Avarage Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Well, this is a question for the women but guys your welcome to answer also. So say you and a guy have been texting, about 90 some messages in the last two days. Conversation has been flowing well and no real hiccups are detected on my part. She replies in a quick fashion, usually within the hour. Would you expect me to ask you out at this point and if I didn't would I have been considered a write off? I'm curious because I wonder if the problem I'm having is that I move too slowly. Most of the time when I've met women online they are the ones to suggest we exchange numbers and text.
NeverDated Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 This all depends on what we've been texting about for two days. If there is a point in the exchange where the suggestion of a meeting doesn't seem awkward, then I'd expect it. And probably get turned off if he just blew right past it.
USCGAviator Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I would hope someone would suggest meeting soon! Unless your just trying to get a top score in text replies..
veggirl Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Yeah you should have asked her out like at the end of the first day of texting. Do it now! I'd start wondering if you were ever going to after the 2nd day of texting I think!
Author Avarage Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 Gonna do it! Definitely don't want to screw this one up. She's far too interesting to pass on. Just waiting for her to text me back so I can lead into it.
Author Avarage Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 So just a quick update here, I did ask her out but she said she would be working then. She didn't really offer an alternative time or atleast date so that's not a good sign in my book. A confusing note though is that we've still be texting as much. I'm not really sure on how to proceed on this one. Should I give it some more time and try again or just write this one off?
veggirl Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 So just a quick update here, I did ask her out but she said she would be working then. She didn't really offer an alternative time or atleast date so that's not a good sign in my book. A confusing note though is that we've still be texting as much. I'm not really sure on how to proceed on this one. Should I give it some more time and try again or just write this one off? Ask her "what day would work better for you" If she doesn't give you a specific day...then back off big time.
NateC Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 If 90 messages in two days is a lot, try 500 in two weeks...haha. Unfortunately there's only a friendship there but it's someone to talk to (plus well, college friend and all that).
Author Avarage Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 Well she had said in reply to me ask her out that she would have to see when she could get away. I took that to mean she would let me know but I'm now having second thoughts.
veggirl Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Pull back on the texting a little until she lets you know. You're gonna start getting too attached from TEXTING before you actually have the date!
Author Avarage Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 Your right veggirl. I'm gonna scale back the contact, better to limit it so that I don't get any more attached. That's the biggest reason I haven't called and spoken in person. I'll try again in a couple of days and if still no go then I'll have to cut my losses.
NateC Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Your right veggirl. I'm gonna scale back the contact, better to limit it so that I don't get any more attached. That's the biggest reason I haven't called and spoken in person. I'll try again in a couple of days and if still no go then I'll have to cut my losses. Good idea. I've made that mistake more than once and paid for it...
Babolat Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Online dating is a challenge. I have done it. My experience suggest the ones that want to meet right away are not the ones for me. What's the hurry? Take your time, learn as much as you can to know you want to meet. Then, ask. You do not have to pick a date on the first "ask". Get a yes, then plan a date and time. If you do not get a yes, move on. The ones that take time, emailing back and forth, no crazy amounts of texting (I prefer no texting before we meet), are the best ones. In my opinion you have done a lot of texting with this girl, too much for my tastes, too soon for all of that. Your feeling attached is a concern for me too this early. Either way, good luck.
Babolat Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Good idea. I've made that mistake more than once and paid for it... Do npt come across as clingy or needy...play it cool.
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