drew605 Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 For many reasons I've been treating this girl with kiddy gloves: 1) as I said, I am her only friend since she did not make any during her 3 years at university due to her last bf. 2) Her parents are unemployed, so her home life isn't very good. 3) I've been letting her use me to get over her last bf (at first it was all she talked about but I haven't heard a word about him in over a month). 4) I had already made a move on her before I knew anything about her but it failed. However, now that she is over her last bf and she hangs out with me almost everyday for 6+ hours a day a lot of the time, I do not know how to make the next step. My friend suggested I randomly hug her and If it doesn't work move on since shes to ****ed up, but I already made my move, is it even okay to make another? She has really become attached to me, she wants to go to my graduation with my (none of my family will be able to come), she wants to visit the place I grew up in the Caribbean, she started acting really giggly/cute, and weirdly laughing at my jokes (sometimes when they aren't even jokes...). So, I think she likes me but this might just be how she is when she isn't depressed and lonely. So what to do, I was thinking I just wait for her to make a move but that could never happen but making a move will scare her away (my gut feeling).
irin Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 dont pressure her too much, just be honest, say maybe we should try dating and see what happens, by the sounds of it, she seem like shes kinda into you! good luck:)
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 18, 2012 Posted April 18, 2012 This thread makes me laugh when I think about all those posts by women who insist men and women can easily be close, platonic friends. Ladies, this is what some of your "platonic" male friends are feeling toward you. OP, you shouldn't hug her. I'd say look for someone else. There's an active thread where guys talk about how women feel attracted to you when they see you with another woman. I'm sure you've already been approached by many other women. Why not date them instead?
Author drew605 Posted April 18, 2012 Author Posted April 18, 2012 (edited) OP, you shouldn't hug her. I'd say look for someone else. There's an active thread where guys talk about how women feel attracted to you when they see you with another woman. I'm sure you've already been approached by many other women. Why not date them instead? Just to clarify, I'm not very experienced at dating but this seems a to manipulative and roundabout. Also, I'm pretty sure if I find someone else she would just either make up an imaginary date, (she used to do that in the beginning of our relationship to seem like she was looking at other people) and going back to the jealousy games, destroying the trust and openness I build with her is just not worth it. I'm starting to think instead of a random hug...offering to hold her hand would be better since at least she would have an accepting role instead of it being forced on her. Edited April 18, 2012 by drew605
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