BurningDream Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I see this really hot guy at the gym quite often. I don't know how to approach him. I see him looking at me a lot sometimes but if I look at him he looks away. If we are near each other, he either looks at the floor or something like that. I saw him today. He was using machine and I saw him turn his head around when I ran by...but remember he won't look at me if I look at him. Well later, I was on the other side of the gym and he walked by behind me, I saw him in the mirror. He sat nearby...when I finished what I was doing he avoided me looking at him. But yet he almost hangs around if you know what I mean? So after that, I was on the other side and I saw him watching me...very obvious...but the second I look at him, he looks away. Other times he looks at me out of the corner of his eye, like a trapped animal if I walk behind him. To give him some credit here, I think he may have tried to approach me before, he met me head-on on the track smiling at me....and then I couldn't look at him....for what seemed like forever, then I passed him, he had moved off the track and was looking down when I looked at him. Damit, if he just had looked....that was one of the few times he took his headphones off. WTF. I don't get why this happens to me, I used to never have problems talking to guys despite being "shy"....but him oh no. The others made up for it by being friendly when I wasn't. Every time I think about approaching him, his behavior makes me think maybe he's not shy but he is a snot, or he's an ass or he has a g/f....freaks me out. Also, like I said already, the dude is so hot and due to my default nervousness I find it hard to think around him. I'm lost...but I really would like to know at least, whats up with him.
Philosoraptor Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Just say something. The worst thing you can do is get rejected. It's not the end of the world to be rejected either.
Feelin Frisky Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I wouldn't consider a non-response to saying something a rejection. Simply start by offering friendly acknowledgment of his presence by a hello gesture like a nod and a smile. Don't get bent out of shape if he doesn't return the gesture right away because he may just really be over-compensating for shyness by working out. Just exude positivity all the time without going overboard. He should start returning your vibe by at least acknowledging you back. Then as you get closer it will not be a big deal to initiate an ice breaker verbally. Work it. PS: Welcome to LS fellow Virginian.
naughtyowl Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 If I were you I'd drop something near him "on accident" and see if he returns it. That might lead to a more natural meeting and conversation. If you end up going out with him and later tell him, he'd probably find it cute that you planned the little bait and trap like that.
ScreamingTrees Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 I see this really hot guy at the gym quite often. I don't know how to approach him. I see him looking at me a lot sometimes but if I look at him he looks away. If we are near each other, he either looks at the floor or something like that. I saw him today. He was using machine and I saw him turn his head around when I ran by...but remember he won't look at me if I look at him. Well later, I was on the other side of the gym and he walked by behind me, I saw him in the mirror. He sat nearby...when I finished what I was doing he avoided me looking at him. But yet he almost hangs around if you know what I mean? So after that, I was on the other side and I saw him watching me...very obvious...but the second I look at him, he looks away. Other times he looks at me out of the corner of his eye, like a trapped animal if I walk behind him. To give him some credit here, I think he may have tried to approach me before, he met me head-on on the track smiling at me....and then I couldn't look at him....for what seemed like forever, then I passed him, he had moved off the track and was looking down when I looked at him. Damit, if he just had looked....that was one of the few times he took his headphones off. WTF. I don't get why this happens to me, I used to never have problems talking to guys despite being "shy"....but him oh no. The others made up for it by being friendly when I wasn't. Every time I think about approaching him, his behavior makes me think maybe he's not shy but he is a snot, or he's an ass or he has a g/f....freaks me out. Also, like I said already, the dude is so hot and due to my default nervousness I find it hard to think around him. I'm lost...but I really would like to know at least, whats up with him. This sounds like me, actually, although I don't go to the gym to keep my body in good shape. Huh, maybe this is how some girls might be thinking about me when I get all nervous. I don't know why I get like that, but my body often does it's own thing. He might still be into you if he's anything like me, it's worth a shot.
Author BurningDream Posted April 19, 2012 Author Posted April 19, 2012 First of all thanks to all of you. I think his headphones are one of my enemies, and his general lack of eye contact up close....so he doesn't see or hear me say anything. I guess my best bet is smile at him from across the gym when I catch him looking. I will also look for an excuse to ask him something...like when this one person leaves some heavy discs on one of the machines, I could always ask him to move it for me. What do you guys find is helpful for getting the nerve up to say something? I find it hard to even look at him sometimes.
naughtyowl Posted April 19, 2012 Posted April 19, 2012 Just do baby steps. First smiles, then nods, then "Hi", then "How are you today?", then "Hey, what's up, nice shoes!", etc... I know, easier said then done, but if he's really just shy then he'll probably be patient enough to slowly build up the comfort level.
NateC Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 Just do baby steps. First smiles, then nods, then "Hi", then "How are you today?", then "Hey, what's up, nice shoes!", etc... I know, easier said then done, but if he's really just shy then he'll probably be patient enough to slowly build up the comfort level. This. Sometimes the guy is shy...I know because I'm one of those guys. He'll warm up to you if you take the initiative.
Author BurningDream Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 You guys would laugh if you knew how many times I have seen him before and didn't try to make contact. But I'm going to the gym again today....
NateC Posted April 20, 2012 Posted April 20, 2012 You guys would laugh if you knew how many times I have seen him before and didn't try to make contact. But I'm going to the gym again today.... Good luck!
Author BurningDream Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 I said hi to him but he had his headphones on. I was behind the machine he was using. When he was finished, he got down and walked off but left his towel. Then he came back, head phones blasting, when he got next to the machine I looked right into his eyes and said "hi". I started to smile but.... His response: His eyes got serious, kinda big and he froze for an instance...he slowly looked down, then turned and wiped down the machine...like real thoroughly...I thought the way he did it was sexy...like foreplay but then my mind was in the gutter. It was very awkward I didn't know to do from there. Then he kind of lingered nearby and so did I. Should I keep trying? Or does he want me to leave him alone? I am not sure!!! He's so weird!!!! But hot!
gabrielly Posted May 30, 2012 Posted May 30, 2012 Write me here travelandate.com and we can discus your problem
Author BurningDream Posted May 30, 2012 Author Posted May 30, 2012 Oh well, its a mystery as to if I was rejected or not...perhaps I'll know for sure next time I see him.
WhyWontYouBe Posted May 31, 2012 Posted May 31, 2012 If you had eye contact, you smiled and he saw it, than it's lost. He can't be that dumb.
Author BurningDream Posted May 31, 2012 Author Posted May 31, 2012 You have a point there, thanks. Hey I like your avatar BTW, its it the moon/sun from Red Meat?
WhyWontYouBe Posted June 1, 2012 Posted June 1, 2012 You have a point there, thanks. Hey I like your avatar BTW, its it the moon/sun from Red Meat? Oh hon, you're such a newbie it's cute Me Gusta | Know Your Meme
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