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Hello community!

 

For a while, I have been only lurking around here. I've been reading stories, and I noticed the human experience repeats itself, like an echo on people's lives.

 

I've been through a recent break-up myself, and it truly isn't lovely. Still, it helped me to grow, gain maturity, and become a better man myself so that someday, I can love even deeper than I did before.

 

Still, I can't help feeling like I've lost "The One". I've had this feeling before and I know I have been wrong, but I can't help expecting to find this special girl, that has such a strong connection with me that we were destined to be life partners.

 

This one girl had everything to do with me, we connected in so many different ways that it was hard to believe life would find a couple so similar and put them together. But problems got into our relationship; she grew jealous of a girl, and worst than that, I couldn't get through her fear of sex and she remained a virgin even after our 7 month relationship.

 

Near the end, things weren't so strong between us anymore, and the girl she was jealous of was a strong enough reason to put an end to it. I felt lost, confused, and disillusioned. What about our never ending love? What about our plans for the future, our house, the names we picked for our kids?

 

Well she cried endlessly for weeks, and I felt like crap. We both wanted things to work out, we both wanted to be happy together and still, even with all our similarity, it didn't work out in the end. Is it all just an Illusion? Is there no such thing as The One?

 

Thanks for reading, it's definitely therapeutic just to lay it out like this.

 

Daniel

TaraMaiden Established Member

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No, there's only such a thing as "The One, here and now".

 

If she had been 'The One' she'd be here, now.

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smudge21 Established Member

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I've met "the one"... three times!

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Zahara Established Member

Zahara

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I've had 3 "the one" in my lifetime and they're not here, now.

 

You should never limit yourself with these terms. Sounds so restricting.

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The one doesn't exist. Soulmates don't exist either. Just as destiny and fate, it's a bunch of crap. Don't fall for this illusion ever again! I have decided that the next girl for me will no longer be anyone I have to love. For me, it will suffice to just like her enough to be with her. If that like turns into love, than great. If not, too bad. I've grown tired of looking for that perfect girl where everything fits perfectly. They just end up tearing you apart anyway.

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Kind of.

 

Everyone has an ideal partner and when they meet that person they are seen in a higher regard than others as if they are special or essentially "the one."

 

There's no such thing as the one but there are several special individuals who are perfect for you in this world!

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SilverBlueAndGold Established Member

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Depends, when I am with her she is "The One"

 

When it's over I convince myself there is more than One.

 

:D

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I used to believe in "the one". My ex and I had over a decade of history and we liked each other for so long, and life kept splitting us up and putting us back together in random ways before we got together for our 4 year relationship.

 

However, the fact that that all amounted to crap means I don't believe in "The One" anymore.

 

Actually, no, that's no strictly true. I do believe in the "the One", but not in a star-crossed lovers kind of way, just in the sense of "the one you spend the rest of your life with"

 

I think that believing in "The One" is kind of life the Santa Clause myth for grown-ups. You believe in it until you learn it isn't true, and your world is a little less magical after that point :p

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Right now, no, because I feel like s**t.

 

When I meet the next woman, I will believe again...until she dumps me.

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yes.

 

soulmates do not have to be romantic partners. and we may have many.

 

twin-flames though, are much more sacred. personally, yes, i feel i met my twin-flame, and things ended, but on occasion we still speak. even 10 years later she still dreams precognitive things about my life that she would never have knowledge of (and i mean specific things, not "hey you have brown hair!").

 

anyway. once she had said, paraphrasing, "what if my soulmate is still out there, and i married someone else's soulmate?"

 

sure...i believe it. maybe we find "the one" but nature and fate do not always FORCE us together. i still think that power is in our hands.

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CaliBabe Established Member

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yes.

 

soulmates do not have to be romantic partners. and we may have many.

 

twin-flames though, are much more sacred. personally, yes, i feel i met my twin-flame, and things ended, but on occasion we still speak. even 10 years later she still dreams precognitive things about my life that she would never have knowledge of (and i mean specific things, not "hey you have brown hair!").

 

anyway. once she had said, paraphrasing, "what if my soulmate is still out there, and i married someone else's soulmate?"

 

sure...i believe it. maybe we find "the one" but nature and fate do not always FORCE us together. i still think that power is in our hands.

 

 

I am SO with this. And again, it is just my belief. But I believe we have soulmates (which can be many) and there are twin flames. Twin flame connections are so powerful and they have a special purpose on this earth. I also flitzanu feel like I have met my twin flame as well.

 

If your interested in this, look it up, it's quite interesting.

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thanks cali, i'm glad someone gets it. ;)

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Twin flame, I like that! Has a nicer ring to it than soulmate...

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BewitchedandBothered Established Member

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Hello community!

 

For a while, I have been only lurking around here. I've been reading stories, and I noticed the human experience repeats itself, like an echo on people's lives.

 

I've been through a recent break-up myself, and it truly isn't lovely. Still, it helped me to grow, gain maturity, and become a better man myself so that someday, I can love even deeper than I did before.

 

Still, I can't help feeling like I've lost "The One". I've had this feeling before and I know I have been wrong, but I can't help expecting to find this special girl, that has such a strong connection with me that we were destined to be life partners.

 

This one girl had everything to do with me, we connected in so many different ways that it was hard to believe life would find a couple so similar and put them together. But problems got into our relationship; she grew jealous of a girl, and worst than that, I couldn't get through her fear of sex and she remained a virgin even after our 7 month relationship.

 

Near the end, things weren't so strong between us anymore, and the girl she was jealous of was a strong enough reason to put an end to it. I felt lost, confused, and disillusioned. What about our never ending love? What about our plans for the future, our house, the names we picked for our kids?

 

Well she cried endlessly for weeks, and I felt like crap. We both wanted things to work out, we both wanted to be happy together and still, even with all our similarity, it didn't work out in the end. Is it all just an Illusion? Is there no such thing as The One?

 

Thanks for reading, it's definitely therapeutic just to lay it out like this.

 

Daniel

I believe in The One, but as it stands right now Matthew Mcconaughey hasn't returned any of my calls yet;)
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JohnP82 Established Member

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I'm not sure if I believe in that anymore. I used to, but life has a funny way of kicking your beliefs in the ass.

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Twin flame, I like that! Has a nicer ring to it than soulmate...

 

big differences between a soulmate and twinflame though. :)

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I believe in The One, but as it stands right now Matthew Mcconaughey hasn't returned any of my calls yet;)

 

Yeah, Marisa Tomei hasn't returned mine either. Wonder what's taking them so long.

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Did you give them the area code...you know... 555....? :laugh:

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I believe in The One, but as it stands right now Matthew Mcconaughey hasn't returned any of my calls yet;)

 

ewww, you like matthew mcconaughey? we have so opposite tastes... I never knew people actually liked him

 

you alon with many other girls from loveshack should go out manhunting with me, we would never go to same guys (mcconaughey is like... in terms of fit men considered as heart throbs.. opposite of what i want)

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Daniel Kaiser Member

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It's just so hard, isn't it? It always seems like you will never meet a person like that again. It's just so hard to come by, that it feels like such a shame to let go of her, making it even harder.

 

Even so, so far it's been a upstairs walk. I wanna hope that the "next one" will be even better than the last one, but I can't help but feel sad to let go of someone I loved so much, just like that.

 

I know, deep inside, I wanted to believe that girl was destined to be mine. That there was nothing I could do wrong, that the perfect fit for me would be waiting for me when I was ready for her. Hard to accept it isn't like that :(

 

I'm gonna read about that Twin Flame thing :)

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BewitchedandBothered Established Member

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Always wake up thinking that something wonderful is going to happen:) It will keep you positive:)

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I think Madonna nailed when she said "I do believe that we all have a soulmate, however I don't believe we always get to be with that person"

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In that case - you don't have a soulmate!

 

You only have a soulmate when you're with them - until you're with them, that soulmate doesn't exist! Sheeeesh!!

 

:rolleyes:

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I do believe that there is one love you will have in your lifetime, either present or past who will have effected you the most, touched you the most and perhaps even hurt you the most but they will always have a special place within your heart.

I am not sure if there is one person who is my "yang", but maybe because I just haven't met them yet.

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Lousy advice on "The One" @ 9 Signs You've Met The One | eHarmony Advice

 

Used to believe in The One. Now not anymore.

 

A decent man who can convince me that he wants only me forever and back that up with effort to make our relationship work & last - that's THE ONE I want.

 

:D

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