kyle77 Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 So university is wrapping up with just a few exams left on my schedule. However, I have quite the dilemma on my hands. I am trying to decide whether I should pursue my ex now and over the summer or really just break free? Now my ex broke up with me about 6 months ago because she felt unappreciated and for a bunch of other reasons Im sure but I just didn't get to hear them. Shortly after she broke up with me I started a new semester of classes and she was in one of them, so we have been in regular contact ever since. While this was good because I got to see her and she makes me happy, I never really had the chance to separate myself from her to truly move on. It has been six months and I still have moments where I miss her dearly and feel very depressed because she is gone. Until recently it was very awkward between us. However, as of late we are laughing playing around and having a good time when we are together. I may be seeing her in a few days so I am wondering if it would be best for me to try and rekindle what we had or to completely separate myself for the summer. Obviously I want her back but I don't just want a summer fling....I want a relationship where we are both happy and committed. Do you think if I use this summer to move on will I lose her forever?
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Do you think if I use this summer to move on will I lose her forever? Nobody can answer that. Sorry, but that's the truth. Has she shown any interest in you at all or are you chasing a ghost?
Author kyle77 Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 ya lately she has warmed up to me...but its not like she is making an effort to talk to me or be around me....its just when we are together at school does she start to flirt etc.
mridul_chajilee Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Never leave her and stay continue coz u will never find someone like ur EX.
Author kyle77 Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 really? you honestly think i should pursue her over the summer? I thought that because I never got a chance to try and move on that it might be more productive to try because a lot of get your ex back online says by moving on you can increase your chances of getting her back...but I can see how going after her might increase my chances as well...i guess i just need more advice... more opinions please!!!!!
mridul_chajilee Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 by moving on you can increase your chances of getting her back.. yes we can move on to get back her.But how long time?Our ages don't wait for us.
darkmoon Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 (edited) just drop hints to her, no need to jeapordize anything Edited April 19, 2012 by darkmoon
Author kyle77 Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 more opinions please....trying to figure out the best thing I can do for myself and my possible future with her...
HollyBolly Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 ...anything? What does your young heart tell you to do? 1
NoKids Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Kyle, If you heart tells you that you still care about her, why don't you start with something simple. Ask her to meet up for a drink or coffee. But something no threatening and simple. Just like you would if you were starting from scratch. At that time sit and talk and see where things go with the both of you. If things go well, ask her out again. If that goes well, ask her out again and again and so on. Maybe you guys have something special that is worth rekindling, maybe you don't. Try and keep things simple. She will appreciate the fact that you are not trying to just go back to where you were. You may find that she will show a different side of herself as well. Good luck bud
Author kyle77 Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 My heart tells me to go for her...but I keep second guessing myself because the last time my heart told me to do something....well it didn't turn out so great for me....
NoKids Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 My heart tells me to go for her...but I keep second guessing myself because the last time my heart told me to do something....well it didn't turn out so great for me.... Another great reason for you to start simple and see where things go from there. It will allow you a better ability to evaluate things as they progress instead of ending up in the deep end again so quickly.
Author kyle77 Posted April 21, 2012 Author Posted April 21, 2012 okay so something simple and taking it slow....that is a must THANKS! now since I'm no longer in contact....university over....summer started what do i do to be simple and take it slow....I feel like asking her out on a date might be a little bit forward for the situation I am in.
NoKids Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Same still stands true. Call her up or send her a text. "Hey there, I was wondering if you would like to grab a drink at (INSERT PLACE HERE) on (INSERT DAY HERE)?" Keep it light, do not expect anything.
Author kyle77 Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 and you dont think that will be too forward? I suppose she could have been wanting me to do that for a while, never really thought about it...
Sharetheland Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 I think that you should approach her gently and tell her how you feel. Be honest and make sure that you communicate to her that you've changed and you want another chance at being the partner to her that you've realized you should have been in the first place. You'll be taking the risk that she may not feel the same way and just want things to remain friendly at school. But at least then you won't look back and regret not putting your feelings out there and wonder what could have been. If she feels the same way then great! But if not, then you'll have to accept this and move on. It might mean that you guys can't be friends anymore at school but sometimes its worth it for the "greater good". I'm sure that either way you'll go on to lead a happy life. Good luck!
Author kyle77 Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 Thanks for the advice! ya i think I am going to have to just tell her how I feel but gently. Maybe it will work maybe it won't but at least that way I won't regret not trying. I just want things to work out between us so badly that its tough to think that if I tell her and she says no I will have to just accept it and forget about her.
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