Recusant Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I met this girl on an internet dating site, she contacted me there three weeks ago. We hit it off immediately, had major attraction, good communication, felt great being with her, the sex was great, and we really liked each other. Two weeks go by, she tells me she didn't want me to date anyone else, so I make her my girlfriend. Two nights later I admittedly acted like a selfish jerk and a douchebag. The next day she dumped me, said she didn't think it would work out for one reason...she didn't think she could keep up with my sex drive. Three days later we talked again. She said she wanted someone perfect for her, that she didn't know if I was perfect for her. Said she didn't think she was supposed to be with me. Said even more reasons why we shouldn't get back together. She even told me she was into me but wasn't sure I was into her for anything more than sex. I really want to make this work out, just put last weekend behind us and move forward. We left off the conversation that I just wanted her to spend one hour with me in person and then make her decision. She said "not tonight" and I said ok, thanks for talking to me and have a good night, talk to you soon". What should I do next? I wrote a nice letter and was going to mail it to her, not call or text her for a few days. I don't want to let it go because I know she's really into me, just freaking out a little. Help!
Author Recusant Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 So really my question is...since she said she was really into me but wasn't sure if i was into her for anything more than sex...should I like try to prove to her that I'm into her and really do like her? Or just wait for her to contact me?
kassy Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Ask her out on a fun activity date, tell her you like her and want to spend time with her and it doesn't all have to be about sex. Pick 3 activities like ice skating, go to a theme park or salsa class or whatever you think she'd like and say you thought of these things you guys could do. Ask if any appeal or if she has something else she would like to do instead. Lock down an activity and a time. Then by all means be affectionate, but don't have sex unless she begs for it. I think she just wants to know you like her and not just sex. Show her that, and the sex will return later
kassy Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Oh and when you first see her give her a big hug, and tell her it's really good to see her
namenottaken Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Two nights later I admittedly acted like a selfish jerk and a douchebag. What did you? Everything she is saying now could just be excuses she’s using because whatever you did is inexcusable. Depending on this, you could have blown it and it won’t matter what you do at this point.
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