gf Posted June 18, 2004 Posted June 18, 2004 just want to know, do you still keep your ex's pictures?? if yes why you keep it?? there's no you in the pictures.
pretty_petal Posted June 18, 2004 Posted June 18, 2004 I only have one ex and that was when i was 11 years old... we only lasted 9 months. I have a couple of photos of him but most are of lots of people n him just happening to be in it. I have one photo of him on his own. I don't know why i keep them. i guess just cos... i actually really don't know. i've never thought about it. i'll get back to you on that. I'm older now and am in a relationship thats been 14 months. My bf has had about 3 exs and hasn't shown me photos of his exs. don't know if he has any. would annoy me if he did tho i think... for him to want to be reminded of them would make me think hes not over them. But i guess thats double standards. Why do you ask?
dasani08810 Posted June 18, 2004 Posted June 18, 2004 I have a lot of them: one on my dartboard, one painted on the bottom of my toilet, one taped to the rear end of my dog ( picture side facing the dog), and one at the bottom of my aquarium with a brick on top of it: even had someone make a years supply of toilet paper with her picture on every sheet. I'm looking for suggestions for the other ones I have. LOL
HoldOn Posted June 18, 2004 Posted June 18, 2004 I personally don't think that pictures mean anything. I have 2 ex-boyfriends who I dated for 4 years each. I am not going to get rid of their pictures because that would be like erasing history or something. I do get rid of pictures if they have me and him snuggling or kissing or something. Also, it's not like I look at the pictures wishing we could get back together. I am usually thinking about how I am glad that we're not together anymore. Besides if I destroyed every single picture of them, half my photo albums would be gone! I feel no need to get rid of the pictures because they don't have any emotional value, they're just like a historical record of my life.
dyermaker Posted June 18, 2004 Posted June 18, 2004 I actually don't have an ex-girlfriend, so I'm not speaking personally, but if I did, I wouldn't expect that to threaten anyone. We're not the people we were before, we're just not. If you like your SO for what they are, realize that what they are is the sum of what they were--all of the experiences and relationships that's made that person who they are, how they behave, etc. A photograph is a memory. You wouldn't want your SO to forget about their Ex, because that's a part of who they were. They shared things, they learned things, and they modified themselves accordingly. Now, he's with you. You'll share things, learn things, and modify things accordingly. If things don't work out between you, he'll keep a picture of you. It's one thing if he's touching himself to it or something, but if he's just keeping the memories around, I don't think that should threaten you.
lnichols Posted June 18, 2004 Posted June 18, 2004 Don't forget the lining of the bird cage! My husband has a couple of pics of his ex in photo albumns. I personally hate it, but it isn't like he's looking at them all the time. Especially not after I burn them!
Fayebelle Posted June 18, 2004 Posted June 18, 2004 I still have all my pics of everyone; good or bad; I've ever known b/c like Dyer I believe in the memories. One step further- I have 2 pics of myself w/ exes in my living rm b/c we are still really good friends. The BF I live w/ is total comfy w/ this b/c he knows and trusts me and realizes my exes are X for a reason. Granted my current is an amazingly rational and tolerant man but that's one of the things I love ablut him.
Leihua Posted June 18, 2004 Posted June 18, 2004 Maybe I'm immature about this, but I don't think there's any reason to hang on to old pics. I guess if they are lying around forgotten that's one thing, but if it bothered my significant other, I think I would have the sensitivity to throw them out. Memories are fine for me, if I keep a picture of someone or something, it's because I care about them. I don't really understand the people who say "I keep pics as a timeline of my life, it's not like I look at them etc"...I guess I keep mine in my head, I'm not so sentimental I need to keep every part of my life in a scrapbook. If that were the case, I'd have all sorts of boogers and nasty things in there. I mean, boogers are a part of my life too, I don't need to look at them though for memories or because they were a part of my life. If I have pics, its cause I want to look at them..I keep pics of things I like so I can go back and look at them. If I liked my ex, I'd keep a picture of them. But there's a reason why they're an ex, and a that's reason why I don't need pictures of them.
faux Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 I have photographs of ex-girlfriends, as they were an important part of my life. I keep them in a little treasure chest type box, along with other various interesting odds and ends. I will take them out if someone asks about my past, just the same as I would show my own family photographs to someone who wanted to see them.
UCFKevin Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 Nope. I don't have any, physical, anyway. I have some on my computer but that's it.
KK'sLove Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 I keep all of the pictures of my ex's. It's part of my life and my memories, whether they are good or bad ones. My twin destroyed all of the pictures of her ex and I think that is wrong. That was a 5 year relationship and what does she have now to look at. They are vacation pictures, party pictures, just pictures. They remind us of who we are and how we got here and I definately don't think that is a bad thing. Now you don't care them around or hang them up but keeping them under the bed or in a closest...sure...that's fine by me.
Triguluous Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 To remind myself of all the mistakes I have made. Girls I shouldn't have broken up with and girls that I should have broken up with a lot sooner than I did. I keep just the pictures, anything else I get from them I usually through away or do something with them when I am in a drunkn stuper.
Naive Posted July 9, 2004 Posted July 9, 2004 Originally posted by dyermaker We're not the people we were before, we're just not. If you like your SO for what they are, realize that what they are is the sum of what they were--all of the experiences and relationships that's made that person who they are, how they behave, etc. A photograph is a memory. You wouldn't want your SO to forget about their Ex, because that's a part of who they were. They shared things, they learned things, and they modified themselves accordingly. Now, he's with you. You'll share things, learn things, and modify things accordingly. If things don't work out between you, he'll keep a picture of you. I totally agree with this^. I keep pictures of my exes even if we have had bad experiences, they played a big role in making me who I am; plus, there's nothing more special than your memories and everyone should cherish them.
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