poker29 Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I'm not sure why i'm writing this to be honest, but i'm really confused. I've was with my ex for 2 and a bit years, barring a 6 month gap last year when we seperated and I moved out of our home and into my friends place (I was unhappy in the relationship). I ended up in a rebound thing with another girl that ended eventually, but all the time we were apart, we remained friends, and she always made it clear how much she still loved me and would do anything to get me back, which eventually happened last September. About 5 weeks ago my girlfriend (out of the blue) dumped me basically over the phone whilst she was at work.....I was at her house as I was staying there for a few days at the time. I immediately left and returned to my own town a few miles away. I contacted her the following day and did the usual begging and pleading etc, to which she just kept saying she didn't feel the same way anymore. (despite the fact that she was always clinging to me, and telling me how much she loved me, even a couple of days before this) I left her alone for a few days and then asked called her asking her to give me a real explanation as to why she had ended it. She said it was because i'd taken a few days out a couple of months before because I was unsure about having children with her. (big decision for me, so I had to really think about if before I could say yes, and I did agree to it in the end) Then she admitted to liking some guy she works with Again I left her alone for a couple more weeks and then sent her a few random messages on fb whilst I was drunk telling her I loved her (the last one though said that I didnt want a reply if she still felt the same way, i'd rather she just blocked me on the site, and i'd delete her mobile number to remove any temptation of texting etc..........and when I woke up the next day she had just blocked me:( And thats about it its been 3 more weeks of nc since the late night fb stuff. I didn't see it coming, i'm still kinda about the whole thing. Do I just move on now, do I give it time, dunno, thanks for reading
Philosoraptor Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 You move on. All the crap about taking a few days to make a major life decision is just a way to shift the blame. She was interested in someone else and decided that the prospect of what she could have with this guy was better than what she did have with you.
Chi townD Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Yes! Dude! Leave her alone and work on yourself. From your post, it sounds like you're bouncing from place to place to place. Living at her place, then staying at a friends place...It sounds like you don't have any stability in your life. Stay with your folks or whatever and get into school to help you achieve a better financial foundation for yourself. Get your own place, change your self image (haircut, new clothes), work out and get healthy...etc...etc... Work on you!
Author poker29 Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 Thanks for the advice, I know what ya both saying is true, it just seems crazy that someone would persue me for so long, and want kids and want me to follow them to the north of this country later this year................and then in a matter of days drop all this...........and just dump me
Reddice Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Thanks for the advice, I know what ya both saying is true, it just seems crazy that someone would persue me for so long, and want kids and want me to follow them to the north of this country later this year................and then in a matter of days drop all this...........and just dump me I have heard and read this many, many times. And as an icing on the cake, I got to experience it too. It seems to be something almost all dumpers have in common.
Chi townD Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Dude, I know you're hurting right now and I totally get it. But, you seriously need to work on yourself! She decided not to have you in her life. That was her choice, but you don't have to live your life by her choices. You get your revenge. Get yourself straight. Go to school and get a kick ass job that has stability and pays well. Get into that position that you can afford that really nice and upscale Apartment or Townehome. MAKE SOMETHING GOOD COME OUT OF THIS!! Right now, your last post sounds like, " She dumped me.....poor me" and turn it into " She dumped me....HER LOSS!!!"
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