1 Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 No worries, dude! Nothing stupid about it. No different when they break up with you and the last thing they say to you is, "I hope we can still be friends?" Like you're gonna take THAT seriously? Yeah that's what she said to me, that's what she wants.
Chi townD Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Yeah that's what she said to me, that's what she wants. Going back to what Cali said. Women hate when they think that there is a person in the world that thinks they're not a nice person. They would LOVE to get you in the "friend zone" so that they can ease there own guilt by saying, "Oh Look, we're not together anymore and we're really good friends! I guess I was right to break up with him! Yay me!!!! Now I have to get ready for my date without any guilt!" Just ignore her. Do ease her guilt and don't stroke her ego by responding.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 My ex left me more or less for someone else a few weeks ago. She had been "talking" to this guy behind my back but said it wasn't the primary reason for the breakup. I didn't tell her I was going to go NC but that's what I've been doing. Recently she sent me an short email saying "hi" followed by a series of pictures that we took on a really nice day we had spent together. It killed me to look at these pictures. Not sure if its worth emailing her back. I haven't opened the email again as seeing those pictures will only break my heart more. Ignore her totally? Or send a short email asking her not to contact me so I don't have to go through this again possibly a few weeks down the road? That is torture:( She left you and is sending you these pictures? Why? What is her motive? To put the knife in a little more? By all means, ignore. If you tell her it bothers you, it will feed her ego. "Ha! He is still hanging on and wants me! I'll keep him in the friend zone in case I need to be flattered!!" Delete that stuff so you can move on. No reason to keep those tangible memories. 3
Author baffled1 Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 That is torture:( She left you and is sending you these pictures? Why? What is her motive? To put the knife in a little more? By all means, ignore. If you tell her it bothers you, it will feed her ego. "Ha! He is still hanging on and wants me! I'll keep him in the friend zone in case I need to be flattered!!" Delete that stuff so you can move on. No reason to keep those tangible memories. Yeah I don't know, she said she still wanted to be friends with me. I should have told her that I wanted to go no contact but it was tough to say to her face. Plus I wasn't 100% sure that's what I wanted to do at the moment.
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