Mr. NiceGuy Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I've been in NC with my ex for only 2 1/2 weeks. She currently has a boyfriend, but today she asked me out to lunch and apparently wanted to see me out of the blue. I replied with "Sorry not today" more than hour later. (I was thinking about it) Then then told me "It's okay I didn't want to anyways, don't be sorry" WTF is this all about? 1
zanzi Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I'd say so. I'd be very irritated to. perhaps she took offense or changed her mind ( sounds like it.) I wouldn't think on it anymore. 1
CaliBabe Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 Yes breadcrumbs and shes angry that you didn't jump at the opportunity. You did well. Id give it more time until you see her, after only 2 1/2 weeks the feels are still fresh. 1
DisGai Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I've been in NC with my ex for only 2 1/2 weeks. She currently has a boyfriend, but today she asked me out to lunch and apparently wanted to see me out of the blue. I replied with "Sorry not today" more than hour later. (I was thinking about it) Then then told me "It's okay I didn't want to anyways, don't be sorry" WTF is this all about? She was asking for attention, and she didn't get it, so she got frustrated. This girl does not deserve your attention; she can get some with her new boyfriend. I strongly advise that you stay NC. 1
Author Mr. NiceGuy Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 She was asking for attention, and she didn't get it, so she got frustrated. This girl does not deserve your attention; she can get some with her new boyfriend. I strongly advise that you stay NC. That seems to be the general consensus. I would love to see her, but I feel like I would just be going backwards in the healing process. Unfortunately as stupid as it seems, I feel like I should have given her the opportunity to swing by and now I lost my chance to work things out.
favoritepills Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 No, you did great! Stay NC, and don't settle for a girl who's willing to replace you so quickly. You deserve better. 2
DisGai Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 That seems to be the general consensus. I would love to see her, but I feel like I would just be going backwards in the healing process. Unfortunately as stupid as it seems, I feel like I should have given her the opportunity to swing by and now I lost my chance to work things out. When my EX tried contacting me over the past few weeks, I also felt like I should have taken the opportunity to just.. see what happens by responding to her. But as the days go by, I'm gradually feeling better about staying NC. You seem to be handling this very maturely, and yes, you should keep it up. Best of luck!
Chi townD Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 That seems to be the general consensus. I would love to see her, but I feel like I would just be going backwards in the healing process. Unfortunately as stupid as it seems, I feel like I should have given her the opportunity to swing by and now I lost my chance to work things out. The only thing you lost was a chance to stroke her ego. Actually, her loss. You got better things to do. GOOD ON YA!!!!
TaraMaiden Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I've been in NC with my ex for only 2 1/2 weeks. She currently has a boyfriend, but today she asked me out to lunch and apparently wanted to see me out of the blue. I replied with "Sorry not today" more than hour later. (I was thinking about it) Then then told me "It's okay I didn't want to anyways, don't be sorry" WTF is this all about? Ooooh breadcrumbs... yeah... so many you could coat a schnitzel.....
stillafool Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 I've been in NC with my ex for only 2 1/2 weeks. She currently has a boyfriend, but today she asked me out to lunch and apparently wanted to see me out of the blue. I replied with "Sorry not today" more than hour later. (I was thinking about it) Then then told me "It's okay I didn't want to anyways, don't be sorry" WTF is this all about? I wouldn't put too much hope in it as she already has a new bf after only 2 1/2 weeks. This girl just likes to play.
spicolli Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 You didn't play into her little game. She is obviously very weak minded and suffers from low self esteem. This is why she jumped into another relationship so fast, and this is why she is trying to get you to make her feel better about herself. Do nothing. Boyfriend or not this is not the last you will hear from her. Just continue to improve yourself and work towards getting over her, and her methods will inevitably fail. She shouldn't be asking to meet up with you if she is with someone. Big character flaw IMO.
Author Mr. NiceGuy Posted April 20, 2012 Author Posted April 20, 2012 We'll we broke up 6 months ago, and two weeks later she had a different boyfriend. A MUCH older one (46 years old) They broke up and she kept me around, and like an idiot I stayed. It wasn't until 2 1/2 weeks ago that she got a completely different bf, is when I called it quits and went NC. It really helped me to start putting things in a different perspective. A little update: It was DEFINITELY breadcrumbs... I made the mistake of chatting with her sister. Last thing I heard about her was, she was done with her latest bf, and is going back out with the older man, AND changed her number. I haven't heard from her since she tried to contact me. I find it strange how hearing all that made me get pretty sad. What kind of person does that..a confused one I guess? Shouldn't be my problem though I guess.
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