USMCHokie Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I'm watching an episode of How I Met Your Mother, and it's an episode focusing on a "girl next door"...which got me thinking, is there such a thing as the "guy next door"...? And are they even desirable...?
mesmerized Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 lool my next door guys aren't desirable to me.
dasein Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Sure, he's out there in the bushes... or hidden in the closet or under the bed. That's how current media and culture portray "the guy next door" more often than not.
Anela Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Yes. I had a crush on the boy next-door. he had a crush on me, too, it turned out, but he asked me out just before I moved to America. 2
Jane2011 Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Yeah, I do think there is a "boy next door" type. I don't particularly like them, though. Not because of their niceness (a good thing), but because of the All-Americanness I associate with them. In general, I prefer a more international flavor to men.
PJKino Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 "Average Joe" i guess which is usually used in a negative way
january2011 Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 In my experience, "yes," to both questions. He's the glue that holds a group together. Friends with everyone. The everyman. Part of the group but sometimes invisible because he's not as loud as the alpha male and/or he's the alpha male's best friend. He may or may not also be the class clown - which would give him more visiblity. He's usually the knight-in-shining armour type. Reliable and does a lot of favours for people - would do anything for his friends. This means that his partner might find herself low priority. If that bothers her then it suggests a fundamental compability issue. However, he tends to go after independent/tom-boy types, rather than the girl-next-door - so this may not be a problem, unless deep down she's insecure and has abandonment issues.
zengirl Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 There are definitely boy next door types. A BND type guy with some infusion of nerdy is exactly what I go for. BND, to me, = kind, considerate, friendly, down-to-Earth guy who has a lot of friends, is gregarious and sociable but not the loudest guy around, and really respects the people around him but also respects himself. I don't see him as the knight-in-shining armor type or the class clown type. In fact, I'd say BNDs are not likely to particularly distinguish themselves (personality wise) in general, unless you know them -- they are jack of all trades types: a little bit good at everything, but not flashy in any way. They can excel at work, however, and often do, as they are usually extremely well-liked, and that helps a lot in corporate America. I think BNDs avoid drama, so they may seek a variety of types of women but avoid the types with the most drama. BND type guys make the best dads. For a HIMYM analogy: Marshall is a BND type. For sure. I think they're extremely desirable types of men.
zengirl Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 P.S. I was thinking about this and I'd add: The downside of the BND guy is that he can tend to be a bit passive-aggressive and not the best at asserting himself. Also, I remember the episode of HIMYM you're talking about. . . I'd say that was a bit hyperbolic but I agree that quintessential "girl next doors" (the most desirable ones especially) have very small windows to catch them in, and I think that's true for GNDs, too. Neither gender of that type tends to be single for long periods. Both GNDs and BNDs have great interpersonal skills, low egos, and are not particularly shallow.
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